So when was the last time you been in love? And how it all ended? I mean crazy in love. Like fck my dreams fck what happens to me, my future, I just want this person to be happy.
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So when was the last time you been in love? And how it all ended? I mean crazy in love. Like fck my dreams fck what happens to me, my future, I just want this person to be happy.
real love? 2 years ago. ended because we drifted apart nothing major happened to end it.
So you just let her go like that? It ended because she moved to another place or you just stopped dating without major reason? Second makes me question if it really was real love.
My last time in love was two years ago to. I gave up everything to be with her but at the same time I had huge problems that and I didnt wanted be part of them since I loved her so much. Relationship suffereed and she turned to alcohol. I felt like Im the only one trying to make it work, felt like powerless, it was too hard and I just left. Still never really stopped to love her. Love was special lol.
Im in love now and he and I are having problems because I caught him posting something on Instagram that he shouldn't have, like commenting on something and I didn't like. It sounds petty but commenting a girl on how beautiful she is and maybe you could know her is bullshit. I did have an attitude and kind of accused him of doing something and he denied it until I showed him what I was talking about. We haven't had issues like that since but it did change things and we recently got into it and we haven't talked in a few days. I miss him though but I refuse to all him because he was in the wrong. Then for him to try to act like he didnt do it until I called him out on it, pissed me off and he think I got a nasty attitude....he always trying to call me out on that. He need to learn his lesson....
I miss him though.... =(
Well its was just a comment, maybe he says that to all the girls. But being in relationship and saying that is not very nice. Still conflicts is about being calm, finding compromise and threading other person like you want to be threaded yourself.
it was mutual, sometimes even with love you grow apart. it was real love for me i was loyal, faithful to her didn't even think about another during that time. she did end up moving a few months later but wasn't the cause of breaking up. damn on your ex turning to alcohol. have you ever seen her since you broke?Quote:
Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This sounds more like infatuation than being in love. I am in love now, and my dreams include being with my boyfriend.Quote:
Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It was 2 years ago my friend but I saw her few months after and she looked really sad(but so did I). However I looked her up on FB in january. She looked like a pornstar. Lost weight, big boobs and dark makeup. Was so hard to see that after I remember the angel she was.Quote:
Originally Posted by Exeter19 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
sounds like she did a complete transformation on herself since you broke up. did you feel love still or more sad for her on what you saw re her fb page? i've seen mine around a few times since she moved because all her family still lives here so she visits all the holidays. but i don't feel love for her anymore i moved on from that with her.
I felt more sad afterwards, my heart was hurting for days. Always had these fatherly feelings for her. Feel guilty that I never said how perfect she is for me. She kinda become what society thinks is hot but if she only knew how my eyes are seeing her.
Thanks for sharing your stories guys. But what I mean in this topic by being in love when you lose mind over the person, even knowing that loving is wrong theres nothing you could do cause its so deep in heart. For example like Rowen loved Dave when Rowen was in complete shit afterwards and had to seek therapy and been crying like a baby. Or when Star loved that drug dealer and became stripper afterwards to make him jealous and did other stupid things.
Obviously, you all heard about my romantic train-wreck with Dave...That was the last time for me. :S And, if I'm honest, I love him just as much as I did back then, although I've been trying to get better at focusing on my life more. So far, it's okay, with the help of my therapist, but I still have a ways to go. I feel ready for a relationship, but I'm not rushing at all.. Anyway, I didn't really disregard my own dreams when I was with Dave, but I was kind of always picturing how it'd be with us when he made his come true and I made mine come true.. :S It was a nice thought, but he's happy and I'm kind of happy now.. :S
And sorry if I hurt anyone on here..I was a bit of an asshole.
PC, you know too much....Quote:
Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Last time I was in love was two years ago. I went through a bit of a desperate phase when it wasn't working anymore but I stopped in time and forgetting about him felt much better than loving him. It took me several months to accept it was really over but when that happened I went from missing him to having zero feelings for him in one single day. A dream I had of my great-grandmother totally changed my state of mind instantly and gave me back my emotional freedom, joy and strength that I value deeply and feels a thousand times better than any lingering feelings or nostalgy for a lost incompatible love :-)
I am now and it is ending in pregnancy, baby and marriage =)
It's a lot to adjust to but also look forward to the life chances and being more adult and responsible not only for myself but for two others.
I Am head over in heals with someone who doesnt love me. I've come to the conclusion they will never like me the way I like them and have hardened my heart. Falling in love is not all it is cracked up to be. There is no happy ever after.
More detail star please?? Are you saying you dont trust him?Quote:
Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
OP I am in love now. :) but I dont think what you are talking about is "love". Its more infatuation (early love, butterflies, people acting crazy and irrational, not using their head)
I'm in love with an amazing woman right now and I've been in love with her for years. But apparently that just wasn't enough for her anymore..so now I'm in love with scotch. Scotch is goooood.
Everyday........
Huh? Did you guys break up?Quote:
Originally Posted by nico88 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I don't believe in love, at least not the kind that I used to believe will last forever. So I have only been in love once, it was my first love when I was still naive. That was many years ago. Now I view love as just a romantic phase. It comes and go. Longer does not necessarily mean better. It's the quality of the love that matters. There is no other experience in life that is more wonderful than being in love but at the same time, can't be too attach to the outcome. Just enjoy the ride.
OrangeSun you are the most crazy chick I know when it comes to love. Good that you replied. Do you still cry about the guy?Quote:
Originally Posted by OrangeSun [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
@searock: Yup. We had a lil disagreement about something she has all of a sudden been thinking and pressuring me about and she packed up her shit and left. She said she just needs some time to herself to focus on her and her career and to just think some things through. That was about a week ago.
I've called her, left her voice mails..but she answered last night and we talked for awhile. I told her I was crazy about her and loved her to death and that's when she said she knew that but wasn't sure that was enough anymore. That's when scotch happened. So yeah...good night last night.
No I don't trust him at this point. Basically what happened is this. I seen on Instagram where he commented on this chic post and commented on how beautiful she was and if he could get to know her he would or some bullshit like that. Okay well I didn't like that and he get on my ****in nerves and I don't got time for his shady ass. He then tried to say I had an attitude and wtf was wrong with me and I was just like, I know what I know and because I do don't ****ing speak to me again. He was like well what you think you know since you know something and that's when I told him what I had seen and he tried to make it seem like I was making a big deal out of nothing. But I don't think I was. Like he is my man and he trying to talk to other chics. He hadn't done anything since that I know of but the trust is gone. We are together but this happened like at the end of March and we haven't been right since. I'm mad because if you dating me then don't try to get know other people or make comments that you would if you could.Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It was crazy because that same day he commented on her pic, he was at work but I was at his house that day and I ran his errands for him, went to the store for him, cooked for him and I straightened up his house so it can be decent, so that pissed me off because Im like Im doing all this for you and on the same day you going to go and post that comment. I know the whole social media thing seems crazy but seriously, you find out a lot of shit about people that way...Guys always get caught up and he did. Now he's mad at me too which is bullshit because he was the one in the wrong and I almost feel like he tried to blame me and my attitude instead of admitting he was wrong and that just bothered me.
I do miss him. We haven't talked in a week. I text him and told him that I missed him and he do he miss me. He said, yeah but I don't got time for your bullshit....Im like wtf, really? So its my fault smh...
Everybody know I been thru crazy shit with my ex and I have zero tolerance in my life now.
Well seems like guy don't have tolerance for your intolerance as well. A classic story when two are too proud to go back to each other.
Ok. Go no contact and never beg. I've got guys beg and it's a total turn off. If she really loves you, she'll call you and let you know how she really feels. If you sound or look desperate, it's just going to boost her ego.Quote:
Originally Posted by nico88 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Give her the space and time to figure out what she wants. At this point, she's playing mind games with you.
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Star, I totally agree with you. If you're together, he shouldn't be flirting with anyone else. Put your foot on the ground and stay firm with what you believe.Quote:
Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm sorry to hear that, nico88. Didn't see that coming. I agree with chinagirl, for your own sake it's best if you go no contact. You already told her everything she needed to know, now it's up to her to decide what she wants. Keep your head up... it will get better.
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Star, he is being a real douche. You are absolutely right, what he did is absolutely disrespectful. Even worse, he's trying to make it seem like you are over-reacting and crazy... that is so wrong. Stay strong, don't give in to his mind games.
I'm going to send a complaint about that addition to our notification. I frickin hate it, and I want to turn it off.
Seems all of you here fell in love two years ago...LOL
Star you are in the right. If I were you, it would already be over. I know what you went through with your ex and you dont need another scumbag like him. Your a good looking intelligent woman. You know you can do better than this s**t so stay strong and let him **** off. His defensiveness and manipulative mind f**king just makes him look more guilty and you know it. Id see it as a major red flag and run..
You made it clear to him at the start you wont tolerate this s**t and he still disrespected you. Just proves he was never worth it to begin with.
Hugs to you :) xx
Advice for Star: Don't take a man seriously until he puts a ring on your finger and hands over all his money. And if he has no money, you don't need him anyways.
@chinagirl: Oh yeah, not planning on doing any begging. I called her 4 times off the back because..well of course i wanted to get her to come home but mainly because I was out of town for a work thing and when I came home she was gone. I mean she left a note but still..I needed to figure out what the **** was going on ya know?
@searock: Yeah, you and me both. I'm definitely leaving the ball in her court now. I told her what I needed to. It's not like I'm giving up, but now it's kinda up to her. I mean I'd gladly make a fool of myself for her, if that's what she wanted, but I just don't see that doing the situation any good. I'll just give her the time she needs. And thank you for the encouragement. I appreciate it.
Is it possible she could have seen your post about the other girl on loveforum nico?? Its weird she just randomly upped and left for no reason..
I mean it makes sense to me coz if I thought my bf was cheating or planning to-i would leave while hes not home too. I wouldnt even leave a note. I know you didnt do anything wrong-you were just confused but maybe she misinterpreted it
@Michelle: Honestly, I don't think so. I usually only get on here on my cell and always get logged out so I don't think she could've seen it but idk. I guess it's a possibility.
She kinda has marriage and baby fever all of a sudden. A lot of our friends have been getting married and her sister is pregnant for the 4th time and now she's just like "let's get married, let's have a baby" and I just..idk I'm not ready for that. I told her I'm not against it in the future, but I just didn't feel like now was the time.
She said ok and kissed me and went to sleep. She was at work the morning I left so I didn't see her then, but I figured we were cool you know? Then I come home the next day and she's gone. Her and I have always been on the same page when it came to marriage until recently so idk man. I know a lot of her friends have been asking her when we were getting married or why we weren't married yet and shit like that so maybe that got her. The whole thing just kinda through me for a loop. Everything just happened so ****ing fast..I just really don't know what to do about it. I'm at a loss kinda.
Wow, I've never had this thought in my life. I would never put my own happiness below that of another person's....and I would not accept this attitude from a partner. To me, a great relationship involves equal amount of happiness and contentedness on both sides.Quote:
Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well to each their own. Maybe you are more emotionally healthy because you started dating and having BFs in your 15's so you got your experience early, never had time to be alone for years and when special person came around you didn't lost your head but just played it cool like always.
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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Love is a subjective term.
I honestly don't think I have ever been in Love.
Lust maybe but I doubt it was true love.
Whatever man. Just write about what you thought was love back then.
My definition of love is when both people love each other equally & it lasts forever not the honeymoon period.
Thats really boring. Hope you haven't been like this from beginning.
My definition of love is when your mind is gone, when your life depends on one person. When theres some real passion and drama going on. Like in movies. Call it codependent or crazy. But thats what makes life interesting.
“Some lose all mind and become soul,insane.
some lose all soul and become mind, intellectual.
some lose both and become accepted”
Interesting you should say that.Quote:
Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I sometimes feel my love life is boring. But then I look at the drama and crazy in the lives of some other couples I know. And then I think about the fact that when it's crazy drama stuff, then at least one of them isn't happy. And then I remind myself how lucky I am I have such security, love, respect and a guaranteed soft place to fall.
I like to think I have enough interests to keep my life interesting without requiring drama and crazy.