i fell in love with a famous person and i am getting obsessed!?

Everything started when i met that singer of a famous english band randomly. He was just looking at me and i hadn't even noticed that it was HIM! After that day he found me and sent me a message on facebook telling me that he remembered me and that i caught his attention. I was sooo excited! Anyways we were chatting quite often and one day he asked me to meet up. He was so sweet with me, he kissed me and he told me that it would be better not to go out the next day because he was about to go touring and that would be awkward for him. That meant that he really liked me and he didn't want to get hurt. I wasn't really into that band that period but i started to like their music very much. It became my favorite band. He was touring for one year, in 20 different countries but we were still talking. He seemed really interested in me. When he came back we met again and we had a very intense night. He confessed, that he really liked me and he wanted to keep going out with me but we couldn't have a serious relationship as he was always away touring. Also he said that it is not possible not because he wanted to do something with other girls but he needed to focus on his band. He said he was the only one that had so much work. He writes the lyrics, the music, everything. He wasn't able to have someone else except his music on his mind. Anyways. now i think i am obsessed. I watch his every step! I can't stand thinking that there are so many fans around him. However i know that whenever he is back home, he arranges a meeting with me. I go pretty often to his gigs as i am on his guestlist but he is not very hearty when we are in public. When we are alone he is so protective, he seems that he cares for me. I am afraid that even if i want to find someone else he won't be as good as him because he is famous as well. And that is so attractive!

Ummm... I guess if you are okay with him sleeping with other women, and you being one of these many women, then it's cool.
It's mutually consented. It's not serious. So why obsess over it?

I am not sure anyone on this forum will understand and feel what you are going through. My question to you is what do you want to happen in this relationship. I don't think you can realistically envision getting married to him. If you just want to be with him cause he his famous and he makes your heart flutter, then just know that's what it will be. You don't know how long it will last. Also note that he most likely have other women. As long as you know what you want from this, you can decide what to do.

i wanna know who it is!!!

^Yeah me too - being I'm in the UK.

Really famous English band? Could be anyone.

One thing for sure, I wouldn't take him seriously. Not if he's 'that' famous. He will have females throwing themselves at him everywhere.

If he pisses you off, then you could always do a 'kiss and tell' to the News of the World I guess.....lol

haha sorry guys i cannot say his name. It is not that popular for everyone. If someone likes music like british indie he definitely knows this band.

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Originally Posted by NLL [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

haha sorry guys i cannot say his name. It is not that popular for everyone. If someone likes music like british indie he definitely knows this band.

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can you give any hints for the people who might know? you're killing me here.

as for advice, be very cautious. like everyone else has said he probably has a bunch of girls all over the place...especially if he tours a lot. i'm not saying he doesn't like you, he probably does being that he's put all the effort to meet up with you every time he's back home, but don't take it too seriously. even if he wasn't seeing anyone else (which i doubt) he probably won't be able to give you the time and attention you need for a relationship. just take it as it is, have fun and don't expect that he isn't dating anyone else until he makes a commitment to you (which probably won't happen).

now, hints please? ;)

Please tell me that it isn't Mark E. Smith of The Fall.

i think i know who it is!!!! can i send you a pm to confirm? i don't want to post it up on here if it will make things weird...

yes you can :)

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Originally Posted by NLL [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

sorry i can't send a pm.
you are really really close..but no. I was talking exactly about that misunderstanding but it wasn'n only that band engaged in this brawl. :)

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ok, then that leaves me to guess the next person i'm pm'ing you ;)

'i wouldnt take him seriously because women are throwing themselves at him'

hahahaha

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Originally Posted by RdHrshyKss [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

ok, then that leaves me to guess the next person i'm pm'ing you ;)

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yeap .......thats it

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Originally Posted by NLL [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

yeap .......thats it

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awesome! :lol:

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Originally Posted by RdHrshyKss [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

awesome! :lol:

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so what do you think??? now you know. any advice?!

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Originally Posted by doppelgaenger [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

'i wouldnt take him seriously because women are throwing themselves at him'

hahahaha

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What's funny about that?

I was never into Indie stuff. I liked Erase Rewind by the Cardigans and that was it....

When you said 'famous' person, I was thinking along the lines of Robbie Williams, who I would say was famous.

They aren't 'that' famous and if not known by everyone IMO.

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Originally Posted by xxazurexx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

What's funny about that?

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Because it's just ridiculous. Women on here often point out on here that men are often jealous and overprotective, sometimes manipulative because they are "uncomfortable with the idea of being with an attractive, independent woman" but god forbid, they wouldn't take a man serious who women would line up to **** - making assumptions and judgments without even knowing him! See the inconsistency?

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I was never into Indie stuff. I liked Erase Rewind by the Cardigans and that was it....

When you said 'famous' person, I was thinking along the lines of Robbie Williams, who I would say was famous.

They aren't 'that' famous and if not known by everyone IMO.

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I said english band...i wouldn't say that robbie williams is in a band...

wow i'm so upset. i typed up a pretty damn good response and it just completely vanished. here is my attempt at rewriting what i wrote *sigh*...

from what i've read about him and seen of him, i think he takes his music very seriously. and i have a lot of respect for him being blatantly honest with you from the beginning. you might be one part of his life that he wants to keep separate from all the fame and publicity and have just for himself (possibly the reason he doesn't show much affection for you in public...he wants to keep you private so that feeling doesn't spoil). is he seeing other girls? maybe, maybe not. but he was pretty straight forward with you about not being able to commit, so seeing other girls is fair game. and you should realize that seeing other guys is fair game for you too.

and i know how on top of the world you must feel. i'd feel the same way, anyone would. it's one of the most popular fantasies to be in a relationship with someone famous, and it's even harder for you because a part of that fantasy came true...he's interested in you! but the best advice i can give (even though i don't think anyone can really relate to what you are going through) is to stay grounded. remember who you are, that you are a person with needs who has their own life. your life should not revolve around him. you've already become infatuated with him to the point of allowing your mind to go in these jealous frenzies when thinking about all the other girls who are showering their affections on him. it's hard, i know...but the best thing you can do is try to overcome those instincts and be realistic.

he is a musician in a band that is making lots of ground right now, and might even get bigger. he's currently on tour and will be for awhile. music is his #1 priority and will probably be for the rest of his life. i think you (1) being sure of yourself, (2) staying grounded, and (3) not allowing his interest to prevent you from going out and trying to find what makes you happy, will be the best possible approach for you going forward. it will make things a whole lot easier on both of you and will most likely lead to him developing a shit ton of respect for you as a person. he can't commit to you, so there is no reason for you to commit to him. i'm not saying don't see him, just be rational...know and reiterate to yourself often that it is what it is and it won't be anything else unless he is willing to take the next step. and don't allow your fantasies and infatuation to dictate what you do going forward. try to separate that as much as possible. go out and continue meeting people. if you are the type of person who needs attention, reassurance and to be on the top of your significant other's list of priorities, then he probably won't be the right guy for you. i would think that the type of person who would have any chance of building a healthy relationship with someone like this, is someone who is confident, independent and who is not demanding.

why do you think most actors/musicians end up becoming involved with other actors/musicians? yeah some do it strictly for publicity and to boost their fame...but others do it just because they are the only people who can truly understand/appreciate the demands of their profession. the "normal" people in these relationships almost always end up feeling neglected/overshadowed by the "famous" person.

really think hard. is this the type of life you'd be OK with? having the benefit of being with someone famous, getting that boost in social status that hardly anyone can experience, but at the expense of long periods of separation, knowing that plenty of other women are showering him with attention wherever he goes and having to have complete trust in him to not act on that attention? it's REALLY hard. and honestly, these things aren't even relevant because he doesn't feel comfortable committing to you. maybe he doesn't want to hurt you, maybe he's afraid of starting something and it ending in failure...we don't know. i'm just suggesting you think about the hypothetical situations that would come into play IF he were to become interested in making that next step.

i think you really need to think long and hard about what's realistic. the kind of relationship you've always dreamed of having and if he could ever fulfill that for you. but for now, just stay grounded. don't expect anything, don't anticipate anything...just have fun. and don't limit yourself. keep putting yourself out there, don't sit around waiting for him, because he sure as hell isn't doing that for you. when he's away, you are probably very far from his mind...he's concentrating on music, as he should be if he wants to be taken seriously. don't overextend yourself here. and i'm not trying to squash your hopes, because i don't know him...he could be an amazing guy who is trying to be as realistic as possible and who could eventually end up trusting you and himself enough to give it a go, but if that were to happen, just know that you will be making LOTS of sacrifices. there would be lots of demands on you, on trusting him, on trusting his character and all the wrenches that will be thrown your way because of his fame.

but again, don't forget about yourself...don't let yourself get too carried away because it will only result in pain. concentrate on you and make him only one small aspect of your life. you are just one small aspect of his. is there the potential for you guys to become something more, most definitely...but only if you stay grounded and realistic. i think that's the make or break in this kind of situation.

i know i can't really relate to what you are going through at all, but i tried. i hope you can take something from my advice.
good luck! and feel free to send me little updates every now and then ;)

So are we talking about one of the Massive Attack guys or something?

No, they're almost as old as Mark E. Smith.

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I said english band...i wouldn't say that robbie williams is in a band...

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Actually he is, now.

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I said english band...i wouldn't say that robbie williams is in a band...

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He was in Take That and is back in Take That since rejoining...

And Take That are a very English band.

But if you want to split hairs, ok then I expected someone like Liam Gallagher....Oasis for the record.

If he aint on the same par as these guys and well known by everyone, then he's a relative nobody.....except among those who like the Indie genre.

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Originally Posted by qwerty123 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Actually he is, now.

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And he was in the nineties too....:)

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Originally Posted by doppelgaenger [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Because it's just ridiculous. Women on here often point out on here that men are often jealous and overprotective, sometimes manipulative because they are "uncomfortable with the idea of being with an attractive, independent woman" but god forbid, they wouldn't take a man serious who women would line up to **** - making assumptions and judgments without even knowing him! See the inconsistency?

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Uhm, no I don't. Am unsure what you mean.

Whether it's a man or woman who is sought after, one is taking a risk and in being able to trust that person.

Anyway, who said he was good looking - he could be a dog ugly kinda famous star like Wayne Rooney. His money may be what attracts and some females will bed anything and to get a taste of fame and get rich quick from 'kiss and tell' stories.

No offence to you OP btw....I'm not assuming you are that type of woman.

THANK YOU very much RdHrshyKss. That really helped. I just wanted to talk to someone that can imagine how i feel.
thanks

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Originally Posted by NLL [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

THANK YOU very much RdHrshyKss. That really helped. I just wanted to talk to someone that can imagine how i feel.
thanks

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