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I've had a horrible day, so I was wondering what you do when you're sad to make yourself feel better. I can feel myself getting depressed and I don't like it. I need to, for lack of a better phrase, pull myself up by my bootstraps. All suggestions are welcome.
I assume this is following your breakup? Let yourself have a few horrible days - it's all part of the process. If you try to smother the feeling, it will just come back at another time and bite you.
In no time at all, you'll find yourself relieved that he's gone and the sun will shine again.
It's more about his reaction to the break up. He scared me. I know I'll be fine in a while, but I don't like this funk I'm in right now and I'm looking for some temporary relief.
music helps me, reading, having a good old cry, cleaning or cooking like a maniac when im angry-let the sweat out. or meeting friends and laughing for an hour. always helps
I just wound up exhausting myself and giving myself a headache lol. Busying myself did help me process things though.
I just feel like I can't talk to anyone, or I could, I just don't really want to so I'm trying to entertain myself.
I run, and I run until I can't run any further. Then I turn around and run back, by that time I'm so beat that whatever is bothering me doesn't any more.
Its hard to talk when your hurting. Some people find it easy but I'm like you. i wont talk until I am ready. Its okay to feel like crap for awhile, watch a soppy film, eat ice-cream, cry, listen to sad songs etc, feel sorry for yourself for awhile. Then go and get a few beauty treatments, buy something nice to wear, get all dolled up and get out next weekend, meet new people, flirt a little. Ask friends to come over for takeaway and a glass of wine or have a pamper evening. Stay busy, clean the whole house, listen to heavy metal music or angry rap. Then set some goalsQuote:
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example: I will get promoted in the next 6 months or get a new job and then go and make it happen or I am gonna be single for 6 months and learn to be happy on my own or Im going to learn martial arts and then Im gonna go and kick his ass haha ;)
You just need something to focus on
Run, Forest! hahaQuote:
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I do home improvement projects. Most recently, I put new grass in my backyard (sod) and fixed a broken sprinkler head. I am planning to tile my front porch soon.
Home projects require enough thought that I am mentally distracted, and the physical aspect makes me tired enough to sleep.
Listening to music helps but selection is important. Some good suggestions of songs that helps me is "Me, Myself, and I" and "Irreplaceable" by Beyonce. Also, if you have the money for it, go shopping, go out and treat yourself to a nice meal. Talking to your close friends about your problem might help too. Meeting new guys and going on dates.
^His favorite pastime/therapeutic technique is trolling by impersonating a girl.
get yourself a vibratorQuote:
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vibrators are over-rated (my opinion) i personally dont like them. feel and smell really weird lol
Interesting.Quote:
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haha y is that interesting? there are other more effective ways ;)
yes, there are plenty :pQuote:
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Best breakup song ever!!Quote:
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lol interesting, what makes you think she's a guy?Quote:
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Normally, I'll write and/or listen to music. Other times, I'll stay up till four in the morning with all the lights and technology off (even my phone) watching really happy movies. Sometimes I'll even have some food with it. I know it's not exactly healthy to, but yeah that's pretty much it. :S
Thanks for the suggestions. Maybe I'll go to the library. I still haven't replaced all of my stuff yet so I don't have very many things to keep me busy at home like movies and music.
Why is it so hard to find something to do all of the sudden? Why are you replacing your stuff? Just watch TV or go to a club.
It's hard because I lost a lot of my stuff when the house I was renting was hit by a tornado last month. I don't have a TV and I don't drink. Thanks for the suggestions though.
Trying to get people to pity you on the internet? If that is true why do you live wherever you live? Are you a redneck?
Work more. You won't be bored and you'll make more money.
Oh give me a break. You're the one that asked. You should probably try to be more open minded and not buy into all the stereotypes.
I recently broke up with my girlfriend and I have found talking to people is a big boost and helps you get your mind off things, being with friends is also really good. Try not to be alone to much but at the same time you may need some time to yourself (sounds dumb but it worked for me) Don't be alone 75% of the time and take the other 25% to take time for yourself to grieve and what not.
I have recently hit the gym a lot more than normal and I found it helps me quite a bit. I know that putting all this effort into the gym is going to get my confidence up and hopefully tone up my body and get a body that girls find attractive and may contribute in helping me find a new, better girlfriend.
I see a few people saying listening to music helps them but for me music doesn't seem to work. I tend to start listening to the lyrics and relating it to my problem and end up thinking about all the wrong things but that could simply be a case of me having the wrong sort of music on my ipod. Also the fact that a lot of the songs on my ipod were picked by my ex for a road trip we took so I may need to clean out my ipod :P
I could suggest some ways..
First, know what your comfort food is and eat it.. Something sweet would boost your mood up but do not eat too much because your mood will crash down on you after you get hyped up.
Second, listen to upbeat music. Music is really powerful, it can bring you down and it can lift you up so make sure you only listen to upbeat and inspiring music.
Third, do some walking. Walking will bring out your stress and leave them out on the streets.
Fourth, read or watch some inspiring movies and books. They really help uplift your mood.
That's all I can suggest.. :)
good luck being fine..
I think I'll take up hitting myself in the head. Hopefully that will give me testosterone and teach me to be a regular guy.
hahahha..!! Why did I find that funny.. nice oneQuote:
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Select a friend who I can easily chat with, and drink wine in my favourite bars!
Good music in the background, and can have a laugh and vent with my friend.
Works every time :)
I have plans to go to the lake with some friends this weekend :). I'm starting to feel good again.
*hugs*
I like to talk a walk, or go for a run, also bake, it helps even if it turns out horribly, it always distracts me, I also do yoga and rollerblade. Sometimes a nice bath and a good book helps, so does a cup of herbal tea. I have a gf who likes to paint when stressed and wants to take her mind off life. Going to the salon and changing your hair color and style works wonders too, gives yourself a whole new you to look at each day...
Hey. It's awesome you're feeling better. :) What helped me when I was/am feeling down is listening to music corresponding with my mood. For example, now I'm feeling pretty optimistic and somewhat happy and listening to "Macy's Day Parade" makes me feel even happier. Other than that, hanging out with friend, doing whatever you love. I'm starting to play guitar so I can seek refuge in it if there will be need. Running is pretty good for that too. If you just can't hold emotions that are in you, then there's nothing wrong in crying.
Best wishes!
I just finished reading this book, Dating for Divorced, and found it extremely helpful. It made me feel better about myself.
I definitely recommend to anyone who is recently divorced and looking to get themselves back on track!
AND, it's FREE to download at the moment!
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D19LIOY/
I do as I please, it's a free world lol..
yep totally agree
conratulations man. Go for it