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I'm dating this guy a few months. We got to dinner one night and somehow marriage comes up as general conversation. He says "I don't believe in it. No b i t c h gonna get my $$$."
Ladies, how would you have responded? I could understand a guy saying I don't believe in joint accounts, but no b i t c h gonna get my $$$???!!!
Guys, what do you make of that?
Well, i really hope he was joking about that. I assume he probably was. From the "I don't believe in it" remark, thats not surprising. My bf gave me the same speel that he was not the marrying type and not ready for marriage. Its a commitment thing.
Perhaps he feels that you were leaning towards taking the relationship to a higher level therefore, he chose to disrespect you by making such an asperous comment (while in the process, letting you know his views on the marriage at this point in his life.)
Men tend to "act out" when they feel they're being cornered.
immature.
raverboy
>>>>Well, i really hope he was joking about that.
No, he wasn't joking. One day he said in a forum post about marriage that if people want to be together, they should just be together and not get married. And one time he woke up from a dream in the middle of the night and told me it was about a women coming on to him who had a mansion so he knew she wasn't after his $ :roll eyes: He also played me a little cartoon skit about a guy who kept getting rejected by women he asked out until he finally just goes up to one and says "I have $" and the woman responds with "I love you!"
He made about 100K/year. He listed it on his online dating profile. If he's so afraid women are golddiggers why post it??? He accussed me of being a golddigger which is pretty funny and sucked seeing as I almost always split the tab with my dates and have never felt a man has to be the bread winner.
tell him that bitches don't cum for free,lol
That'd be the witty thing to say. I like it.Quote:
Originally Posted by chelsee
It sounds like you're dealing with an inmature BOY. If marriage is something you see in your future, you might want to find a man who sees it in his future too. The guy is sending you "red flags."
I also agree with CHELs post. lol...... too cute.
Any guy that refers to women as *****(s) just really ticks me off, and I really hope that a women walks way from that jackass after such a thing.
That is really low. If some guys still act and talk that way, they have no standards going any direction. This guy must of been either extremely nervous, stupid, or mental to say such words like those. Hum..I don't know this guy in the male league.
I saw that cartoon...I thought it was pretty funny; however, that is only a stereotype that people tend to apply to all women. I do not think his response was appropriate. And to sum it all up, it's already been said before...immature!
Yeah... I also just remembered that after staying over his place one night the next morning he looked out the window at the visitor parking area and said "Yup.. all the whores are here". I said "Why would you say that?" He said "I'm just joking. You'd think it was funny if you took it the right way"
Yeah... a real charmer.
Thanks for your comments everyone. Really nice to know I might not have been crazy after all.
I think the craziest thing to do is to stay with this A$$hole. Leave this idiot, because you do not need it.
You kinda wasted your opportunity because it would have been best to confront him about this RIGHT after he said it. If you say something now it'll show that it's been brooding in your thoughts for a while. Which is not a great sign (assuming that you haven't been together that long and haven't had an serious 'where is this going' talks). You should have responded RIGHT after hearing it, "What the hell does that mean?" (not in a mean way, but with a smile and laugh as though you didn't care and was just going with the conversation).
At this point, I'd assume he was somewhat joking and continue going on in the relationship. It's still too early to really get into that conversation (in my opinion), but when the topic of "where is this going" or "how serious is this" does eventually come up in it's due course, mention it. In the meantime, enjoy the relationship.
Alexi
sometimes its just an expression, i think he doesnt mean that.
Expression is a verb, and verb is something you do! (yes that damn commercial haha)
Anyhoo, he met it...and even if he didn't, you still don't say that to or about a lady unless she really is one. (ruins peoples lives, or don't care about anything, etc, etc)
If i was a chick i would leave the dipshit. If he thinks like that he isnt going to get better unless someone wacks him on the head. Best luck with the next guy
What really pisses me off is that chumps like this still pull ass with a fine young lady, while other guys out there are more than willing to not treat you like shit.
"I can't see you every night for freeeeeeeee..."
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Originally Posted by Cybog
your right but girls like to be mistreated... go figure
That dude that told you no ***** gonna get his loot,...that's just straight up immature, not worth anybody's time.
Well, I can see where he's coming from. I have a good friend who invests very wisely and whose goal is to become rich. He's well on his way and should be making about triple digits in a few years (at the age of 28 or so). And he said that he would NOT marry someone without a prenup. His reason? "I work too hard for my money and I don't think it's fair that if I marry smoeone, and SHE screws up the relationship by cheating or something, that SHE should be entitled to half of it."Quote:
Originally Posted by uptownboy
The one thing I think he SHOULD have done was use a better choice of words.
Alexi