My boyfriend won't stop watching porn

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now, and he's always been watching porn (approximately 3 or 4 times a week.) I'm 100% against watching porn when you're in a relationship and I've told him many times. Yesterday, we had another talk and he said he'd reduce the number of times he watches porn a week. But it's still not enough for me. I told him I wanted him to stop completely, and he didn't want to (for now). Since it is so easily accessible, he said that it would be too hard to resist.

Do you guys think it's normal or does he have a problem?

Thank you for sharing your opinions.

Addiction to porn actualy comes from addiction from internet so one have to cut time spending in internet in order to fight porn addiction.

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Originally Posted by itsjustmeok [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now, and he's always been watching porn (approximately 3 or 4 times a week.) I'm 100% against watching porn when you're in a relationship and I've told him many times. Yesterday, we had another talk and he said he'd reduce the number of times he watches porn a week. But it's still not enough for me. I told him I wanted him to stop completely, and he didn't want to (for now). Since it is so easily accessible, he said that it would be too hard to resist.

Do you guys think it's normal or does he have a problem?

Thank you for sharing your opinions.

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Do you have sex with him as many times a week as he watches porn? Even if you are having sex with him everyday, twice a day the likely hood that he watched just as many times would still be there. Why does him watching porn bother you if he isn't neglecting you in bed? Is he neglecting you in bed?

Sighs: So many questions, so little time.

I don't see the problem. Is his porn-watching negatively affecting your sex life? If not, why are you against it? If so, why are you still with him after 2 years of lousy sex?

We don't have sex as much as he watches porn, but I'm okay with the amount of times we have sex every week. We have sex everytime we feel like it and he says he's satisfied too. The thing is, I don't like the fact he watches other girls to stimulate him. If I truly am good enough, he shouldn't need that kind of stuff.

Have you ever masturbated, itsjustmeok? You know how during masturbation you tend to think about stuff that turns you on? Well, porn is the same thing for some people. Instead of thinking about fantasies, they like to *look* at them. It's really the same thing: it doesn't mean that he isn't satisfied with you or that you "aren't enough". It's just masturbation.

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Originally Posted by itsjustmeok [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now, and he's always been watching porn (approximately 3 or 4 times a week.) I'm 100% against watching porn when you're in a relationship and I've told him many times. Yesterday, we had another talk and he said he'd reduce the number of times he watches porn a week. But it's still not enough for me. I told him I wanted him to stop completely, and he didn't want to (for now). Since it is so easily accessible, he said that it would be too hard to resist.

Do you guys think it's normal or does he have a problem?

Thank you for sharing your opinions.

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No he doesn't but you do....you don't like a guy that watches porn? Then don't date a guy that watches porn....you don't have to acept it, so stop your complaining and breakup with him. Let him find someone that doesn't have a problem with it.

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Originally Posted by itsjustmeok [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

We don't have sex as much as he watches porn, but I'm okay with the amount of times we have sex every week. We have sex everytime we feel like it and he says he's satisfied too. The thing is, I don't like the fact he watches other girls to stimulate him. If I truly am good enough, he shouldn't need that kind of stuff.

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You truly don't understand men. They like variety because they have a more intense sex drive than women do. There is no emotion involved, it's just stimulation, a different experience. It's just an aid to enhance the masturbation experience, entertainment. Tip: men think about sex and other women all the time, and your BF is no different. I think it's self to think that YOU are all he shouuld desire and think about....that is a fairytale. Sorry to slap you with the reality but it is what it is.

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Originally Posted by itsjustmeok [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

The thing is, I don't like the fact he watches other girls to stimulate him. If I truly am good enough, he shouldn't need that kind of stuff.

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Well there's your problem. If you didn't have such a unrealistic idea about yourself, there wouldn't be your jealousy and insecurity issues.

Men, hell PEOPLE are visual creatures and need variety in what they are viewing. You and you alone are NEVER going to be enough for one guy to view for the rest of his life. He's with you and he's chosen you to actually copulate with so what he looks at (as long as its not wrecking havoc on your sex life) has nothing to do with you being "good enough."

What will you do when/if he stops watching porn but thinks in his head (mental visualization) about the girl in the bikini he saw on T.V. or at the beach and gets mentally aroused thinking about that sight? Will you still think that you should be good enough and he shouldn't be visualizing other women? That's totally unrealistic thinking if you do. Just because people are in a relationship they DO NOT stop finding other people attractive. They just don't.

None of us will ever be "good enough" to stop the other from looking. Ever!

That being said, if you can't wrap your head around his viewing then do what Smackie says and find someone who thinks like you. Good luck with that. You may find someone who isn't sussed about looking at porn but they certainly won't stop looking.

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Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well there's your problem. If you didn't have such a unrealistic idea about yourself, there wouldn't be your jealousy and insecurity issues.

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100 percent perfect advice. Still, won't stop the woman complaining all the ****ing time will it?

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Originally Posted by itsjustmeok [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now, and he's always been watching porn (approximately 3 or 4 times a week.) I'm 100% against watching porn when you're in a relationship and I've told him many times. Yesterday, we had another talk and he said he'd reduce the number of times he watches porn a week. But it's still not enough for me. I told him I wanted him to stop completely, and he didn't want to (for now). Since it is so easily accessible, he said that it would be too hard to resist.

Do you guys think it's normal or does he have a problem?

Thank you for sharing your opinions.

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You know very little about men! LOL

The problem here is that you have different sex drives. Your not satisfying him in bed. Have more sex with him if you want to minimize the issue or else break up with him. Having sex 1-2 times a week is really not enough. Does he not satisfy you in bed? Is that why you dont want to do it more? If yes, then you need to speak up and tell him what you need in bed.

Your sex life is below average and you really need to spice it up.

No, it's not a difference in their sex drives, it's a difference in their level of security, and a total lack of understanding on the OP's part that she doesn't get to dictate to her BF what he does with himself in his spare time:

"I'm 100% against watching porn when you're in a relationship and I've told him many times."

So despite her numerous attempts to brow-beat him into what she wants him to do, he pig-headedly insists on doing what he wants. Her problem, not his.

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Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

The problem here is that you have different sex drives. Your not satisfying him in bed.

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That's not it at all (IMO). Even if you did him three times a day, everyday, OP and you were giving uninhibited porn-style sex then he'd still masturbate to some visual stimulation (mental or with porn).

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Have more sex with him if you want to minimize the issue

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More sex is not the issue.

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or else break up with him. Having sex 1-2 times a week is really not enough.

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That is subjective. If that is what is good for the two of them, then it is enough and there is absolutely no evidence within the op's posts that show he's been complaining about incompatible libidos.

It doesn't matter if she breaks up with him. Her insecurity and the fact that she thinks that she "should be enough for him" that is the problem that she will take with her in any new relationship she forms. Its her mindset that needs changing up.

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Yesterday, we had another talk and he said he'd reduce the number of times he watches porn a week. But it's still not enough for me.

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Then leave him because by now, it should be clear to you that he has no intentions of stopping

OMG, I had sex with my wife 5x this week... and she's not home and I'm horny... whatever shall I do?!

Oh... right. I'll watch a li'l porn and exercise my 'rights'.

Hey there. Porn really isn't such a big deal. It's just porn. Maybe it's not the girls themselves, it's what they're doing that turns him on. At least he listened to you a little bit and minimized the amount of porn he watches for you. I myself like porn, and the only reason I stopped watching porn is because of the viruses and sometimes hidden fees that some pornography websites cause and have. However, for me it's not the people themselves, it's what they're doing. That's it. Doesn't mean I fantasize about being with those men, because I believe my boyfriend to be way beyond good enough for me. Yes, men look. A majority of them do though there really are those very very rare men who can judge whether or not another woman is attractive, but who thinks that they have nothing on their girl. Don't you sometimes look? Not because you would ever do anything to your boyfriend or think he's not good enough, but because that shirtless man jogging down the street, or at the beach/pool is nice to just look at?

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Originally Posted by itsjustmeok [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If I truly am good enough, he shouldn't need that kind of stuff.

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Well at least you admit that this is all about your ego, a lot of people aren't that honest.

Also, you can't change who someone is in order to fit your ideal...this almost never works out favorably, not in the long run at least. If he tried to beat something you greatly enjoy out of you then at best you would try (and fail in the long run) to force yourself to change for him until you burn out and the real you takes over anyway, taking you right back to the beginning of the shit storm all over again. At worst you would get into a fight about it right then and there and who knows where that would lead?

If you're not okay with a quality someone has you can't hook up with that person and try to beat that quality out of them. You have to take it or leave it. You may not want to accept that but life isn't going to give you much of a choice.

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Originally Posted by itsjustmeok [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

We don't have sex as much as he watches porn, but I'm okay with the amount of times we have sex every week. We have sex everytime we feel like it and he says he's satisfied too. The thing is, I don't like the fact he watches other girls to stimulate him. If I truly am good enough, he shouldn't need that kind of stuff.

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If you're okay with the amount of times you have sex every week, then leave him alone. It isn't affecting you! On the other hand, you put him in the position of having to sacrifice something he enjoys and is otherwise available in unlimited supply. He is going to start resenting you for this, or he will start lying or covering up what he is doing. You have put him in a bad position because you think it has something to do with you being good enough. If you feel you aren't good enough, then do something to improve yourself. Don't try to curtail his enjoyment of life, so you can feel better about yourself.

Guys, she stopped responding. Drop it.

I looked into this user. Seems like she has some major problems of her own. Can't keep her hands off other men, so she's afraid her boyfriend is going to go out and behave the same way she does.

https://www.loveforum.net/threads/84384-I-made-a-mistake
https://www.loveforum.net/threads/84350-He-s-been-ignoring-my-texts-messages

At least she's able to recognize that she's insane:

https://www.loveforum.net/threads/85260-Overly-jealous-girlfriend

She must be really hot for her boyfriend to put up with this.

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She must be really hot for her boyfriend to put up with this.

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Or her boyfriend is a codependent twit who is too afraid to be alone so he tolerates her crap?????

I'm having a similar issue to this, regardless of what discoveries you've found about the original poster and her beau. My partner is watching a lot of porn, more than we have sex when it used to be the other way round. There's been a lot of stuff happen in the last year and I'm trying to suggest stuff (watching it together, making our own so when he watches it's us not some randomers) to boost our sex life but he doesn't seem interested. I'm not a fool, I know it's pretty much hardwired into most men to watch porn and I watch from time to time, but is it so wrong to want to be his primary source of sexual satisfaction?

Funny .... I usually will find them on another site posting the exact thread, then I bust their ass lol.