Masturbating while your girlfriend is asleep?

Okay so guys....I was wondering what you think!

My bf and I have sex often (4-5 times a week, sometimes alot more). He has said before that I am not as aggressive or passionate as he wishes. I think I am pretty passionate, maybe not as aggressive because I have been used to something else. I never hesitate to have sex or give him oral. I enjoy it and have never seen any problem in that department---until he brought that up.

ANYWAY here is my question. Do you guys still masturbate even if your girl is around? My boyfriend wakes up some mornings before work and jacks off to redtube or some other porn online while im asleep and sometimes just when im in the other room and he goes to take a shower. I mean he doesnt hesitate to wake up in the middle of the night to have sex with me, why wouldnt he just wake me up in the morning? Or come and get me when he wanted some? I understand masturbating is different and neccessary and I do not care that he does it, im just wondering if he thinks its too much of a hassle with me or he is bored?????? I mean I masturbate more than any other girl I know but not when my bf is around bc if i was horny i would just go to him.

Am I too paranoid? Is this normal behavior for a guy who is happy in his relationship sexually?

I've never had a girlfriend who was interested in having sex at least 4-5 times a week. So there have been occasions in the past when I masturbated while my girlfriend was asleep. Generally, that only happened when I tried to wake her up for sex and got shot down, or otherwise knew that she wouldn't be interested, due to illness or a recent argument or something like that. Your guy sounds like he is out of control.

Wow. I really didnt think that was so much, I used to have sex with my ex everyday sometimes twice a day, even after being together for a year. I think the only reason my current bf and I don't is bc he has kids and works very early in the morning.But if he can take the time to do it himself why not do it with me since he knows im not gonna say no? So what gives?

Because sometimes we just wanna blow our load and go. No foreplay is needed, very little effort is required, it's selfish and that's the beauty of it, you don't have to think about anyone else!
As long as it doesn't affect your sex life with him, i wouldn't worry at all.

Thanks that's what I thought. I totally understand.

Still, it's odd that your guy is getting so much sex and also masturbating frequently. Comedian Dennis Leary once said something like, "In the '70s, nobody had time to masturbate. We were all too busy having sex."

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Originally Posted by VincenzoG91 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Still, it's odd that your guy is getting so much sex and also masturbating frequently. Comedian Dennis Leary once said something like, "In the '70s, nobody had time to masturbate. We were all too busy having sex."

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Depends on your sex drive, doesn't matter how on tap sex is, it's good to just jack off anyway :D

I think something is a bit odd if I'm honest. To me, that is a lot of sex. I find when me and my girlfriend are having sex about three times a week (which isn't often it probably averages at out to about once a week) I don't really have the urge for anything else. That's not to say I wouldn't enjoy more (I would kill for a girlfriend that was a sexual as you) but for me three times a week would be the perfect number.

TBH if my gf was like you, I think I would hardly find the need to masturbate and I think you would be hard-pressed to find another man that would still be interested in masturbating frequently if he was having sex at a minimum of 4 times a week plus oral.

If anything I would say it was a bit of a compulsion for him. I don't wont to sound overly dramatic but compulsive behaviours can sometimes be indicative of emotional problems, maybe you should talk to him if you agree.

You know I am having a very similar problem, and truthfully it hurts my feelings that I am there, ready willing and able... and he takes care of himself... I don't need foreplay and he wakes me up all the time... I don't think he should be leaving our bed to go jack off to porn when I am available to him. Especially when he knows just feeling him ejaculate on me feeling him touch himself, makes me get off. I think if he has time to get off to porn then he should have time to use my body for that.

lol I can't believe what I'm hearing!? What world I am living in where people would use their own hand over a willing woman!? Will the two of you be my girlfriends? =P

Looq you made me laugh :)

Happy to be of service. :)

Ahh, my ex insisted that I wake her whenEVER I was ready, but I also agree, sometimes, it's really nice and easy to just bust a nut and keep it moving.

I'm wondering why you should do that. But I think it not a big issue because can't affect your relationship with your girlfriend, so you don't need to worry.

Well funny thing is my last boyfriend did the same thing. I caught him with a synthetic vagina lol and a magazine. It's just kind of a turn off. Do it when your girl is not likely to walk in the room and catch you with your pants down. I started to think, well maybe there is something wrong with me because both these guys are doing it but then I thought no Im pretty f-in awesome. I never deny him and im hot too. So then I thought maybe its just something guys do, that's why I came here to ask but now I am confused. Maybe it is a compulsion, maybe I attract these types? My guy does have emotional problems, like he really doesnt like emotion from me or expressing it himself. Maybe it comes down to wether I can live with it or not. Maybe it comes down to some guys do and some guys don't and if I can't live with it I gotta get the guy who doesnt? Like Looq? Course you want two girlfriends and thats sorta another problem im having with my bf which I will be posting here as well ;) Holy rusted metal batman, what am I gonna do? I don't really wanna talk about it with him because we have had so many problems since we moved in together and things are finally getting better and I would rather not drop another bomb just yet. We still have great sex often and its not really getting in the way of that so its ok and im not as irritated by it as I was with my ex but I just kinda hate that I know it's happening in another room when Im there. :(

Sounds to me like he's a bit of a sex addict considering the fact that he needs to jack off on top of how much sex you guys have already. But hey - nothing wrong with that as long as he's a functional human being and jacking off is not the only thing he does.

And like many posters above me have commented, masturbation requires a lot less effort and he can be done pretty quick. That's probably why he doesn't come get you every time.

I've been in a similar situation. It makes you feel like ass. Sometimes almost makes you feel replaced. In my situation my ex started out the way your man is, in the end, I was totally being replaced. I never had a problem with him waking me up, and believe me, things were never boring. He told me that it was a hobbie for him, and that it was the view that he liked... I'm not saying this will happen to you, but watch out.

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Originally Posted by whatthis [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

And like many posters above me have commented, masturbation requires a lot less effort and he can be done pretty quick. That's probably why he doesn't come get you every time.

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That's what quickies are for.

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Originally Posted by Confused1986 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I've been in a similar situation. It makes you feel like ass. Sometimes almost makes you feel replaced. In my situation my ex started out the way your man is, in the end, I was totally being replaced. I never had a problem with him waking me up, and believe me, things were never boring. He told me that it was a hobbie for him, and that it was the view that he liked... I'm not saying this will happen to you, but watch out.

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This is ridiculous. I am genuinely speechless. I know I'm young and therefore have an particularly active libido, but come on, there's plenty of time to masturbate when your single.

This is something i used to wonder with my ex all the time!!! Why did he feel the need to masterbate.. all the time. And we were having sex *at least* once or twice a day.. Everyday wthout fail.
Could that have been sex addiction? He usually used to wake me up in the morning for a quickie before work.. Which i didnt mind.
But then one day he told me he sometimes used to masterbate while i was asleep, and told me once he even blew a load.. in my face as i was sleeping :tough: What the hell is that all about.
I totally remember waking up too feeling like my face was stuck.. Funny, but not so funny when i heard he had done that. lol

Man, I almost find that weird. Personally, I would never go jack off if I had a willing girlfriend.. then again I don't find porn that interesting. Can't you ask him why he sometimes prefers to jack off when you are available to him?

The only reason I would be jacking would be if my girlfriend hardly gave me any sex.

Lol, jaden.. don't you find that a bit disrespectful, blowing his load in your face while sleeping..?

Thats hilarious, did he take a pic?!

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Originally Posted by JadenMia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

This is something i used to wonder with my ex all the time!!! Why did he feel the need to masterbate.. all the time. And we were having sex *at least* once or twice a day.. Everyday wthout fail.
Could that have been sex addiction? He usually used to wake me up in the morning for a quickie before work.. Which i didnt mind.
But then one day he told me he sometimes used to masterbate while i was asleep, and told me once he even blew a load.. in my face as i was sleeping :tough: What the hell is that all about.
I totally remember waking up too feeling like my face was stuck.. Funny, but not so funny when i heard he had done that. lol

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Oh. My. God. On soooo many levels.

First that is a hell of a lot of sex, if he still finds the need to masturbate, then there is something wrong with him. Second, next to you!? Doing it while you're asleep is one thing, if he's leaving to go to the bathroom or downstairs, but in the bed next to you. That's just wrong. And what he did to your face is especially wrong (if hilarious), even if it was an accident.

Do you think you girls could get together and train my girlfriend to be sexual as you? In return I'll train your guys to appreciate what they have! /jealous

Yeah we were always that way ever since we started having sex.. Our sex life was amazing and i didnt think it was actually considered abnormal to have sex that much until i spoke to friends and stuff.. They were all like 'WOW.. that is alot of sex.' lol.. It was like that right up until we broke up after nearly 2 years..
And yes, i found it incredibly insulting and disrespectful. Hence why he is my ex :)
I had a little laugh out of the fact he actually did that.. More out of disbelief than anything, i couldnt actually believe he did that. It was a few days afterward he actually came clean about it. Because i woke up complaining my face felt weird and he was smirking and followed me to the kitchen when i went to go get a drink.. Like.. WTF was he thinking.
When we were together, my sex drive was so high.. I dont know what it was about him. And he claimed he jacked off even though we had sex that much as it helped him last longer when we did have sex. Which was kind of believable because on the days he didnt get off, he would come in a matter of seconds.. lol
He also claimed he even fondled me while i slept and stuff.. Like.. I just dont know, he was mind boggling. Like i didnt give him enough cheeezus.

Could someone ban this guy he is trying to spread a virus ^.

This would totally piss me off with my current bf..he's a once or twice a week kinda guy :( so if he was jerking himself off i would be annoyed he didnt wake me up. Though i dont have a problem with a guy getting himself off(so long as im already satisfied and its not instead of sex) if im asleep...i like my sleep :P

Ive asked my bf this before and what he said is when he jerks off, he wipes up with a napkin or tp and continues doing whatever, but when I'm done with him he usually has to get in the shower, because I get him all wet and sticky. So basically he jerks off when he is feeling too lazy to shower off ;P

theres other reasons though which are the same why I masturbate when he's home, such as it feels different and our fetishes can be easily satisfied with porn whereas gf's and bf's arent always 100% up to satisfying fetishes.

Well I asked my bf, why he went and looked at porn when I was there so willing... He said he was just trying to distract himself... from heartburn... He never jacked off though*roll eyes here* Never even got hard. I had no idea that there was a point to look at porn just to look at porn. I feel like he is talking in circles. Like there is something that I am missing... As for the masturbating on you while you are sleeping I find myself having to put forth my opinion, I love it when my bf has sex with me while I am sleeping, I love waking up to him touching licking well you get the point. I do like him playing with himself beside me, cumming on my face? no maybe not so much, but on my ass, using my hand, on my stomach... I find it very erotic... I love being his muse... Hate when I am not...

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Well I asked my bf, why he went and looked at porn when I was there so willing... He said he was just trying to distract himself... from heartburn... He never jacked off though*roll eyes here* Never even got hard. I had no idea that there was a point to look at porn just to look at porn.

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I have never really gave a thought to watching porn without masturbating. Who does that? :/ Ive talked to guys I knew in high school and they have chilled watching porn together. WTF?!