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Hi,
I'm 24 yo and the girl I just started dating is 22 yo.
We know each other a lot of time, but only now we're trying to have a relationship between us.
The thing is that we got nothing in common.
Yet, she's the only girl I've even been in love with.
Tomorrow we set to spend time in nature, and I'm afraid that we won't have anything to talk about.
What do you think about it?
Thanks.
how are you already in love with her if you only just started dating and aren't sure if you are gonna have anything in common? sounds like you have to get to know each other better and spend more time together until you know if you're truly in love with her
No you havn't just met her....you met her months ago and were on here in regards to her and this problem a-g-e-s ago!!!!
Soit can't be 'that' BIG of a problem if you are still with her.
We don't all come and go you know....some of us stick around and remember stories :)
And if this IS a new girl in your life....you don't have much luck finding females you DO have anything in common with, do you?
hahaha,
XX, it's not the same girl.
The other girl was my girlfriend at the time.
Anyways, I hope we'll have a good time tomorrow.
Frankly... I doubt it'll last. I've never been in a relationship that had any longevity with somebody that I had little in common with.
My wife and I are like two peas in a pod. I've actually made a list about the weird similarities we have. We're not TOTALLY in synch, not even on major issues - I'm an atheist and she's not, but with nothing in common, what will you talk about? What will you do together? How long will you pretend you're interested in what she has to say about a subject you've got no interest in? When the honeymoon sex wears off, where will you be? Something to think about.
It works because it's new, it won't last long though you'll need to like and agree on the same things.
OK. So if it didn't work with the last girl who you had nothing in common with, why bother with a new girl you appear to have nothing in common with?Quote:
Originally Posted by Boy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
strategic differences can make relationships fun, interesting, and exciting. poorly placed differences can result in disaster. its important to agree on fundamental things. for instance i am very active - my ideal first date is a 1 mile ocean swim and a 6 mile run. i cant imagine being with a girl who would rather go to the movies and eat a bucket of candy.
^^Yeah Emerald Green liked to run too ...funny that, lmao
Thanks guys for your sincere comments.
First off, not all of us like the treats at the movie theaters. And second.....isn't the whole point of a first date is to get to know each other, spend time with one another? How can you get to know someone when you're sweating, and can't breathe properly because your head is under water?Quote:
Originally Posted by QuietProfession [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
OP. I think you're just swept up in the newness of it all. I don't think you're in love with her per se. Differences can be good (who seriously wants to be in a relationship with themselves? I mean really) but having absolutely NOTHING in common? Dude, you gotta have something to talk about with the girl! Unless you're just looking for a physical relationship, it isn't going to work.
You dont really need to have anything in common... you both can take turns showing each other what you each are individually interested and maybe just maybe she will pick one of your hobbies or interests but perhaps you will find one of her hobbies a delight
in my opinion, nothing in common is the main reason that attract both in love with each other :)
my advice is don't try too hard to find topic, once you are in relax everything comes naturally
Hi mates.
Thanks again for your share.
We met today, spent some time in the park.
It was nice.
It wasn't like we were having the best time of our lives but I enjoyed being with her.
I don't know how she feels about all that.
What I like about her is that she's smart, beautiful, very different than other people.
I hope she has feelings for me, I can't tell.
It's hard for me to talk over the phone with girls, and as I work and study it's hard for me to meet her during the week.
I don't know how I can have a relationship that way.
You love her but hardly know her - good luck because it won't last. You did say you were 24? Or was it 14? Get a grip
I don't love her, I'm in love with her.
To love someone you need to spend time with her, more than just a few dates.
As I said, I know her a lot of time (2 years) but it never got serious.
Yes, I'm 24.
Possibly you're not in love either...rather in lust...time will tell...
You'll probably get bored after you get in her pants...sorry...
Sorry, but you can't know many people.Quote:
What I like about her is that she's smart, beautiful, very different than other people...
Sounds like a bad case of lust....and it won't last because 'lust' doesn't last forever. There needs to be 'more' and for a relationship to make it to the next level and last the long haul.
Personally and I'm not being funny, but your last relationship failed and because you had 'nothing' in common....yet you jumped in with another girl you have nothing in common with???
Not the brightest spark on the planet are you?
Wow I googled 'we have nothing in common but I love him' and came across this thread. I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. We actually have nothing in common. I'm studying law and politics, he's studying sport and exercise science. He is very fit, enjoys working out and everything, I have to force myself to do it. Even foodwise, we do not really like the same foods. But I love him more than any person in the world, and he loves me too.
I think there are qualities that we admire about each other that go beyond having common interests. I think if you really love somebody, you love them because of their personal qualities and attributes, not because of what they study or work at or do or are interested in. I think that's why we are able to stay together.
You don't have to have anything in common with her, as far as interests go. I've dated chicks who I've shared very little interests with. Like I'll be all about knitting, vacuuming, doing dishes, talking about feelings and all she wants to talk about is sports. It is frustrating, but you just have to listen to each other and try the best you can. (Before I get any hate-filled responses, I am obviously being very sarcastic). In seriousness though, you learn new things from her, she learns new things from you, you find shit that you both enjoy, and voila! Suddenly you have shit in common.
Hey, i had to give my opinion which is quite different from the overall tendancy.
I once had a boyfriend for more than a year... We didn't have so much in common, or so it seemed: i spent a great deal of my time listening to music, going to festivals and gigs, and he wasn't that much into it, he only had a couple of bands that he liked and full stop. He wasn't the kind of guy who was willing to broaden his musical knowledge and i was! Furthermore, I had travelled quite a lot, and still had a burning desire to learn more, to see more and to meet people whereas he had been living in the same town since he was born...
At the beginning i thought to myself we were so different that couldn't work...
And in the end of the day, i was wrong! We would spend nights having endless talks about petty or serious things. He was smart, interested in what i had to say, and i was fascinated by his scientific knowledge. Plus we had an obvious sexual chemistry, and all that made for the initial differences.
And guess what, he's one of the 2 guys i've really loved...
So when you say you have nothing in common, it doesn't necessarily mean you won't have anything to share.
Take it easy, don't rack your brain even before you get chances to see what comes out of this.