I want to hurt my ex as he hurt me (wants another girl and has double standards)
I get the feeling he still likes me, so i was thinking of saying i slept with someone else whilst i was with him or now to say im over him
What are your suggestions?
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I want to hurt my ex as he hurt me (wants another girl and has double standards)
I get the feeling he still likes me, so i was thinking of saying i slept with someone else whilst i was with him or now to say im over him
What are your suggestions?
I suggest you use both at the same time. I also suggest you stop communicating and actually get over him.
If you wana hurt him-then shag one of his mates. Now get over him and move on
I suggest you grow up. Remember the adage, "Two wrongs don't make a right"? It's true.
Ya lol but revenge is sweet.
I enjoyed my revenge on this girl who my ex cheated on me with..
Long story short. She was an ugly bitch, jealous of me, went after my bf, she had no interest in him-just wanted to hurt me. Anyway he was a loser so cheated. Then this guy M started talking to me, asking me out. I wasnt interested. Big coincidence the girl had a major crush on him, when i found that out i agreed to date him. The look on her face WAS WORTH it lol
i hurt her way more than she hurt me coz she was OBSESSED with M. As for the other guy-he was nothing special and neither of us wanted him.
M was a lovely guy. Brought back all my confidence that loser and ugly shattered. It was all his idea to make her jealous. It was only supposed to be a casual thing and i told him not to get too close but he did. And in the end he was hurt. Still feel bad
but revenge is nice sometimes especially when someone screws you around
Youre showing your age....or the fact you're IrishQuote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Surf that was when i was 17 haha. I wouldnt do that now
So very true. You honestly want to know what he's going to do if you **** one of his friends? He's going to **** one of your friends right back... And then you wouldn't have a situation with just two people anymore. It will have escalated to four people, where you could very well hurt others in the process. What if his friend developed feelings for you after a one night stand? Think about the people around you before you go off and do crazy shit like this.Quote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Hah I doubt he's that stupid to fall for it. Just go out and get drunk and forget about it like everybody else.Quote:
Originally Posted by goodgalgonebad [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
And everyone thinks I'm the troll?Quote:
Originally Posted by goodgalgonebad [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You think he likes you but you want to hurt him. What exactly would you achieve in this goal? Would you feel better? Strong? Happier? Immortal? Strong?
As cheesy and weak as it sounds but it's true, 2 wrongs don't make a right and sooner or later, all the cruel things you've done will bite back at you twice as much.
I used to be a rebel once, yeah, don't believe me? I'd drink till I was sick, I started smoking cigarettes at 14 and would smoke in the toilets in school, I set off the fire extinguishers, I threw a brick in someone's window, I smoked cannabis till I was 21 and since then after I released what the heck I was doing to myself and others around me, I knew I was wrong and now I'm paying for it. July is my month of my birthday, wanna know what I did? Popped pills, slit my wrists, strangled myself with electrical chords and sprained my right ankle all because I'm ashamed of my past and trying so hard to redeem myself but it's sick, dark, twisted animals like you who come on sites like these and post such hurtful, hatred posts.
So sick.
Edit: This world has no justice. If I were any of those religious prophets (if they do exist, I dunno), the world would become a desert.
I was selfish and niave, I've changed. Selfishness and greed gets us all nowhere.
I suggest going out with other guys or guyfriends and then posting those pictures on Facebook.
Well if he dumped you and wants to be with someone else, then I doubt he'll care. You'll probably just wind up making yourself look bad.Quote:
Originally Posted by goodgalgonebad [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Not only is it a dumb idea, it is also an outright lie. Why don't you go no contact, heal and then actually find a new guy that appreciates your maturity and level headiness. As Mr Mackay would say: Don't do any grade 8 stuff if you're out of junior high. Mmm'kay!
I quote this quote.Quote:
Originally Posted by AbigailR [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
First off. You shouldn't even care.
To make it short. This type of behavior puts off a huge red flag. Good quality mature woman don't do this.
The hell is wrong with you? SMH.
The best revenge is getting on with your life
I think some people are being a little harsh on the OP here, we don't know anything about the relationship, they could have been together for years and then he went off with another girl.
I've been in that situation before, my ex-boyfriend chose another girl and it completely ruined my self-esteem and I was devastated. It's only natural to want to hurt them like they hurt you, especially if they act like they don't care.
But don't sink down to their level OP, I know you probably want to hurt them and if it's true that he still likes you, the best way is to let go and to move on. Cut all contact with him, give yourself some space to heal, go out and meet new people. This will leave him wondering if you act like you don't care.
But make sure you aren't motivated by hurting him when you move on, it should be for yourself, taking spiteful revenge will only make you feel better in the short term.
Honestly, the best revenge is to be happy with your life; to move on like they never existed. To ensure they never have reason to think you're missing them or thinking about them. Doing anything to hurt them will simply indicate that they're still on your mind which equals a win for them and a lose for you.
The added benefit to following the above advice is that you'll actually move on with your life and soon enough, you won't be thinking about them; you won't care enough to want to hurt them.
Sleeping with someone just to make them jealous will probably hurt you more than it does them; it's your body so I wouldn't be trashing it around just to get a reaction.
Thanks for defending me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love is war [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Just to let everyone know i was with this guy for four years
So i wana beat the crap out of him
Also thanks michelle23 for defending me too
The best way I got revenge on my ex that I mentioned early was to ignore him, act like he doesn't exist, he is dead to you. If he comes crawling back (which mine did) just laugh at him and tell him your the best thing he could ever have and now someone else will get all the benefits of being your man coz he f**ked up and you are worth more.
Move on with your life, meet someone else, be happy. He will get his karma without you doing anything to him.
When I got revenge on that girl, it was mine and M's little secret so it didn't make me or him look bad to anyone. Nobody knew it was to piss her off so it didnt make me look like a twat haha and it really worked. It hurt her a lot. But if I went back and had the same chance again, I wouldn't do it. It wasn't worth hurting M for and making him a rebound. At the time I thought he was okay with being used to get revenge (it was all his idea) but now in hindsight I know the only reason he went along with it was because he was hoping I would develop feelings for him.
Its not worth hurting people for. You will move on, you will meet someone else and you will have a good man by your side who wont hurt you. You will learn from this experience and get everything you could possibly want and more. I did. That is the best revenge. Believe me he wont be happy-that is his karma my ex is miserable with a girl who was cheating on him for months but he knows he cant do any better so he chooses to stay with her like the doormat he is.
Oh, don't mind her, she's just one of those stereotypical "I'm so bad ass tough guy" members who makes evil posts or is generally just a cold hearted woman with no soul.Quote:
Originally Posted by JoeyJR [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
To be honest. I'm not going to bother dating anymore, I think both genders are most ( -most NOT all- ) are all the same and are just self-centered, careless, greedy, snobby, tight people.
'Some' women whine and whine saying "Oh my boyfriend doesn't treat me right, I want a sensitive man who'll understand me better" but as soon as she gets one, she abuses him! She gets all angry, bitchy, takes advantage of him and makes him feel worthless and then eventually cheats on him or leaves him for someone else.
'Some' men just want sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, sex and I did forget to mention SEX!!! They're so obsessed with reproducing, it makes me wonder if they're constantly on viagra. Most heterosexual men hate gay men yet they are obsessed with doing women in the butt which really hurts. This was "supposedly" the natural way gay men have sex, according to stereotypes. They just want blow jobs & anal sex 24/7! Yes, sex can be great, beautiful and amazing and it relaxes you too but for pee sakes, it gets freakin' boring after a while! One day, a guy's ball bag will just suddenly explode after the amounts of times he's beated off or harassed a vulnerable woman into bed.
I officially quite relationships. They're pointless. Love is a fake, temporary feeling and is just an excuse for disgusting lust.
... lolzzz... :emot89:
To Love is War, Michelle and the OP:
Whether or not she plans to hurt him in a good or bad way, harming another living being is just pure heartless. I can understand if she's angry if he cheated on her or hurt her but what exactly would she achieve out of vengeance? She'd be just as bad as him! Destroying another life just because they destroyed your's won't fix anything and I mean this in a non-angry way. I'm trying to stop the OP from making a huge mistake.
Suffering is never the answer, whether he did bad or good. If he suffers, you will too because everything will all come back to you, I know this for a fact because I've been raped, abused, bullied and my life destroyed and I plotted revenge on those who hurt me but it made me feel worse because then I realised, it will affect my reputation.
People in my town hate me and think I'm freak for my outbursts.
Revenge won't solve it, just find a different guy if you're so upset, let it go!
If you're that angry at him, do you really love him and want him back?
Is the suffering worth it all?
Move on for sure. But make sure he knows it. Don't be obvious about it though or else he would think you are doing it for his attention. Got to be subtle.Quote:
Originally Posted by TablesandChairs [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
The best revenge is simply getting on with your life. By seeking to enact revenge you are only confirming that your ex still holds all the power in your past relationship with him as well as future relationships if you allow his behavior to change yours.
She doesnt want to destroy his life. She just wants him to understand how he hurt her. I told her in my last post that I was 17 back then. I wouldn't react the same way now. Sure Id be angry and hurt but it would be his loss because he would lose me. That is the biggest revenge IMO and I would move on and meet someone better and he would forever regret losing the best thing he has ever had. I dont waste time on anyone. Screw me once and Im gone.Quote:
Originally Posted by LonelyHeart26 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
The first time I actually see you having common sense without being rude. Congrats! *sarcasm*Quote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
And let her ruin her life as well? Later she might regret her decision or will feel bad! And don't act like I don't know how it feels, I was raped, almost killed and abused, I feel her pain! I just don't want the OP to end up doing something stupid just because she's jealous or wants a guy to notice her. She is worth and deserves better than that. And you can call me any name under the sun and throw nasty, spiteful comments, I've said it before and I'll say it again, revenge and greed will get her NOwhere!Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
If she wants him to know she's hurt, she should just be direct and tell him straight up how he's made her feel, not be selfish and emotional hurt another being.
He's still a person!
Uh,, fxck it! You little girls go do whatever, I'm outta this thread but I still find it selfish & cold hearted and that the OP will make a huge mistake she'll later regret. It won't make her feel better seeing dead or crying. Sure, she'll feel better but she'll then feel bad that she did something just as wrong as he did and it'll make her feel 10 times worse!
And yes, I'm one of those peace activists, don't like it? Become a moderator yourself and wipe me off this message board!
All I want is for people to not be stupid and ruin life, life is already screwed up as it is.
************** END OF DEBATE!!! ********
What are you talking about? I told her to get on with her life and forget him. Did you even read my post?
Sorry you were hurt. The people who did that to you are horrible but i am not one of those people. I have never been rude or nasty to you or insulted you lonelyheart so please stop bashing everyone here. If you have a prob with certain members take it up with them.
I think everyone needs to see the real reason for this thread.....to help someone feel better by letting them know they are not alone and we are here to listen......a place to vent, release some of the pain. Just talking about it but not really doing it, can be therapeutic.
Again we should be focusing on helping and giving honest guidance rather than bickering over a difference of opinion given by others.
OP I wish you well, hope you are able to heal, move on quickly and find new happiness.