Is it even worth the time to pursue her?

I think I know what you're all going to tell me, but you always give me great advice so I thought I see what you guys have to say.

Last weekend my friend and I went over to this girls house that he I guess he is dealing with. She had a couple of girlfriends over, and it was the first time meeting the three of them for me. My friend and the girl went off to go do their own thing, and went on to do their own thing, leaving me with her two friends. A good couple drinks and conversations later, me and one of her friends go for a walk. In which we hook up. But get this she came on to me.

So, next day I was at home, added her on Facebook. And a week later never have said anything yet. I was waiting for her to make the first move, since I thought she was interested since she made the first move.

Anyways, long story short. This weekend the same people, me and my friend and them three. Went out for sushi. We got there before hand. And one of my friends were sitting in fronting me, he asked to switched with the girl I hooked up with but she was hesitant in doing so. I dont think the whole time we were there she said a word to me, not even hello. Better yet I dont think she made eye contact.

After I found out from my friend that she "feels like a slut" for hooking up with me..

So what do you think I should go with this chick? Should I take the time to talk to her or do you think it was just a drunken one night hook up?

And sorry if it dosnt make sense, had to do it fast, got to be at work in 10 mins.

Thanks for the help everyone!

Dude, if you like her, talk to her. There is no reason to wait for her to talk to you first.

It might have been a random drunken hookup, but there is no reason it has to be that way unless you both want it to be that way. At least let her know that you like her and were trying to let her lead the conversation out of respect for her. That should help her not feel like a slut.

I woudnt say I "like" her more so I would be interested in getting to know her more. If you know what I'm saying.

The vide I got from that dinner was that it was more on the drunken hook up side and noting more. Her friends did tell after last weekend that she's docent do that type of stuff.

How would I start the convo though is what I'm nervous about. I don't want to come of too hard or too soft.

You should've contacted her the day after you hooked up. She wouldn't have felt so much of a slut if you had. Why did you expect her to contact you, especially since she had made the first move the night before, I don't get it.

I know I should of contacted her the day after. I was thinking the same thing. I just get nervous in the types if situations and don't know what to say. My mistake.

What should I do next?

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Originally Posted by chailli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

What should I do next?

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Call her, jackass.

I dont have her number, can only contact her on Facebook.

I think the girl you hooked up with is too insecure to be in a relationship. She "feels like a slut" just for going on a walk with you? What is she, 12 years old?? Talk about issues. I think you can do better.

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Originally Posted by bulrush [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I think the girl you hooked up with is too insecure to be in a relationship. She "feels like a slut" just for going on a walk with you? What is she, 12 years old?? Talk about issues. I think you can do better.

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You should go back and read it again.

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Originally Posted by chailli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I think I know what you're all going to tell me, but you always give me great advice so I thought I see what you guys have to say.

Last weekend my friend and I went over to this girls house that he I guess he is dealing with. She had a couple of girlfriends over, and it was the first time meeting the three of them for me. My friend and the girl went off to go do their own thing, and went on to do their own thing, leaving me with her two friends. A good couple drinks and conversations later, me and one of her friends go for a walk. In which we hook up. But get this she came on to me.

So, next day I was at home, added her on Facebook. And a week later never have said anything yet. I was waiting for her to make the first move, since I thought she was interested since she made the first move.

Anyways, long story short. This weekend the same people, me and my friend and them three. Went out for sushi. We got there before hand. And one of my friends were sitting in fronting me, he asked to switched with the girl I hooked up with but she was hesitant in doing so. I dont think the whole time we were there she said a word to me, not even hello. Better yet I dont think she made eye contact.

After I found out from my friend that she "feels like a slut" for hooking up with me..

So what do you think I should go with this chick? Should I take the time to talk to her or do you think it was just a drunken one night hook up?

And sorry if it dosnt make sense, had to do it fast, got to be at work in 10 mins.

Thanks for the help everyone!

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You fk her and then in essence you chucked her. You didn't call her, you didn't email her, you didn't phone or text her or send a note via carrier pidgeon. Why would you do that after having sex with her? If you want to be with her or have a relationship with her then why wouldn't you have called her and set up a date or something?

If you want to be with her then call her and apologize for being missing in action. However: If you don't want to be with her then just leave her alone and don't play with her. (or allow her to play with you for that matter). Learn from this and don't be so callous to woman that you are interested in. It wasn't like you'd never see this girl again.. you didn't pick up a stranger in a bar who was also a stranger to everyone you know.. Do you see?

Yes, I do see what your saying.

I could see her as a girlfriend, but I'd want to get to know her better. Which would means I'd have to strike up a convo with her. I just don't know how I would start it, that's the point I'm getting at.

I will probally see her again since see is my friend girl who he's dealing with best freinds. So, I could wait for that since it's been over a week since we hooked up, and see where that goes...?

But to answer the title of the thread, given everything I've told you guys. Do you really think I should pursue anything with this girl, or don't even bother?

Also one more thing I should add to the opening post...

When we went out for sushi, and the end she gave my freind and my other friend both hugs but not me. Giving that they both went to her and I stayed more back, but it was like she was ingoring me the whole time or something.

Also, I remember while we were hooking up she was saying "I don't even know you" and " I don't do this." Even when I went for a kiss in front of her friends she would kind of reject it, but when we were alone she was all for it. And she came on to me. Weird.

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Originally Posted by chailli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Also one more thing I should add to the opening post...

When we went out for sushi, and the end she gave my freind and my other friend both hugs but not me. Giving that they both went to her and I stayed more back, but it was like she was ingoring me the whole time or something.

Also, I remember while we were hooking up she was saying "I don't even know you" and " I don't do this." Even when I went for a kiss in front of her friends she would kind of reject it, but when we were alone she was all for it. And she came on to me. Weird.

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She was pissed at you. Just send her a message on Facebook, or chat there and apologize. If you explain that it was a misunderstanding, she will, perhaps, begin the process of forgiving you lol.

I don't understand how she could be pissed at me. I mean that's the second time I've seen her, and the first time went pretty good I think. Lol

Omg you just don't understand. CONTACT HER if you want to make things right, even if you only want to get to know her better. What are you waiting for?! Of course she's pissed at you - you had sex and then you basically vanished after that, how do you think it made her feel?! Jeez it's not that hard. You're interested in her - get in touch, set up a date, apologize for not calling/writing earlier. You are not that interested in her - leave her alone and go on with your life. It's simple really!!

Are you an ugly, dumb and mentally challenged guy weighing 350 pounds?

If not, then MAN UP.

Stop being such a bitch, call her if you are interested in her. When in her company, talk to her, make her laugh, don't stay in the back. How are you supposed to win her over without doing ANYTHING??

Cmon man, get your act together.

She's obviously attracted to you, but if you act like this you'll both end up feeling stupid.

How should I start the convo though?

Now your just playing stupid

Other than the usual hey, hows it going, what should i say?

Something like "we should get together again".

Seriously i'm not good with this kind of stuff...

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Originally Posted by chailli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Other than the usual hey, hows it going, what should i say?

Something like "we should get together again".

Seriously i'm not good with this kind of stuff...

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"Hey, i apologise for not calling/messaging you after the other night, i didnt know whether i was just a one night stand or if you were interested in me. I had a good night with you though, we should get together again sometime!"

There ya go. Just message her.. stop being such a pansy.

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Originally Posted by chailli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I I just get nervous in the types if situations and don't know what to say. My mistake.

What should I do next?

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1. Call her (or email her)

2. Tell her what you just said.

"Hooking up" means different things to different people. What exactly did you two do that first night you were walking alone?

We didn't have sex.

We went on a walk like mentioned, then found a bench. She was sitting on top of me and we were making out, and that sort of stuff (feeling up, kissing the neck...)

We were there for about 30 mins I would say.

After we stayed the night there, and she pulled me to down to sleep beside her. She woudnt kiss me which I found awkward, but like I said before her friends were around... At that point we cuddled, and she gave me a handjob, and she made me finger her above her pants.

Yeah. And you didn't call her the day after that. Nor will you contact her now. And you don't get why she's pissed at you. Are you a troll?

I woudnt say she is pissed, but I do get what your saying...

Should I still contact her or do you think it's too late?

And I'm not a troll lol, just not very skilled in these situations. Still very new in this game of love/life.

Two pages of posts telling you to contact her asap, and you still ask whether we think you should do it or not. Hard to believe you're not a troll.

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I woudnt say she is pissed, but I do get what your saying...

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Oh yes she is! Big time! If we all think she is pissed, why would you not admit it???

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Should I still contact her or do you think it's too late?

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Don't be an asshole! Why would it be too late?? The more you banter,the later it gets The worst thing that could happen is for her to reject you ( which I doubt).SO are you not a man enough to take one simple rejection?

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And I'm not a troll lol, just not very skilled in these situations. Still very new in this game of love/life.

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Seriously?!! How old ARE you???

p.s. One more thing: don't be discouraged if she plays it cool the first time you contact her.By now and by the way you behaved she might be thinking that you want to bang her one more time before you dump her & that you are a player. So, leave your ego aside, and pursue the girl you like!

Jeez, its obvious. Get this bird drunk again and bobs your uncle. Why change a winning formula. Forget fckn facebook, its for homos and ugly people.

I don't understand how she would be pissed, what would make her feel that way?

It's been about a week and a half since we hooked up, and a couple days since that dinner. That's why I think it's too late, I think it would be weird to just spark a convo with her now. But, like you said the worst that can happen is a rejection. So we shall see.

And I'm 21 years old. This type of stuff never happens to me, so it's all new to me like I said. I'm learning by the day.

I'll contact her on Facebook, and tell her sorry about taking so long, I get nervous, good enough you think?

And thanks for helping me out and the all. Appreciate it!

Lol I wish it was that easy. After me and her not even saying a word at that dinner, and her thinking she's a slut after hooking up with me I don't think I could strike gold twice.

She's pissed because you treated her like she was just a girl you had fun with for one night and then you disappeared like it never happened. It's obvious she felt like a slut, what do you think?!!

Please don't post here again before you've contacted her. Please.

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Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Omg you just don't understand. CONTACT HER if you want to make things right, even if you only want to get to know her better. What are you waiting for?! Of course she's pissed at you - you had sex and then you basically vanished after that, how do you think it made her feel?! Jeez it's not that hard. You're interested in her - get in touch, set up a date, apologize for not calling/writing earlier. You are not that interested in her - leave her alone and go on with your life. It's simple really!!

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Reread this over and over again until you get it.

God, you're dumb.

Haven't you contacted her yet? Do you want one of us from the forum to contact her, on your behalf? Dude, if you were man enough to fu(k her, why can't you be man enough to contact her? Just do it. And only you can decide if she's worth pursuing or not. You've got more than enough advice from many posters already. Now act on those advice or fu(k off. Good luck.

If someone from the forum wants to contact her, on my behalf. I would be more than willing for that to happen.

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Originally Posted by chailli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If someone from the forum wants to contact her, on my behalf. I would be more than willing for that to happen.

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I'll do it for you. PM me with her contact info, and your name.

Ahaha come on he's a troll.

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Originally Posted by doppelmakemelol [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I'll do it for you. PM me with her contact info, and your name.

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you can't be serious??? Please let us know how this develops...weird

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Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ahaha come on he's a troll.

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Woman, there's a time and a place to interrupt me, and it isn't now.

Sit back while I do my thing.

One night stands always leaves one person confused...It is cool if both of you are okay with it...