Married but in love with someone else....

So I'm really confused right now. My marriage was happy. Not particularly intimate or exciting but happy. Then I met my best friend who admitted he had feelings for me. I admitted I did too and now things have got messy. I've fallen for him and he keeps saying he wants me to be his. He makes me laugh, is gorgeous inside and out and has settled with just being friends so not to lose me. Only trouble is my husband is just not the fun and loving guy he used to be so now I'm having second thoughts, but i do love him. I just dont know if its the same as what i feel for my friend. I know it's an awful reason but it's not the only one but I'm so ready for children but my best friend is not and he doesn't know when he will be. My life has revolved around children since I was 10 and I'm even a nanny! Having a family has been my biggest dream. I don't know what to do. please help. :(

Get yourself spade. Confused people shouldn't have children.

Boring people suck. You should cheat on your boring husband with your "friend" and "accidentally" get pregnant. Once you're knocked up, kick your husband to the curb and force your "friend" to marry you and man up for the baby! Then, when in a few years HE starts to bore you, you can have your child's life to ruin too!

Or maybe you should stop being such a selfish twit and honor your marriage by working to fix the relationship you committed to with the person you chose to be with for the rest of your life. Quit having this emotional affair with your buddy and get your sh!t together before you even consider procreating.


But for reals, if you are gonna leave your husband - if you really don't love him anymore and you cannot make it work. You better go now. Don't wait until you have children - it'll be so much harder and so much messier. Just get out. Don't stay with him simply because he's willing to help you hatch spawn and your boyfriend isn't. It's not fair and it's only going to lead to both of you being miserable and having a miserable child with divorced parents.

get ur self spade

Wow. Some realy unpolite answers you've got. I think you should follow your heart. Infact I know you should follow your heart. If you stay with your husbond because you want kids and he's on the same level. You will just keep on being confused. Kids is lovely. And you will have kids. But you need to be head over heals or you will keep looking around to find THAT feeling your husbond can't give you, but your friend can.
Best of luck

hahahhahhahaha Some realy unpolite answers you've got

Oh, thank GOD you don't have children. You can easily divorce without TOO much repercussion. G4I

From what I see, the men on here are much nicer to other men than they are to women.
I wonder if they need to find an alternative site.

Yeah, the men on here suck. Most are queers on a gay cruise for some hot ass. Dirty bastards.

I don't have a problem with gay anything, I just have a problem with rudeness and calling every woman a name because they are making fun of her instead of giving advice. I keep seeing the same offenders and obviously, someone isn't doing their moderator job if they allow this abuse.

Im the chief mod on here. If you have a problem with anyone, let me know.

It is nice to meet you. I don't know what you do around here when people are calling posters names or acting really rude to others. I realize there is a flag button and I will use it if I see it bad enough. I just think calling women twits, or telling a woman to get spade is ignorant.

Ah, sadly the report button doesnt work, but im usually around, in various threads. I have to run the forum single handedly these days, so its hard to keep up with any bad behaviour. If you give me names or threads , i can take action. I agree, telling a woman to get spade is bang out of order, and if i see that, i'll be fuming.

That's fine, if I see it, I will try to flag you. I realize there are many forums and you can't see everything.
I just don't get why some of these people are here unless it's to get their rocks off by undermining people, etc, which could be. God only knows, even grown people can be freakin bullies.

lol wow.....

Yeah, its sickening what some people post. There's one fella called Lovesreject, ive been trying to ban for months, but he keeps coming back. He's uses a thing to hide his IP, so hes hard to ban. Pathetic really. Anyway, enjoy your time here, and let me know if you see anything too bad.

Im always on the lookout for new deputy mods, if you ever find yourself with too much free time.

Well, some people live to make the world a better place and some people live to make others miserable, nothing to abnormal about that.
Well before I left politicking on facebook, there were many that would come on there to harass people... can't talk issues but can talk crap. They would disappear under one alias and find another to come back with. Got people banned on purpose there, reporting people for no reason. That was a freakin mess and after a while, got very old. It happens everywhere.
I will certainly navigate around. I like giving advice more than I need it, honestly. However, thank you for letting me know who you are.
I may consider being a help to you, I'm a force to be reckoned with on and off the computer most days. I'll let you know!

You sound like you would be a good member of the team. Its easy enough, and most of us are harmless. Its just a struggle on my own because i have 2 cats also, and a sick budgie, so when duty calls, this place goes into meltdown. The pay is $25 per week, its not much, but its ok for banning a few noobs. Think about it.

Immatool is a slick one he is...Perhaps he has "pumped" the "birds" he has claimed he has (his own words); albeit he accomplished it by similarly preying on the naivete of girls such as Girl_on_Fire, no offense.

When i get near a pc lovesreject, youre banned again. Youre lucky im on the laptop. Stop insulting the posters. Final warning.

First, I don't think that makes a lick of damn sense. Second, well played, I'll give ya that.

I was complaining about disrespect, I don't know what else can be insinuated from the posts.

Immatroll is a troll.

Ignore him girl on fire. Hes the one i was telling you about. Hes just an idiot troll, and if i wasnt on my iphone, hed be banned. As soon as i get to the pc, hes gone. Im just walking the cats.

First, you're on a laptop. Second, you're on a phone. And since when have you "been mod"? You're a second-string troll, topped by Phil Davies.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

First, you're on a laptop. Second, you're on a phone. And since when have you "been mod"? You're a second-string troll, topped by Phil Davies.

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Do we have to go through this every night? I meant iphone, not laptop. You think i take my lappy with me when i take the cats for a walk. Stop annoying people.

You don't have cats. Even they would find you repulsive.

Does someone want to be a deputised mod so they can ban this idiot? I can do it now while im out with my cats. I cant ban him till im near a pc, and i reckon ill be a while. The cat just ran up a tree. Little cunt, lol.

Who walks cats? LOL This story is full of holes

Love'sReject, you're being given a final warning. Stop posting disrespectful comments and trolling the posters that are in need of advice or you will be banned.

If you must know, hes hurt his leg in a fight with a fox. In hindsight i should have got him an easier opponent,, a chicken, or a raccoon maybe, but the bookie was giving me 5/1. I couldnt resist. He'll be back, but until then i need to walk him on a leash until his leg gets better. Happy?

Not to side here but having animals and even a bird, doesn't seem like that would cause life to have much issues. Being real, of coarse.

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Love'sReject, you're being given a final warning. Stop posting disrespectful comments and trolling the posters that are in need of advice or you will be banned.

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Thanks deputy. Hes a live one tonight.

I herby deputise KingZ, with the power of banning anyone he sees fit. Power granted.

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Originally Posted by Girl_on_Fire [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Not to side here but having animals and even a bird, doesn't seem like that would cause life to have much issues. Being real, of coarse.

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My budgie is sick, with the bird aids, and my cat lost a bout against a fox.

Gotcha, KingZ.

Good work, deputy Kz.

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Originally Posted by Girl_on_Fire [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

That's fine, if I see it, I will try to flag you. I realize there are many forums and you can't see everything.
I just don't get why some of these people are here unless it's to get their rocks off by undermining people, etc, which could be. God only knows, even grown people can be freakin bullies.

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Yeah **** these people.

A/S/L?

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Originally Posted by Girl_on_Fire [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It is nice to meet you. I don't know what you do around here when people are calling posters names or acting really rude to others. I realize there is a flag button and I will use it if I see it bad enough. I just think calling women twits, or telling a woman to get spade is ignorant.

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If it helps, I didn't mean "twit", my A button was stuck.

It's "spayed" by the way, people. For fukcs sake.

This forum is like an excerpt from KZ - Interrupted.