I don't know what the hell I was thinking.oh and we live right across from each other. idk what to do now..
i was weak, we had a great time, cuddled and talked for two hours after sex and then i left. it was amazing but now i kind of regret everything that happened. help
I feel sick , disgusted, used, slutyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :(
Tell your father. He'll know what to do.
Relax. You're young, lapses in judgment will happen. As long as you used protection, it's in the past now and you can learn from it.
i can't tell my dad no i can't.he would be so dissapointedQuote:
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he used a condom.But i have let my family down i feel like a slut.he wasn't even goodlooking I know it's the past but i can't get over it i can't stop thinking about it makes me feel dirty.i don't know how i can explain this better i'm no good with wordsQuote:
Originally Posted by lalalita [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
i feel disgusted in myself
if you did it without being pressured and with full consent without being under the influence of booze or drugs, chalk it up as a lesson learned. If you were coerced or forced then you may want to contact the authorities. I don't know if you are considered a minor where you live.
You'll get over it. Give it some time.
nope i wasn't drunk.the age of consent in the uk is 16 so he can't get done for it.
i don't ever want to see his pervert face again
He's not a pervert if you consented. LOL. It takes two to tango. Own your mistake.
Well yes he is, he is a grown adult and had sex with a kid. That would be perverted even if the kid had enough judgement and maturity to actually be able to "consent".Quote:
Originally Posted by lalalita [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm sorry, OP. Have you talked to someone about what happened? You aren't a "slut", you just made a mistake. Take it as a learning opportunity. I hope this wasn't your first time having sex?
I don't see nothing wrong if you both consented.Is he married?
I don't think he's a pervert. She's of legal age. Some men like younger girls. As long as she is of age, he's not doing anything wrong.
nope I've had a boyfriend before.I haven't told anyone apart from a close friend.Quote:
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I don't know, I barely know him which it what disgusts me but he appears to be single.Quote:
Originally Posted by devilish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
One thing is liking younger girls (20-25), another thing is a 35 year old man having sex with a 17 year old kid.Quote:
Originally Posted by lalalita [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Its hard to judge without knowing how it happened - what leaded to it, what you both talked and how you encouraged each other.
Did you enjoy the sex though?
trevor i reported you. stop bullying this girl. shes not a slut!
op you made a mistake. it happens to the best of us. my first time was with a stranger in a car. he came on really strong, i froze, didnt no how to handle it as id never been in that situation before. i was also a bit drunk and even though in my head i was saying no i didnt say it out loud. after ten seconds i pushed him away, got out of the car and went home. i felt bad after-used and disappointed in myself but i got ovet it, i learned from it and have never made the same mistake again.
forgive yourself-at leasy you learned that one night stands are not for you and you can avoid them in future.
legally it doesnt sound like he did anything wrong. morally he was bang out of order. if you see him again avoidhim-pretend he doesnt exist and get on with your life
If you had a "great time" then whats your problem?
it doesnt matter whether she enjoyed it at the time or not. the point is he is upset now and regrets it. OP you are not dirty or bad or a slut. stop thinking that way. you just need to accept what happened-happened and tell yourself you wont do it again.
did you feel pressured? is that why your so upset? or mis it just coz in hindsight-you feel its wrong to be so intimate with a stranger?
if its the latter-its okay. you have learned something new about yourself like i did with my bad experience that nsa is not for you.
your young-its okay to make mistakes. just learn from them and move forward
I wouldn't look at this as a dirty thing at all...you enjoyed it....don't let this poison your mind about sex....it was just poor judgement because you are 17.....most 17 year olds do stupid things on impulse so stop beating yourself up. This experience will teach you to be more selective on who you sleep with. You will be fine.
Lets hope it teaches you that you lose control of your pants when you've been drinking so: No more drinking while wearing pants.
Whoops read that wrong... you were'nt drunk so my advice (although the above rings true lol) forget about it. Just don't go back for more because I think that any guy at that age that would get down with a 17 year old is missing something in his life that will take some doing to overcome. Ego, inner creep, getting over a shitty LT relationship, whatever. Something that won't be good for you in the long run.
Chalk it up as experience and stay the hell away from him before he has you addicted.
Why has trevors posts been deleted he was right for once.She wasn't drunk and was in her senses , he didn't take advantage of her, she consented to it.
She is 17, hardly mature enough to be able to consent to having sex with a 35 year old man. He should have known better. Creep.Quote:
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^^^ Boom. ^^^Quote:
Originally Posted by lalalita [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
UnBoom. ;0) The simple act of her consenting does not negate the fact that he could very well be a creep.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rowen [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Teen girls I tell ya
I can guarantee the OP will be back within a month creating another thread on how she is feeling guilty about having regular sex with a married 35 years old man.
Watch this space.
But it was HER CHOICE to go through with it. If he was a creep, she could have said no. I've heard this happening with college guys. Some girls hook up with guys and if the girl decides it was wrong and that he was "a pervert" an innocent guy who only had a night of fun with someone he made sure was consenting gets labeled as a rapist. At least, that's what has happened a few times in the USA. Now, if he were really a creep, he'd expect sex from her all the time or be trying to persuade her to hop into bed with him again. So far, I have yet to see proof of that. Boom. :PQuote:
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At 17, she isn't mature enough to be able to make such a choice with good judgement. He should have been the adult and never have let it happen.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rowen [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It would have been entirely different if they had been the same age.
yes... lots of young people at the age of 13-18 give consent to have sex with older people. That doesn't automatically make it right, Rowan. If you had a daughter would you be okay with this old man laying your 17 yr old daughter just because she said it was okay? I think that you'd be a littleLESS outraged a little more accepting of thie situation if he was actually her age. Sorry, I just don't agree with him not being a creep.. pervert for sure if he has a daughter her age. I will forever believe that there is something wrong with a man's psyche who will bed someone that young when he's that age.
As for enjoying herself: (whoever bought that aspect up ) Did you know that many rape victims are riddled with guilt because they orgasmed during their assault? Please lets keep this real shall we.
When I was 17, I was pretty capable of making decisions. While some were crazy, off the wall, or wreck less...I still consciously made the choice to do them. 17 isn't 12 or 13.
Well, yea. I think we're all capable of making decisions after the age of 3. (will I take that cookie I was told I couldn't have or will I not take that cookie I was told I couldn't have) :o) Obviously... OP was not capable of making a decision that she would be happy with. Him being the mature adult. he should have told her to go go go away, cum again another day if he was a decent adult who needn't take advantage of every opportunity that presented itself that is.
We don't know the circumstances, though. She may have been the one initiating it or even convincing him. I don't think age matters here. She was legal in her country and no longer a minor. Even at the age of 30, a person can think they want something one moment and then regret it later on.
What the hell? How does a 17 year old even get alone with a 35 years old stranger?
Do you know how dangerous that could have been?
I mean seriously, how horny were you that you would do such a thing? Your parents would be disgusted!
Please have some self-respect and never do anything like this with any guy of any age again please :( sex should be with someone you care about (i.e. boyfriend) not a stranger.
some people are being way too harsh on OP here. when i was 17 my dad was 32 so to me that is creepy!
i know i have changed and matured a lot in the past 6 or 7 years. you may be physically ready for sex at that age. it doesnt mean that you are emotionally ready
and rowan-that night in the car-i tried to make it obvious through my body languagethat i wasnt interested. he kept trying to pull me on top of him-i kept holding back. it was obvious to anyone with half a brain that i didnt want to have sex with him but then he climbed on me, whipped off my underwear-it all happened really fast and i didnt no how to handle it.
so because i didnt say "no" out loud-does that mean i gave consent? does that mean what happened was okay and he was just having fun? i lost my v to that wanker
the only reason i wasnt traumatised is coz he stopped straight away when i told him to and i thought that made it okay at the time. in hidsite it wasnt okay at all. i dont trust men anymore wben im out. i avoid drunken twats like the plague and anyone who tries to come onto me when im drunk gets glared or shouted at
... ffs ... Sparkle.. this is what you told a man ]Why the double standard for a woman.Quote:
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Is it your cultural brainwashing?Quote:
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ill just add that most men who respect women would not shag a drunk girl. my bf wouldnt sleep with me if i was drunk until we were together 6months and i convinced him its okay.
It's HIS age compared to what her age is that is the issue, Lalalita...Quote:
Originally Posted by lalalita [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
And he should have been the one telling her "no" and leaving.Quote:
Originally Posted by lalalita [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Age is all that matters here, if he had been her age it wouldn't have been a big deal and I'm sure OP herself wouldn't be feeling so bad about it. The fact that she was legal means nothing - she wasn't mature or experienced enough to be able to make that sort of decision. I know I wasn't when I was 17. I thought I was at the time, but looking back I know that I wasn't.Quote:
I don't think age matters here. She was legal in her country and no longer a minor. Even at the age of 30, a person can think they want something one moment and then regret it later on.
ffs a young girl comes here bawling her f**king eyes out coz she regrets sleeping with a guy old enough to be hee father and some of you people give her a hard time and scare her off. a**holes. this may be her only outlet for advice. a few nice words wouldnt go astray..
and saying its fine coz she liked it at the time.. bs shes not emotionally equipped to feal with this
OP if you are v upset over this see a counsellor sweetie
What has this got to do with anything? She wasn't drunk.She is of legal age.She consented.She mentioned he "wasn't even goodlooking" maybe she regrets screwing an ugly older dude.**** knowsQuote:
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