I do not understand! Can you offer opinions?

Hello, I have a strange one. Last fall I met a guy online through a dating site. I thought we had something going only to discover that he was still online. After discussion, he tells me that we have a good friendship going that he does not want to ruin, and that lets just see what happens, no pressure or expectations. And yes, we did sleep together. Well thats fine my friend but the same as you, I am going to continue looking. Today he text me and asked me what I was doing and when I said that I was going to meet someone from the online dating site, he did not respond. Now he is ignoring me. What the hell!! lol. He is still online looking, so why can't I?? He does not want to make a commitment so what is he mad at? Can anyone shed light? I have sent him a few texts and he just does not respond. He always responds so I know he is mad. At what?!!

Men can never handle what they dish out I notice.

How do you feel abou him now? Maybe you shouldnt push the issue. He may have start thinking that you hook up with people all the time online and you full of games. But hes doing the same thing. Men can never handle what they do. I guess they expect diff, because you a woman. He must like you more then he letting on but doesnt want to fully commit as of yet so he can still "see whats out there". Just let him know how you feel about the situation. Next time, he dont have to know everything you doing.

He's mad because he's a hypocrite.

This guy is what I call a, "punisher." These are they guys who punish women when they don't get their own way - and the punishment is usually withdrawal sometimes without an explanation. You are involved in the game, "punishers," play: that is, "BEG ME, BEG ME, and if you beg me enough, MAYBE, I'll respond, or maybe I won't.
You don't need to justify anything to this guy. Too bad you didn't find out he was a, "punisher," before you slept with him, because now it sounds like you have some attachment to him where he has none.
If this guy had a modicum of good character he would have responded and told you what was really going on! I say, RUN as fast as you can....and next time, don't hook up with a, "punisher."




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He thinks that hes done a lot for you. And expects you to be commited after everything hes done. Hes taking it slow cause he thinks you are his already. While infact you need much more attention than that. Bassicaly he might think that sex was enought to wait for him and when he will be ready you gona be there for taking.

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Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Men can never handle what they dish out I notice.

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Ahhh... thank you for the sexist quote of the day.

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Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Men can never handle what they dish out I notice.

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LOL now it have two meanings.

Stop texting him. He used you for sex and is obviously keeping his options open. You can do better so forget him and find a guy who wants commitment like you do. And next time take things slow and dont rush into anything until you are sure he feels the same.

You will meet a lot of assholes online just looking for fun or whatever. You may need to sift through 100 losers to find 1 genuine person so proceed with caution.

I don't want to be rude, but he used you for sex which was too soon probably. No matter what you do right now he will not respect you, you can't change that, so he kept looking. Then you text him you date too and wonder why is he mad?!?! Come on it's just justifying what you did.
Men put women in 2 groups: one to have sex with, one to date. You prooved him kind of that you are in the first group by confirming, why do you wonder so much now?
If you like a guy, never ever tell him:" Guess what I am on the market too and date too, just like you do. We are even now!"
Men will always be men, they will always hook up and test women or date several woman to see which one works for him better and suits them. Especially when sex is involved. I am sorry I didn't want to be rude, this is just reality.
If you want him in your life, which is too hard to take back things now....In the future don't do these mistakes, never show a guy you date others even if you do! It's not the way how you will gain their respect

And one more thing, men want women who are different then the others, they want women who they can trust, even if it's based on lies in early stages. They want to feel special like everyone does. They want women who are confident, know what they want and are not afraid to show it.
You should of just text him:" Hey dude, I am not kind of girl who casually dates, so it's better to go separate way. We don't want the same things in life, which is perfectlly fine, I am not mad, sometimes people don't click on the same level, have a wonderfull life and bang who ever you want and have fun!"
I told this to a guy from my past. Not only that he stopped ingoring me, he actually started to chase me and opened up to me! I was pretty shocked with what he said. We were together, now he is my ex.
Only thing you can do right now is to move on and find someone else!

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he tells me that we have a good friendship going that he does not want to ruin,

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... *laughing here* ...

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Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Men can never handle what they dish out I notice

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Thanks for that useless mysoginistic comment. Idiot.

No, your the idiot. Lets get that straight first, your the useless idiot and in that order.

Thats not sexist, thats a fact.

only narcissistic men have one rule for himself and another for her but then again starnique you are probably well used to men like that. no offence so your probably right about the people you associate with but some men are decent and you would know that if you got a better job and a better boyfriend and hung out with men who dont frequent strip clubs

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Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

No, you're the idiot. Lets get that straight first, you're the useless idiot and in that order.

Thats not sexist, thats a fact.

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I've corrected that for you.

It's unfortunate that there's not a single fact in there.

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Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I've corrected that for you.

It's unfortunate that there's not a single fact in there.

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As I understood in last two days its useless to argue with women on this forum. They are emotionaly driven and dont make sense when emotional. Its almost like you cant win cause they dont have to prove the point to be right. They just right cause they feel like. Also the special days of the month plays its role. Their mood really changes from time to time and when it happens better stand on the side.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

As I understood in last two days its useless to argue with women on this forum. They are emotionaly driven and dont make sense when emotional. Its almost like you cant win cause they dont have to prove the point to be right. They just right cause they feel like. Also the special days of the month plays its role. Their mood really changes from time to time and when it happens better stand on the side.

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i am insulted by this very sexist comment. I was sticking up for you men :annoyed:

Im not arguing with you. I think you are beautiful and fighting with you would be same as trying to teach math to a flower. When all you have to do is apreciate it for what it is.

Many girls think much more logicaly than guys. Its never good to argue with anyone who is emotional at the moment regardless of gender. But genneraly girls are a little more emotional than guys. Noticeably more emotional. You have to respect and take that in mind sometimes.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

As I understood in last two days its useless to argue with women on this forum. They are emotionaly driven and dont make sense when emotional. Its almost like you cant win cause they dont have to prove the point to be right. They just right cause they feel like. Also the special days of the month plays its role. Their mood really changes from time to time and when it happens better stand on the side.

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Now you're being sexist.

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Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I've corrected that for you.

It's unfortunate that there's not a single fact in there.

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I dont need you to correct anything for me. Neither did he leave a single fact as to why my reply was sexist. It doesnt even matter if he did because just because its broken down doesnt mean that it makes sense. I say that men cant handle what they dish out is because its true. Men can be insensitive without even knowing until the situation is reversed on them.

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Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Neither did he leave a single fact as to why my reply was sexist.

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Your comment was sexist because you made a statement about men implying that all men behaved in a certain way. That is sexist. Some men can take criticism and some can't. Some women are idiots and some are not. Some women can punctuate correctly and some can't. You made a sexist comment and you are unable to punctuate correctly.

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Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

only narcissistic men have one rule for himself and another for her but then again starnique you are probably well used to men like that. no offence so your probably right about the people you associate with but some men are decent and you would know that if you got a better job and a better boyfriend and hung out with men who dont frequent strip clubs

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Your entitled to your own opinion but you really need to stop making assumptions. A better job doesnt have anything to do with it. I could work in an office and still have a bad experience with a man. I could meet a lawyer or something (which I have) and he can still be foolish (which he was). You assuming because I'm a dancer that those are the only type of people who I center myself around and thats not true. Two of my three best girlfriends are not dancers. You must think I walk around looking like a stripper, attracting a certain kind of person and thats just not the case. Your whole view of strip clubs, which you dont visit, is wrong anyway.

No. I can punctuate correctly when I feel the need to. I dont care how it looks on here because its apparent that you understand what I'm trying to say.

How about this? I dont care that its sexist. Some sexist statements are true. You dont see me getting all upset over PC saying women are emotional. You wanna know why? Because its true and the majority of women are emotionally driven and their actions and statements reflect that. However, for me it doesnt have to be that time of the month. I will get an attitude whenever I feel the need to. I dont care what day, week or time of the month it is. Men and Women are built differently and have a different thought process.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

As I understood in last two days its useless to argue with women on this forum. They are emotionaly driven and dont make sense when emotional. Its almost like you cant win cause they dont have to prove the point to be right. They just right cause they feel like. Also the special days of the month plays its role. Their mood really changes from time to time and when it happens better stand on the side.

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this is true u girls are emotionally driven then backwards rationalise

Starnique needs someone to humble her mean ass. I don't know how any man can deal with all that mouth.

Michelle, being a stripper is hard work. Most GOOD, highly compensated ones have to maintain their figures and be very confident. At least at KoD. After all, it's not a rtip club if they dont show p*$$! Them girls get naked in there and it's a good look. I'd like to see you attempt to climb that 30 ft pole they have in there. No offense to anyone. To answer your question OP, if you came off on him as blunt as you did to us, one can only assume your a whore. Not that you are. I said assume.

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Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ahhh... thank you for the sexist quote of the day.

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She's not THAT wrong though. Of course women can be like that as well, but it is quite often a male behavioural pattern.

OP, it's just some guy wanting to keep his options open. Forget that type of person.

Isn't that like saying she's not that pregnant?

No, thats a total difference and you know it.

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Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I dont need you to correct anything for me. Neither did he leave a single fact as to why my reply was sexist. It doesnt even matter if he did because just because its broken down doesnt mean that it makes sense. I say that men cant handle what they dish out is because its true. Men can be insensitive without even knowing until the situation is reversed on them.

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He didn't need to leave a fact - it was self-evident.

Thank you pc master :)

Yes i agree that most women are prob more emotionally driven than most men but i am not clouded by my emotions and i am actualy quite calm and rational :)

If i wanted to be a stripper id say i could easily pull it off lol but thats not who i am.

Thanks for that HIA. I did get a giggle about her calling you an idiot with incorrect spelling in her post.

Stfu. Have fun figuring that out.

Shut the **** up? Clever! You come up with that all by yourself?

Yes I did. Thank You! Btw you look real stupid going back and forth with a female. U dont got shit else to do today?

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Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yes I did. Thank You! Btw you look real stupid going back and forth with a female. U dont got shit else to do today?

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I hope that's sarcasm.

You think this is going back and forth? It's just amusing to me. I shouldn't make fun of you though, your apparent intellectual level is not your fault. You seem to be in the "low normal" section of the curve.

Why would it make a difference if I were going back and forth with a female vs. a male? Are females less than males to you? How sad, to hate your own gender so.

Bitch please. You dont mean shit to me and neither does your opinion.

Obvious fallacy.