why wont the men answer this? maybe I need to bleach my skin
why wont the men answer this? maybe I need to bleach my skin
Dont go the MJ road and become white !
You see if you are good you will be good in any color. Black white yellow, red. Just like cars - its not the colour that really matters but car iteslf. If you are good people will like you no matter what.
my features must be too black then
Maybe just stop eating sugar and lose some weight.
who said I was fat?
I think black sis mentioned it in your older topic. At least you are not denying that you eat lot of sugar - thats good.
why do men keep rejecting my skin color. I want to kill myself
Whats really is bothering you? Im serious, no jokes about sugar anymore. Say whats keeping you down, Im here to help.
I'm being rejected by men because of my darkskin and west African features. No one can seem to help me or give advice on what I should do. I am considering voluntary euthanasia because my existence is completely uselessQuote:
Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
We all get rejected. No matter how good you are you cant like everyone. You are original not universal. That means not everyone will like you but those who will gona find you perfect for them.
but no one wants me. most men want lightskinned women and I feel ugly and unworthy of love. I cry everyday about thisQuote:
Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
There is a lot of white girls who thinks like you. They dont think they are beautiful and they think that men goo only for standart women. Thats why they end up alone. For me it really dont matter. I been attracted to black girl once and it wasnt the colour that made it but the character that made it impossible to happen.
Im a white guy and I always been envious on black people how good tan they have. looks like they not even trying. While Im fighting hard for my tan. Also black guys have bigger dicks. And it always amzes me how open minded and simple black people are. I like that.
What makes you think it's your skin color that they don't like? Maybe they just don't like you? Lol, no offense or anything, but have you ever actually had a man tell you straight up, that he didn't want to date you, because you are too dark? That's ridiculous. Stop focusing on the negative. Find your features that you can use to your advantage! And stop being so down on yourself. Every woman is beautiful, you just need to radiate that confidence that you KNOW you are beautiful!!
Yes, I have had a guy tell me that I was too dark and that most lightskinned women look better than me. I'm not making this upQuote:
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That means it wasnt the right guy for you. Dont concetrate on negative.
I have posted this on my FB wall
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its not just one guy who feels that way. there are tons of them who doQuote:
Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
We have both provided you with advice, and all you do is complain, how about a THANK YOU. No one will ever be able to help you, if you can't help yourself!!!
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I don't think there will ever be a solution to my problem unless I can alter my appearance to look more mixed race
The only thing you need to change is your attitude!!Quote:
Originally Posted by coldestdayever [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Then do what you have to do and stop crying or you gona cry alone.
Good Luck !
why do men reject me for lightskinned women? why? the men seem to be avoiding answering this question
Because there is no answer. It's all in your head
I know exactly what you are going through.
I'm in love with a white guy but I'm south asian. I have lately been depressed alot thinking about it. I go to college where there are tons of beautiful white girls, and to be honest, I feel ugly compared to them, with my dark hair and brown eyes.. I'm not racist or anything, but that's just how I feel, and idk why. I'm in love with a white guy, he is intelligent, fun loving, and caring. but i always feel like I don't have a chance with him, because white guys dont look twice at me. sometimes i can't help but cry... I want him so much. :'( but i feel it will never happen...
I can also be very shy, so its hard to let out my feelings to him
That's exactly how I feel. I don't know why God even make darkskinned black women. What purpose do we serve? No one finds us attractive.Quote:
Originally Posted by callmyname [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
they don't. we're just used to seeing more attractive light skinned people in the media compared to darker skinned.
black is black, i personally couldn't care less. do not have a preference when it comes to skin tone.
also, doing something stupid like bleaching your skin or whatever for the sake of male approval is a turn off.
OP lighter skin won't make you any prettier. It doesn't change your facial features. I've seen a before and after of a dark guy who bleached his skin, and he was still ugly. I bet you're not even that dark.
Lol. Some black guys really do like light skin but its funny because most light skin girls i know like dark skin guys. I'm pure caramel.and love it. My skin is buttery. I havent had a problem getting any complexion. I really think it's you. You need to do some soul searching. Lightskin, brown whatever..no matter how light you are, to the outside races...you're still black___even though we diff shades of brown, technically not black.Quote:
Originally Posted by coldestdayever [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
When you're of a lighter complexion you don't have to be extremely pretty to attract male attention. the bar is much lower. I see plenty of homely light women with men. however when you are a dark woman, you have to be ridiculously attractive.Quote:
Originally Posted by paythebills [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Some guys will reject you based on your skin colour alone, those guys are not worth bothering with.Quote:
Originally Posted by coldestdayever [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Some guys will reject you based on other stuff (maybe you don't make enough effort to talk to them or style yourself well or something) and if you want to work on yourself you could try improving in those areas.
Some guys will like you the way you are right now (yep, everything about you) and if you don't want to change anything find guys like these.
How many guys do you know? How is your social life? The more people you meet, the likelier you are to find someone who fancies you.
Have you ever tried going out clubbing dressed up to the nines and seeing how many lads hit on you? I'm sure they would, that'd let you know some guys find you attractive
LOL white guys love Asian girls :lol:Quote:
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No, other races don't view lightskinned and biracial people as fully Black. If they did, then they wouldn't always ask them if they are mixed. Or selectively use them in ads when marketing products.Quote:
Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Even white men have said that biracial girls are prettier than fully black girls, which really hurts my feelings. I don't know what purpose I serve as a darkskinned woman if most men don't find us appealing. Why are we here? why didn't we go extinct so we don't have to suffer?
I can't find ANY guys who like me the way I am. That is the whole purpose of this thread. I am routinely looked over for lighterskinned women.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sparkling [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
and I would never go to a club only to face more rejection. I'd probably kill myself afterwards
You're an ignorant idiot.
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i'm not east asian(chinese, japanese, korean) but south asian(indian, pakistani, nepal)
That could be true. I have never had any issues with that. Also, for me to talk to anyone outside my race they have to stand out only because I have a natural attractions to guys of my own. Anyway, other races check us out alot because I watch them. And they seem intimidated, not all but some because honey, I looks sharp. As I told you before, you have to stand out.Quote:
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Black people are simple minded? Wow...that is racist.
I can't even get guys of my own race to notice meQuote:
Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
How do I stand out for white men?? dye my hair blonde?? what is it?
I desperately want to marry out because I don't want my children to suffer like I am. I want my daughters to have it easier in terms of dating
I doubt your skin colour is the sole or even main reason if guys are going for girls over you. Attractiveness varies so much depending on how much effort you put in, and guys are often fickle - I've had male acquaintances suck up to me when I'm "done up" in a sundress with nice shoes and barely even speak to me when I'm in gym clothing with my hair all messy.Quote:
Originally Posted by coldestdayever [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Is your figure OK, do you exercise regularly and eat right? Regarding your face, do you take care of your skin by moisturising, get your brows and upper lip threaded? Do you wear a hairstyle that suits you and style it regularly? Do you dress in a way that suits your figure, what is your fashion sense like? Changing these will make any girl hot, regardless of skin colour.
So am I :P It's not an issue at all, go for it!! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by callmyname [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
South Asian guys do struggle but not a problem with us girls :D