Is it courageous or desperate to knock on his/her house door to ask them out, to get to know them, after s/he has shown nonverbal attraction/interest?
Is it courageous or desperate to knock on his/her house door to ask them out, to get to know them, after s/he has shown nonverbal attraction/interest?
Why not both?
You forgot creepy or inappropriate which it could be depending on: Why would you need to knock on their door? How well do you know them? Don't you have his/her telephone number?
A lot of people don't like surprise visitors. I suggest you ask her out in a public place.
To get to know them... read the question.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
My point is... If you showed nonverbal attraction towards a guy that either lives in your building or on your street and then he comes to your door to ask you out, not on a dinner date, a walk to get to know each other and to see if there is more than physical attraction. Would you take it as courageous or desperate?
Creepy, stalkerish. yes desperate...
It would have been courageous if you introduced yourself when she made eye contact with you. You missed your opportunity, so don't push it. If you see her out in public, catch her eye again. If it looks promising then go introduce yourself.
not a good idea. she may reject u 2 cause of that..
its kind of forcing yourself to her.
u need to give the person space to react and think about it.
call her.
Dude he can't....he doesn't even have her name yet.
Good points smackie.
The thing is... she tried to force intimate eye contact the first time, I was depressed during this time and lacking exercise/confidence. The second time, I was jumping on the bus.
The truth is... I just want to see if she's my type of woman. The type of woman that is liberated and wants to grow, not a product of society; without make up and not plucked like a chicken. I promised myself I would not get intimate with another woman that feels she needs to prove her worth to the world.
She did seem in need for a connection however I don't want to get intimate with her and then let her down if I lose interest because of her conditioned behavior.
Now that you've elaborated... It would depend. Does she actually know who you are? That you live in her building or are you strickly going on her attempt at eye contact? If he was confident about it, I'd think him neither courageous or desperate, just interested and with enough confidence to go for it. That's sexy. (in my opinion based on being a woman). I'd still think it creepy if I didn't know you and you mistook this eye contact thing as interest from me. You should strike up some kind of conversation if you can before knocking on a strangers door that hasn't really given you for-sure-positive-it'd-be-great-if-he-was-mine-vibes. You'll not come across anything but friendly if you start small with a "Hi" that is said away from where she lives so she doesn't think you've been following her.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yea, on second thought, I'd be really creepy if you just knocked on her door. O.oQuote:
The truth is... I just want to see if she's my type of woman. The type of woman that is liberated and wants to grow, not a product of society; without make up and not plucked like a chicken. I promised myself I would not get intimate with another woman that feels she needs to prove her worth to the world.
She did seem in need for a connection however I don't want to get intimate with her and then let her down if I lose interest because of her conditioned behavior.
You are an idiot....don't you know what going on dates is for? Asking someone out is not a commitment to a relationship. Going out on a date is to get to know them, learn about them, see if you have things in common. If you are not satisfied with your choice, you don't have to call them again for another date. Same with her she may not find you to her liking. There is no avoiding the negative part of dating. That is how dating works, so suck it up princess, there will be disappointments, rejections, etc....it's just life.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I don't think its creepy or desperate as long as you start with something like "I have seen you around the building and I find you really attractive. I am wondering if you would like to go for a drink or go for dinner or something".
There is no doubt she wished I was hers. I get christmas tree looks all the time.
Does every women take an advance from a guy as a sign that he just want to get into your pants? Don't get me wrong, I love sex, I LOVE my penis inside a vagina BUTwithout understanding and growth, a relationship falls apart fast.
Looks like there is too many stereotypes... not every guy is a creepy guy that is desperate to get laid. Some guys do have values.
LOL. Some women condemn men for that; some don't. I know every guy who wants to date me finds me attractive and wants to have sex. As long as he isn't pushy about it if she wants to wait.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Lol. I would think most women would be creeped out my thisQuote:
Originally Posted by fearoflove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Haha! If your confidence is that high why are you on a site like this? Go right now and come back and post the resultsQuote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Man you and Love'sReject should get together and compare notes lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm not scared of rejection smackie. Its gets very disappointing when women can't understand my nonconformist ways. I would like to be with a sane woman that knows putting on make up is insane and I don't need to date women to see if they are push-over make-up wearing do as your told dolls. At least someone is getting filthy rich by the insanity.
I don't believe desperate people exist. What may come off as desperate is a deep want/need of a serious relationship. fearoflove made a good point on how to ask... calm and collected.
PS. Love'sReject is outright negative and has given up on life. Too bad there isn't a tiger to end his life.
Dude....that's how most girl operate. Sorry if it doesnt agree with you. So either deal with it or change your, so called, non conformist waysQuote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Most girls think guys like you are just plain weird so you're kinda narrowing your dating pool.
Good luck....you'll need it :)
A woman's home is her personal space. One doesn't invade personal space without creeping people out. Wait until you run into her again sometime to ask her out, but for god's sake: DON'T say "I find you attractive, so let's go out". You finding someone attractive doesn't qualify as a reason for HER to be interested. You'd be better off having a casual chat first, to see if there is any reason for her to be interested in having dinner with you. In other words, if you hope to attract a non-conformist girl, I hope you have better game than "I think you are attractive".
Girls are brainwashed. Isn't it sad?Quote:
Originally Posted by surfhb2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Go to fiji and let me know how real women operate.
“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” ― Marilyn Monroe
Dude, you are relying on stereotypical flattery to impress a stranger; why do you pretend to be any different than other people?Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It's got nothing to do with thinking you'd want sex. It has everything to do with you possibly being some kind of deviant, murderer, stalker, someone who may do harm kinda guy. At the very least, it's inappropriate without first saying Hi and striking up some kind of conversation that leads to an invite from her. You don't know her and that is what I was getting at when I said not couragous or desperate, but creepy and inappropriate.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
P.S. MM was the poster girl for Boarderline Personality Disorder.
Making assumptions.... I never said I would say those creepy words...Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Actions speak louder than words. One look is all it takes to touch a woman deep in her aura.
oops, my mistake. Fearoflove said it. Sorry.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
But talking about touching her aura is even creepier.
Then move the fuucking Figi! I've surfed in Figi And still don't know what your big hang up is with women who prefer to wear makeup.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Dude....sorry.....you're just strange to most people.....that's ok and I respect that. But your views are going to get you no where with the ladies
I don't pretend. I've heard it all my life. Do you believe geniuses aren't born anymore?Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
LOL! Always thinking the worst.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
The problem is that there is too many women that try to tell guys on how to be men, natural in control bold men. How about we stop the insanity and prevent people from becoming murderers in the first place?
Calm and collected without getting my hopes up is the best approach.
Disorders don't exist... just a lack of vitamins and minerals in the diet from natural foods.
LOL, crazy troll. On the chance you are serious, you are invading her privacy and showing a complete lack of respect for her by knocking on her door unannounced. You sound on the edge of Stalkerish. Not attractive.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
How about respecting the opinions of others. Its not all about you, Bundy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I feel sorry for you for not having had a guy turn you on by just looking in your eyes.Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Do you do this before or after you murder them?Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Why would I need to murder anyone? You're already doing it yourself...Quote:
Originally Posted by Woods [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I don't hate people. Its sad seeing people reason with their egos and no willpower...
I respect factual opinions. Not made up nonsense shoved in my mouth which makes me look like the bad guy.Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Worse than a cult.
Ooooookaaaaay... you've just proved yourself to be a crazy stalker. You know nothing about her, but you're making up fantasy shit in your head. Get a grip.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
There are some lovely hippy chicks that live on the west coast here in BC...they don't wear makeup because it has chemicals in it, and don't shave their legs or wear deodorant....might be what you are looking for...real natural down to earth tree hugging girls.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Every girl is different. I kind of expect most guys ask a girl/woman out primarily because of physical attraction. Dating is when two attracted people get together to get to know each other better and see if they have anything in common/emotional chemistry, etc.Quote:
Originally Posted by surfhb2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I actually find this approach to be refreshing because not a lot of guys would have the balls to do that.
Maybe he wants to play it safe. But the OP should just be himself. If he is a ballsy guy, he should show that side of him. If she rejects him because of this then she isn't right for him. Depends on what he is comfortable with. OP should be himself.
Ummmm....okay. But coming from a guy you've never met who shows up at your doorstep? That's the context were talking about hereQuote:
Originally Posted by fearoflove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You sound boring as ****. And crazy, which makes you a real catch for any woman. Just saying.Quote:
Originally Posted by Consistency [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Uhh I live in BC too and those chicks are called dykes.Quote:
Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]