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30-07-13, 06:14 PM
michelle23

no strings attached

I dont know about you guys but I am getting tired of people settling for FWB. It always gets complicated and messy, feelings get involved and someone gets hurt..

What is the point of it and why does it seem like a new "thing" now where everybody wants to try it? Is it that these people are just insecure, they want a relationship but the other doesn't so they settle for whatever crumb he/she is willing to give in the hope that one day they will miraculously fall in love? Or is it just since this new film came out a few years ago "no strings attached" and "friends with benefits" and again our teenagers and young adults are following the media like sheep as usual

What do you guys think
30-07-13, 08:46 PM
horndog

Who cares. If they are consenting adults wanting sex without a committed relationship then more power to them. It's certainly better than picking up different people in a bar whenever you want sex.
30-07-13, 09:49 PM
michelle23

It is a common problem on loveforum. That is why I brought it up. And I think at least one person nearly always ends up feeling used and hurt. At least the kind of people who pick up people in bars usually have zero expectations
31-07-13, 04:19 AM
hardenford

nobody cares, it is as is.
31-07-13, 04:20 AM
hardenford

Quote:

Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It is a common problem on loveforum. That is why I brought it up. And I think at least one person nearly always ends up feeling used and hurt. At least the kind of people who pick up people in bars usually have zero expectations

lol.. so? you can't control what others do.
31-07-13, 05:09 AM
dem862

Well, it is because people want sex without a relationship. Duh. Either they want a relationship and can't get one, or they don't want one. And not everybody is relationship material anyway, maybe they are abusive or they cheat, or they just don't want to give up their freedom. Sex is not just a benefit for the relationship oriented. We were all born with sex organs. With one or two notable exceptions of course.
31-07-13, 05:33 AM
michelle23

But one nearly always wants more. Thats my point
31-07-13, 08:13 AM
hardenford

and? LOL!! you can't control others. get that through your thick ****ing skull.. maybe you're drunk on Guinness or something....
31-07-13, 08:24 AM
michelle23

Who says im trying to control anyone? F**k off you troll. Im only discussing a topic i am curious about and wondering what other people think. Get out of my thread if you have nothing to contribute
31-07-13, 08:29 AM
hardenford

make me. lol.. pussy.

I know your agenda. you control EVERYBODY lol..

My opinion is that if people want sex, so be it. it's a free world. and?
31-07-13, 08:32 AM
michelle23

So you made your point. Now get outa my thread
31-07-13, 08:33 AM
hardenford

as said, make me. lol..
31-07-13, 08:38 AM
michelle23

Ill just ignore you till you shut up. Go ahead, talk to yourself. Have fun crazy
31-07-13, 08:42 AM
hardenford

lol.. so you can't make me. lol!!!!!!!

go ahead and ignore, see if i care. ha. you take internet communciation too seriously...
31-07-13, 08:00 PM
michelle23

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31-07-13, 08:06 PM
searock

Oops, I reported hardenford and only later realized it was already dead. Sorry mods :-).
31-07-13, 08:14 PM
michelle23

haha i tried to email him back saying blah blah blah coz hes bashing me and it wouldn't let me. Glad hes banned again
31-07-13, 09:12 PM
LovingDad86

Years back I had a FWB and it was great no complications we were good friends that started sleeping with each other. It never effected our friendship and our feelings remained only as friends.

From early this year just out of a 5 year relationship which was one hell of a rocky road. So now to be honest a no strings situation would suit me fine.

Whats the problem its a choice between 2 people. If they are happy with the situation then who is anyone else to say that is wrong?
01-08-13, 01:15 AM
dickriculous

Quote:

Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I dont know about you guys but I am getting tired of people settling for FWB. It always gets complicated and messy, feelings get involved and someone gets hurt..

What is the point of it and why does it seem like a new "thing" now where everybody wants to try it? Is it that these people are just insecure, they want a relationship but the other doesn't so they settle for whatever crumb he/she is willing to give in the hope that one day they will miraculously fall in love? Or is it just since this new film came out a few years ago "no strings attached" and "friends with benefits" and again our teenagers and young adults are following the media like sheep as usual

What do you guys think

1) If anyone is "settling" for fwb they are doin it wrong. But not everyone in that type of relationship is settling, many of them seek it out and they have their own reasons for doing so.

2) It's not a "new thing" at all, it's been going on for as long as humans, hell as long as living organisms have existed.

3) The point of it is to get your sexual release without any strings attached. If it's not suitable for you then that's fine but it's not your place to say whether it's suitable for anyone other than yourself.

4) You have the media thing backwards. FWB type relationships were going on for eons before movies ever became a thing, it's the movies that put something already happening on display. The overwhelming majority of us grew up on media that made marriage/monogamy/etc out to be this end all be all holy grail of happiness or even worse, a substitute for accomplishment. So if anything people who are given to that mentality are the real media sheep here.

5) I'm sure there's some cases like you say about how people settle for FWB if they can't get a relationship, but by no stretch of the imagination is this the primary motive for FWB. Sometimes you just need a release without any drama and without any emotional investment. How well it goes is dependent on PERSONAL responsibility. You seem to be blaming the fwb relationship archetype for the fact that a small minority of people with no self-awareness are jumping into them without knowing if it's the right thing for them at this point in their life. That's not the type of relationship's fault, it's the person being irresponsible. If you have no tolerance then don't drink, if you're susceptible to gout then don't eat too much protein. If you can't handle a fwb relationship then don't join one! None of these things are inherently bad in and of themselves, it's their misuse that causes all of the problems.
02-08-13, 12:48 PM
Jffs24

FWB's never work out right -- cuz someone she loves the other and gets butthurt. I don't go in for that stuff. You get crazy stalker ex's that way, imho.
14-08-13, 10:02 PM
stadt

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Originally Posted by horndog [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Who cares. If they are consenting adults wanting sex without a committed relationship then more power to them. It's certainly better than picking up different people in a bar whenever you want sex.

wow.. I like your tone. The regulator of what is said and what is of value...