Will this be to much at one time for my girlfriend?

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17-06-13, 08:42 AM
Goku

Will this be to much at one time for my girlfriend?

There is a rock that is around 9 meters (30 feet) tall that I live close to, so I am thinking of asking her out and then we hangout for a bit, then we climb on the rock and watch the sunset. During the sunset I am thinking of telling her that her eyes are the most beautiful things I have never seen, and then leaning in for a kiss. If it is successful that would be our first kiss. After the kiss I am thinking of telling her I love her (for the first time). The problem is I don't know if that would be to much at one time or not. What are your opinions on this? Also we have been dating for almost 4 months and the rock is in a rural place, but its only like a 5 minute drive from the city.
17-06-13, 01:28 PM
doubtful doper

Well you don't want to do too many things too fast. The date itself with the climbing and telling her about her eyes and kissing is really good, especially if its been 4 months. Telling her you love her is too much in my opinion. Since you are about to have your first kiss I think it's best to go one thing at a time. Once you're able to kiss her comfortably then you can go and tell her you love her when you really have that feeling.
17-06-13, 06:14 PM
michelle23

Ya I agree ^^^.

I think its odd though that you are dating four months and have not kissed?? You should kiss on the first date or at least the second...

Just be careful not to end up friend zoned.
18-06-13, 06:42 AM
Goku

@doubtful doper
Yeah I was thinking the same thing, I just wanted to make sure

@michelle23
Well both of us are kind of shy, so neither of us made a move, but after 4 month I feel really comfortable around her. So I decided to man up and make a move.
25-06-13, 01:34 PM
4 ratties

So how'd this rock climbing adventure go?
29-07-13, 06:00 AM
Goku

Well the more I was there, the more I wanted to tell her I loved her. After awhile I decided to. She said "awwww" and hugged me. I kissed her on the top on her head, and then she actually kissed me first.
29-07-13, 06:16 AM
searock

She didn't say it back though.
29-07-13, 06:25 AM
smackie9

Ya it's gonna be like a plane on fire in a tail spin.....
29-07-13, 08:34 PM
pcmaster

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Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

She didn't say it back though.

She kissed the guy back and even more than he did. So its still much better than silence or negative answer.

I bet she was keeping you in a friendzone cause if a guy dont touch a girl she will think that hes not interseted in her in that way. Make sure you prove you interest everytime. And if you wont hold yourself back then she wont hold herself back too. At least shes not pushing you back and that means door is open, all the rest is up to you. If a girl is in front of you smiling and talking to you thats all the indication of intersest you need. Most girls dont go further than that they realy expect man to make a move.
30-07-13, 04:00 AM
Goku

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ya it's gonna be like a plane on fire in a tail spin.....

That's a little harsh isn't it? What makes you think it will end badly? When my dad told my mom he loved her, she didn't say it back, and they have been married for 33 years.
30-07-13, 04:26 AM
pcmaster

LOL, instead of saying it she just made some dragonball kids for him.
30-07-13, 09:38 AM
perth

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Originally Posted by Goku [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well the more I was there, the more I wanted to tell her I loved her. After awhile I decided to. She said "awwww" and hugged me. I kissed her on the top on her head, and then she actually kissed me first.

sounds to me like things are on a good track. sure, she didn't say i love you back, but she did say "awwww", hug you, then was the one who initiated the kiss. this shows she does have romantic feelings for you. she's just not in that love place right now, but she does like you a lot. and it sounds like if things keep up there's a good chance she'll get to love. keep treating her nice, and since she initiated the first kiss, make sure you initiate your second kiss. ;)
30-07-13, 09:46 AM
smackie9

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That's a little harsh isn't it? What makes you think it will end badly? When my dad told my mom he loved her, she didn't say it back, and they have been married for 33 years.

I was kidding relax....
30-07-13, 09:49 AM
smackie9

You never mentioned how long you two have been officially together.....just curious....like a week?
30-07-13, 12:25 PM
Goku

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I was kidding relax....

I wouldn't say I was ever not relaxed?

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You never mentioned how long you two have been officially together.....just curious....like a week?

Actually in the very first post I said how long we were together. It was 4 months at the time, but since then it has been another month so right now its been 5 months
30-07-13, 04:20 PM
searock

How can you be in a "relationship" with someone for over 4 months without even kissing them o.O? How old are the two of you, like 14?
31-07-13, 01:23 PM
Goku

Like I said when I replied to michelle23, both of us are kind of shy, so neither of us made a move. Yes we are both kind of young I'm 16 and she's 15
31-07-13, 04:51 PM
searock

Oh. Sorry, I didn't notice we were in the teenagers love forum.

Then it's a lot better than I thought, you guys are so young it's normal to be a bit clueless and afraid of doing something wrong.

Don't pressure her to say "I love you" back (words are overrated anyway) and just enjoy what you have as long as it lasts. You'll be fine :-).
01-08-13, 10:07 AM
smackie9

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Originally Posted by Goku [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I wouldn't say I was ever not relaxed?

WTF? lol dude it's just an expression, you from another planet? Oh yer from the rock....never mind. Go have some lobster.
01-08-13, 10:13 AM
smackie9

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Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How can you be in a "relationship" with someone for over 4 months without even kissing them o.O? How old are the two of you, like 14?

I agree that I doubt it can be classified as a relationship. Maybe you have a misconception of what you two are. To you she is a GF, to her you are just friends which would explain her reaction. There are plenty of guys out there that are under the impression that they are BF/GF when they are actually stuck in the friends zone and it's possible you are too.
01-08-13, 12:59 PM
Goku

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

WTF? lol dude it's just an expression, you from another planet? Oh yer from the rock....never mind. Go have some lobster.

People normally say relax if someone is mad. I was just stating something and you told me to relax, I was simply saying there is no reason for me to relax.

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I agree that I doubt it can be classified as a relationship. Maybe you have a misconception of what you two are. To you she is a GF, to her you are just friends which would explain her reaction. There are plenty of guys out there that are under the impression that they are BF/GF when they are actually stuck in the friends zone and it's possible you are too.

Then how come she would take it a step further if I was in the friend zone?
01-08-13, 01:55 PM
pcmaster

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Then how come she would take it a step further if I was in the friend zone?

The friendzone is imaginative. You didnt knew you are in friendzone so thats why you break out of it so easy by kissing her. It break the barrier that kept her from kissing you and she kissed you back cause you set the relationship frame by saying "Hi !" to her forehead with your lips.

Give her another 4 months before kissing her again - dont be too needy. and dont say her shes beautiful everyday, cause she might start think that she is or that you think shes beautiful. Also dont touch her or hold her cause that will look like a rape attempt since she barely knows you.
01-08-13, 04:38 PM
searock

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I agree that I doubt it can be classified as a relationship. Maybe you have a misconception of what you two are. To you she is a GF, to her you are just friends which would explain her reaction. There are plenty of guys out there that are under the impression that they are BF/GF when they are actually stuck in the friends zone and it's possible you are too.

They're only 15 though, this is their first relationship... maybe that was the first kiss for both of them? It might explain the long wait.

OP, have you two actually talked about the fact that you are boyfriend and girlfriend? Does she know that you consider her to be your girlfriend?
01-08-13, 11:53 PM
Goku

Yeah, we have talked about it before. Her friends also call me her boyfriend. I also say when we can go on a date and she says it back. She is my first girlfriend and she only dated someone in grade 5 and 6 (we are going into grade 11 right now).
01-08-13, 11:59 PM
searock

Does she call you her boyfriend?
02-08-13, 01:09 AM
Goku

Yeah, not all the time, but she has called me her boyfriend more than once.
02-08-13, 01:44 PM
smackie9

Wow this is a little out of my realm......I was way more experienced when I was their age....even for my first I wasn't that shy about physical contact. What has happened to this generation lol.
02-08-13, 02:52 PM
pcmaster

Yeah this new generation is quite retarted. Back in the day we didnt had cellphones to send texts with smilies and kisses - we were stuck with doing real thing. And when we did, we didnt let all internet know that we kissed girl. It was just a normal everyday action, not worth to mention.
03-08-13, 08:04 AM
Goku

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Wow this is a little out of my realm......I was way more experienced when I was their age....even for my first I wasn't that shy about physical contact. What has happened to this generation lol.

I don't see the problem with taking things slowly, yeah it might have been too slow, but I don't think my girlfriend would like things moving to much faster. I don't need physical contact to enjoy the time I spend with her. If my generation's shy about physical contact, why do you think teen pregnancy is still an issue? Lastly, you haven't posted anything too helpful here, so unless you have something helpful and meaningful to say I'm not going to waste anymore of my time replying to you.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah this new generation is quite retarted. Back in the day we didnt had cellphones to send texts with smilies and kisses - we were stuck with doing real thing. And when we did, we didnt let all internet know that we kissed girl. It was just a normal everyday action, not worth to mention.

Its not like when it happened I ran home to tell all of you. I was asked on this thread, I wasn't planning on mentioning it.

Also to both smackie9 and pcmaster
I don't know how old either of you are, but unless you're around 30 you could be considered part of my generation.