Well this is interesting....
As my title says, this really isnt that interesting, its just my current situation, which is definitely interesting to me because i've never had this happen before.
I was dating this girl for almost 3 months, both of us are studying at uni, and both of us are pretty busy with our lives, although I do alot more 'things' i.e. activities in college/jobs/etc. she has more focus in her certain activities and studies.
This issue started when I didnt see her for about a week and I was getting a bit anxious and called her to see if I could drop by her house and say hi, even if its for a few minutes. (she commutes, but its about a 20 min drive, from school to her place) and well it turns out that she was busy that day and I was like oh okay, thats fine, and tried to make plans later on in the week, which all of which she said she was busy doing. At that time, I somewhat asked her why she was busy all of a sudden. I came into summer break thinking we would hang out more often but it actually turned out the opposite! We would hang out all the time during the school quarter. Her reply to why we weren't hanging out as much was that she likes to spend time with her family during summer, which I totally understand and I let her know that. Basically more talking lead to somehow me saying that I always give it my all in a relationship and that I was pretty serious about ours. Which lead to her telling me that she wasnt able to see me everyday, which in response I said that thats totally understandable and I only need like maybe twice a week (I dont think thats much at all... its my threshold of time needed to make me happy) and blah blah, and alot of what I said, she would say Oh I feel bad. Mainly because I guess she hasent been putting in her all.
Basically what happened in this conversation was that I found out that she wasn't really serious about us and that I was. And also that all I wanted was just 2 days of her week where i got to see her. At the end of the convo, I asked her if she would work on this with me. She said Okay.
Later that night, I got a ****ing 5 msg long text from her saying that she isnt taking us as seriously as I am and that she 'has to stay true to herself' also that she was taking the cowards way out because I 'treated her so nicely' (alot of her previous ex's were jerks later on in their realtionships.)
So honestly,
1. I'm dissapointed that she didnt even want to try and work with me and make a middle ground that I was trying to get to.
2. Breakup over text? wtf, I thought we were past middle school.
Now I'm faced with a dilemma, shes always told me that she hates how she cant maintain communication with her ex's afterwards. Mainly because her ex's dont want to.
In the giant text, she told me that she hopes to still be friends,
Honestly, I have nothing against being friends with this girl. All my other relationships have ended terribly and I dont want to be friends with any of them, but this one, ended fairly calmly, we didnt fight or anything, it was basically that she couldnt give me what I wanted and her not wanting to hurt me, (she knows I get anxious about realationship stuff)
Should I be friends with her? I still think shes an amazing person and I look up to her and how she is, but should I leave the 'friends' thing open? meaning that I still kinda flirt and etc so the possibility of getting back together is still there? I'm sure she still has feelings for me.
Ugh, help me out guys, I'm not like having a panic attack beacuse I'm pretty good with breakups, but I want to know what I should do for the future. I still like her and i know that she still likes me, I guess shes just not ready to be serious right now.
