Is the gut ALWAYS right?

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14-10-13, 09:31 AM
Matix125

Is the gut ALWAYS right?

Story:

I've been talking with this girl through text and phone for about 2 going on 3 weeks. We've called each other babe. She and her girlfriend made a trip to another state for the weekend. I respect her space while she's with her friend i.e. less frequent texts and calls. We're on a 3 hour time difference right now while she's in another state.

I texted her the other night while I was going to bed something like "getting some shut-eye, missing you, good night." Then immediately fell off to sleep. When I woke up in the morning I had 4 lines of replies.

The replies were definitely a drunk text and looked like "Imuss yoi tooi, pljase be mt babree, I wany gyotu to be muoine bhabe"

I immediately had this gut feeling of "dammit, I'm entirely turned off from that and I felt like it was very immature." It had even made me think I don't want to contact her anymore. Being said, I mean she could have texted before she was sloshed, like out with my friend for some drinks good night...

Or better just go without a reply until the next day when she was consciously able to text talk.

Then my mind told myself I shouldn't think to much. But I still had that gut feeling. And a feeling is a feeling. What would you do?
14-10-13, 09:43 AM
Too_Giving

our gut usually tells us what our hearts want to deny. Go with the gut. Has your gut feelings ever been wrong?
14-10-13, 12:59 PM
basilandthyme

Not really sure why your alarm bells are going off. Do you expect her to not drink?
14-10-13, 02:47 PM
Matix125

It seemed very out of character to the way she presented herself.
14-10-13, 02:58 PM
smackie9

If I got a text like that I would just laugh my ass off........I think it's funny, and it's pretty harmless IMO....you have a stick up yer ass if you find this sooooo disturbing.
15-10-13, 04:11 AM
Matix125

Yes, there is a stick in my ass.
15-10-13, 04:19 AM
bluenote99

have to say i find it a bit uptight too, txtings hardly a precise science and who doesn't act a bit out of character when they've had a few drinks, if anything think you should be happy shes clearly into you
15-10-13, 08:32 AM
Boisdevie

It's easy to explain the OPs attitude. He's not getting any so he's feeling frustrated.
15-10-13, 09:07 AM
Wakeup

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Originally Posted by Matix125 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Story:

I've been talking with this girl through text and phone for about 2 going on 3 weeks. We've called each other babe. She and her girlfriend made a trip to another state for the weekend. I respect her space while she's with her friend i.e. less frequent texts and calls. We're on a 3 hour time difference right now while she's in another state.

I texted her the other night while I was going to bed something like "getting some shut-eye, missing you, good night." Then immediately fell off to sleep. When I woke up in the morning I had 4 lines of replies.

The replies were definitely a drunk text and looked like "Imuss yoi tooi, pljase be mt babree, I wany gyotu to be muoine bhabe"

I immediately had this gut feeling of "dammit, I'm entirely turned off from that and I felt like it was very immature." It had even made me think I don't want to contact her anymore. Being said, I mean she could have texted before she was sloshed, like out with my friend for some drinks good night...

Or better just go without a reply until the next day when she was consciously able to text talk.

Then my mind told myself I shouldn't think to much. But I still had that gut feeling. And a feeling is a feeling. What would you do?

You've only been talking to her, you've never met her yet?

Yea... stop talking to her altogether. She'll do fine without you.

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Or better just go without a reply until the next day when she was consciously able to text talk.

I have a feeling if she did that, Then you would be here asking if you should be worried that she didn't respond to your text right away.

Yea, do her a favour and listen to your gut.
15-10-13, 09:56 PM
w8lifter53

Ok... You should be happy she text'ed you back. You were obvioulsy on her mind. She could have just blown it off and not have enven bother. Then where were your mind has been.

I have to agree, drunk texts can be fun.
16-10-13, 03:41 AM
smackie9

I would be touched by it because even tho she was pissin it up, it's obvious that you were on her mind all night and she really likes you.
16-10-13, 03:50 AM
Boisdevie

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I would be touched by it because even tho she was pissin it up, it's obvious that you were on her mind all night and she really likes you.

Yeah, give him another couple of decades and they might even meet up. Jeez, kids today - I've seen glaciers move faster.
16-10-13, 04:06 AM
Exeter19

just answering your titles question, for me, YES! my first gut instinct is almost always correct and because of that i listen to it.
16-10-13, 06:26 AM
smackie9

There's a big difference between gut instinct and paranoia.
16-10-13, 07:23 AM
basilandthyme

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Originally Posted by Matix125 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It seemed very out of character to the way she presented herself.

Out of character? You've only known her for 2-3 weeks - you would know very little about her character yet.
16-10-13, 08:21 AM
HeartIsAching

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If I got a text like that I would just laugh my ass off........I think it's funny, and it's pretty harmless IMO....you have a stick up yer ass if you find this sooooo disturbing.

Yeah, pretty much. I've sent drunk texts to my wife like that, and now that I'm working and she's not, she's sent 'em to me LOL. Made us both giggle.
16-10-13, 08:28 AM
okwhat2013

Yea the subject line and the actual content of the post are not related. What is yr gut saying anyways? Damn dude the girls I date would never send a text like that because they obviously drink more than this girl. The fact she can't handle her alcohol is actually a good sign. Think about it. ;)
16-10-13, 08:31 AM
searock

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The fact she can't handle her alcohol is actually a good sign. Think about it. ;)

Do you know how rapey this is?
16-10-13, 08:45 AM
IndiReloaded

Yes go with your gut. When I was dating I ditched men with a surgical scalpel b/c I knew what I was looking for, and not. It's not rude, its smart.

You sound like you are looking for a girl with more 'class', by your standard. I'm sure you are both nice people, but she's not the one for you. No need to make it any more complicated than that. Bashing on her (or you for your taste) isn't fair. You are entitled to your preferences. Even if it includes a stick up yer ass. ;)
16-10-13, 09:13 AM
smackie9

Wow she gets crucified because of only one drunk text....
16-10-13, 09:21 AM
Wakeup

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Wow she gets crucified because of only one drunk text....

Seriously. I just switched from a blackberry (with an actual keyboard) to an IPhone with a bloody keyPAD and I send text just like hers without a drop of booze in me... especially if I don't have the reading glasses on.

I say he should indeed listen to his gut but only because SHE is better off without him and his "preferences." He's not even met her... he doesn't even know she was drunk but he immediately thinks the worst of her... pfffft. Yea.. listen to your gut Op and do her a favour.
16-10-13, 09:24 AM
Wakeup

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Out of character? You've only known her for 2-3 weeks - you would know very little about her character yet.

They've never met. He doesn't know anything about her except for words exchanged without action. That's just words.
16-10-13, 09:37 AM
okwhat2013

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Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Do you know how rapey this is?

Hahaha meaning she obviously isn't drinking every night. Get your mind out of the gutter...but yeah taking it that way I guess geez
16-10-13, 09:51 AM
dickriculous

This more your type op?

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16-10-13, 01:30 PM
IndiReloaded

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Out of character? You've only known her for 2-3 weeks - you would know very little about her character yet.

How long/how many interactions does it take? I could tell within 3 messages and/or 10 minutes of meeting someone if they were compatible with me or not.

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16-10-13, 11:10 PM
smackie9

Hell LR would take that message and relish it! Where is that rat bastard anyways?