Girl mentions stargazing in her profile. How do I use this to flirt and say she's cute? Something something something about going stargazing with her something something only thing I really want to see is her smile or something something.
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Girl mentions stargazing in her profile. How do I use this to flirt and say she's cute? Something something something about going stargazing with her something something only thing I really want to see is her smile or something something.
I wouldn't use it to flirt. Instead I'd use it to find common ground in your interests....which is equally as important as flirting. That's if you like astromony...
Show your smart side. Use the word 'nebula' in a sentence with her.
I agree - intelligence is one of the sexiest thing about anyone's personality... you have it, use it. I mean, let it show when you talk with a new girl. Just don't get cocky.
Ask her what her favorite stars are, if she has a telescope, if she's into astronomy... that is, if you are into astronomy. Otherwise find another common interest and take it from there.
Uh. Maybe jumping the gun, but what happens when it is sexy time?
There is no sexy time for me.
Have you seen a doctor, YC?
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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well, I hope I can follow these suggestions to a T. Have to pay $1 (only one but still, annoying) just to message her so it has to be PERFECT..Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Not yet but I did fill out a small little questionnaire, shows slight autism likely..Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
basilandthyme saw that coming :-).
Yeah, she did.
I still think you should actually see a doctor.
Trying to find out how.
Have to pay for $1 to message her? haha. What kind of website are you on now? Don't break the bank.
okcupid. It's not a LOT of money (obviously) but still, the fact one HAS to do it...Kind of cheapens the experience.
Wow...that sucks. I thought that site is free.
It generally is but there's an inbox limit which prompts a dollar payment for them to "look the other way."
So YC how's the dating going?
YOUNG COSMO ( it's harder to flirt online, since a majority comes from the body language )
can't you just find some social places from something on meetup.com, or do speed dating, etc. ?
Online dating was just a fab, it's a bunch of lonely people, giving false hope to most males.
Stop over analyzing everything, just do what you feel for that
moment and there wont be a reason to be nervous.
It's like approaching a girl, is the hardest thing in the world.
Show them who you are, if that person doesn't except it, move to the next one,
by not trying in real life, you aren't getting the opportunities you need to the find
the right person, and even if you feel that person online might be for you,
she doesn't need to respond, as for in person, you either get rejected, get
a conversation started or some explanation as to why it wont work.
P.S. there's someone for everyone, and no it ain't your looks, your fine, and your
height doesn't matter, you can attract anyone with confidence and great personality.
You just have to believe in the person that you are, and you'll see the results.
Same as it's been for 23 years now: non-existent, lol. Never been on a date before.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lord Darkshire [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
you might find something funny, clever or useful in amongst all these, they have different categories.
http://www.pickuplinesgalore.com/
Well, most women expect there to be sexy time eventually. I dated one last year I met on cupid who complained I wasn't moving fast enough. But she had revealed early on that she had herpes. I was trying to make up my mind if I was willing to do anything with her with a condom. But I just couldn't get myself to make a move after 3 or 4 dates. She was fine in every other respect, except the herpes thing. She eventually broke it off with me saying there wasn't enough energy, or some such nonsense. I think it was because I wasn't ready to jump into bed with her.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Holy Christ, dude!
Good for you! That is why she has herpes... what a sick lady!
So who wants to help a fellow out generously by ghostwriting? I simply can't converse with a girl through text. In this case, it's another Craigslist girl, the only place I find anything. In person, well, if I ever actually GOT that far, I could handle it. But text is one of the things in life that scares me most. There's too much potential for something to go wrong and not have a chance to rectify it. Text has to be absolutely PERFECT. Hence, I freeze up and can't reply. Help?
Oh little buddy, text doesn't have to be perfect, in most cases the reader will pick out or pass over bits and pieces anyways. Could I ghost write for you? Yeah, I could do that, but that won't help you. That would be writing from my perspective, writing about my experiences, and getting them to like my personality.
Text or talk I don't have issues conversing with women, and you shouldn't hinge your whole world on a single message. Even if you or I write the perfect message, it doesn't always guarantee a response, and even if you get a response it doesn't mean things will progress.
Its all about learning how to interact properly, not so much about tricking women into meeting you. Its not that hard to differentiate yourself from the online masses, I mean look at this site alone, this isn't a statistical anomaly, a lot of people just have no standards in the way they talk and treat others. Thats a good place to start... as if you're looking to meet someone online (and offline), you have to start at a place of respect.
I wish I could follow your advice perfectly. Unfortunately, I have trouble following directions. I'm insisting on getting checked for autism tomorrow and possibly have the test done on Monday..
For what it's worth, I'm not sure a adult diagnosis brings much to the table - other than explanation for behaviours. Though perhaps someone who gets a dx may open their minds to the fact that they way they interpret the world isn't necessarily how everyone else sees it.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
If you do/don't get a dx, how would you expect it to change things for you?
Out of curiosity, how are you managing to get checked out so quickly? Is the person you're seeing an expert on ASD?
Check out the Wrongplanet dot net forum. Click on discussion. It is a huge board devoted to autistic people and aspergers syndrome. You sound like you might fit in there. Many of them will never be in a relationship. Some of them manage to even get married and have kids and hold jobs.
you should use your own thoughts and words to win over someone you like, because if you fake it with others words the beginning of the relationship what do you think she will think and feel about you when she realizes you faked all you said? most people prefer a real you and honesty. being awkward isn't always a drawback.
I have a referral to an expert, yes. The main thing is comfort in knowing I don't have some anomalous issue and that maybe with treatment and medication, I could get HELP instead of sitting around wondering what the **** is wrong with me.Quote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yeah, knowing what the problem is would be a great help. It's about finding that there are others like you.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Not sure what type of treatment and medication you're referring to though. Meds can be given in cases where there are behavioural issues, but you've never said anything to suggest that you need meds. Likewise there is no treatment - the only real option for an Aspie is pretending to be normal. Social skill classes and support groups would help in this but don't expect your personality to change with therapy.
I gave you a quiz a while ago and you said that your results didn't come even close to suggesting Aspergers. Why do you now believe that an ASD dx is possible?
I took that same one recently, when I began to experience a worsening in my condition. The previous time, I might have given answers because I was afraid to possibly be autistic and so answered less consistent with my character.
Yep, faking your answers will do it. So what did you score this time? I did a similar one again recently and got yet another borderline score.
See if you can get your hands on some autobiographies written by those who are on the spectrum. You may find it interesting to see how much or how little you relate to. Of course, you may also have very different experiences...but it's interesting to know what others experience.
Pretending to be Normal by Liane Holliday Willey
Look me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's by John Elder Robison
Life Behind Glass by Wendy Lawson
I've read and enjoyed all, but the one by John Robison was a terrific read.
While I was on Amazon, I also saw this book which may interest you: http://www.amazon.com/Asperger-Syndrome-Anxiety-Successful-Management/dp/184310895X/ref=pd_bxgy_b_text_z I haven't read it, but it gets some really good reviews
Of course, you may not get a dx - but if you do have a number of traits AS, the books could still be useful. Or at least, interesting.
Out of curiosity, do you think in pictures? Like when I say "car" do you simply know what a car is....or do you immediately visualise a car in your mind? I recently discovered that my daughter (not AS but very left brain...good at math, tech, science) thinks in pictures. Apparently she thought that everyone visualises words like this. My son isn't eloquent enough to tell me if he sees in pictures. Despite all my traits, I don't see in pictures...but I find the whole thing fascinating.
I just wanted to clarify about meds. While there are no autism specific meds, there are meds which will deal with certain symptoms of it. For eg; I have been on anti-depressants for years. I started on them for depression when my son was little and found that it changed me so that I feel kinda 'normal'. And as a bonus, my obsessive traits have lessened significantly and I'm far less needy and clingy. For better or worse, the change in me is so significant that hubby couldn't bear the thought of me going off the meds.
And if anxiety is an issue, then there are anxiety meds around.
AD can work?! I must have had an insufficient dose before.
Or the wrong brand. You may need to work closely with your prescribing doctor to get it right.
Say something like: "When I think of you I see a bright star that draws an astronaut into the depth of infinity." And wait for whatever happens.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
While advice is always appreciative, I don't think that would be appropriate necessarily seeing as how he doesn't really know her well, nor is this an instance where we know whether he's seen her visually, or what the nature of her profile actually is. I think that would come off too strongly, and... creepily.Quote:
Originally Posted by Agnus [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That's how it works. If you want to attract a girl's attention you should stimulate her imagination. If you don't know her personally, the images should obviously be impersonal. Actually it doesn't matter what you say. You can say anything. Girls value your attention, not the meaning of your words. OK. Pick out a stargazing picture and describe what you feel when looking at it.Quote:
Originally Posted by LifeInflux [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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Eh, thats not how it works.... it matters quite a bit what you say to women. In my experience, being practical, observational and humorous goes a lot further than saying nice erroneous things that have little substance. Beautiful women get complimented a hundred times daily, I find that if you're really interested, shameless remarks don't go as far as repartee and genuine questions.