Is casual sex good or bad for you?

Hi Everyone!!!

I'm a final year psychology student and I'm really interested in the effects of casual sex on well-being. As part of my final year I'm conducting a study as part of my dissertation and I'm desperately looking for participants who have had some form of casual sex in the past 3 months. That can be either one night stands or something that has lasted longer like buddies. Everything is anonymous!!

I'm also interested just to hear peoples general views on this topic. Do you think casual sex is good for you or bad?

If anyone has the time to complete my questionnaire I'd be really really grateful and anyone who enters has the chance to win a £20 amazon gift card. There's also information on the current study and other research on my website for anyone whose interested.


The website can be found at casualsexresearch.wordpress.com


Thanks!!!

It's good for you. If you're not getting it, as a man you're losing.

It's different for everyone, I don't go in for casual sex, fckbuddies. I don't have a fear of commitment so I can be faithful & loyal & don't need the throw away attachments of casual sex in my life.

Also I am not sex crazy, so if not in a relationship I can do without fcking someone. I prefer being in love, over causal sex.

Ah the girl's perspective...So you don't know. Naturally. The pressure isn't on you to perform; the pressure is on you to NOT act on your impulses.

Isn't about it being a girl pov it's just my own personal opinion ~ I know guys who feel this way too. Not everyone just wants to bang one out casually, we look & need more.

Yeah but if you only have sex with one person forever, that's pretty lame.

If you are having lots of casual sex because of a sex addiction then yes it is bad for you, or if you are married and doing casual sex hookups still, something is wrong to answer the OP.

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Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah but if you only have sex with one person forever, that's pretty lame.

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After 6years with the same person-there is nothing "lame" about having regular multiple orgasms with someone you love.. friends of mine can't even reach one orgasm with some random guy so what is the point? I believe only insecure people will get off with anyone like they have a point to prove. Thats pretty lame

I think casual sex would be bad for me. I would get attached fast and not receiving same attraction in return. Think I would feel used and emotionaly drained. Pretty same what most girls have with it except Im a guy.

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Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

After 6years with the same person-there is nothing "lame" about having regular multiple orgasms with someone you love.. friends of mine can't even reach one orgasm with some random guy so what is the point? I believe only insecure people will get off with anyone like they have a point to prove. Thats pretty lame

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Don't mind me; I was drunk lol

^ LOL [MENTION=68335]YoungCosmo[/MENTION].

Obviously people who enjoy ****ing lots of different people different nights of the week won't think it's bad, they are getting off so good to them.

But I never liked the idea of it, too sleazy for me. I like monogamy better.

Think Anya nailed it. There are monogamous people and casual sex are not for them.

Actually, if there's one thing I am sure of it is that monogamous people and casual sex are not dichotomous.

Its your will to choose on how you act. As long as you safe.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I think casual sex would be bad for me. I would get attached fast and not receiving same attraction in return. Think I would feel used and emotionaly drained. Pretty same what most girls have with it except Im a guy.

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Same goes for me most of the time, i don't usually **** people i don't find attractive and interesting in the first place, and when i go and do stuff with a girl/woman i find interesting and attractive and all that, i do get attached. Surely i have had sex partners just for the sake of sex, nothing else, and of course it was nice to **** instead of fap, but i prefer not to **** just for the sake of ****ing. I had this wild part in past, i ****ed once a week new person, it did not do good for me in the long term, i started to feel filthy for some reason. I am more relationship typed guy. M-27

TL;DR
Not good in the long term, atleast not for me. Been there, done that. not good.

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Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah but if you only have sex with one person forever, that's pretty lame.

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HA... he talks from experience. I'm gonna call you "one-time" from now on. lolzzz

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Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ah the girl's perspective...So you don't know. Naturally. The pressure isn't on you to perform; the pressure is on you to NOT act on your impulses.

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Ah ahhahahaha. Sorry there man but your line, "The pressure isn't on you to perform" hahahaa. that's good. thanks for that. I needed a good chuckle.
hope your well !!

and to the O.P,
I would imagine moderation for those who are comfy with casual sex may keep it in the 'safe for the soul' realm. HOwever, one can practice with one person and this one person can be a life partner.

Women have just as much need to explore their sexual appetites and comfort zones and any man that thinks a woman just lays there, well, I feel for them because when both parties are feeling it right and moving together in that cosmic rhythm, well, beautiful things happen.

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and Cosmo, Imagine knowing every part of someones body that you love whole heartedly, that you know so well and have no limitations on comfort levels. One that loves you as you them in every aspect. Then, add years of intimacy and you will get the best love making sessions in the World and anyone that feels sorry for or insults those who have just one partner and love it so, is only speaking from the experience they have thus so far and obviously, has not experienced this kind of connnection YET

IN a nutshell there YoungCosmo, don't mock it if you haven't been there yet because you just wouldn't know would you.

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Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

HA... he talks from experience. I'm gonna call you "one-time" from now on. lolzzz

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Lol. Well, if you count the times I sorta had something kinda like what you'd call sex as half of sex each time, I could be said to have had sex TWO times!

I honestly dont see it as being good in the long term because then a person never gets that needed comfort of knowing theres that one person thats there no matter what, however i think casual sex could end up leading to more if you happen to find that person.... kind of a conflicting question i guess idk, just a thought

Put it this way: The ability to get casual sex however much as needed is something to be PROUD of. It says your genetic expression is much better than a lot of poor saps. Only physically attractive people have self-esteem and it's no wonder: Who wouldn't have esteem when you're desired? And lots of casual sex is good for us guys, it means we're of value. Err, I don't speak for myself cuz I am one of the poor saps but for the guys who get or can get it, they're winners, bred of good genes and fortune and so the world opens to them because they're desirable men. Their lives are so ****ing easy.

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Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

And lots of casual sex is good for us guys, it means we're of value.

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Lots of value to who?

If a guy needs to have lots of casual sex to find value in himself, then that's a bit sad - but it's his own business. However I'm pretty sure that there's a lot of women who wouldn't see value in a man who sleeps around.

Yeah but those are the prude, virginal women who enter the nunnery or work at the library. And a guy doesn't need to HAVE the sex: Just show and maintain a good, healthy amount of opportunities. Most of the quality men are those who have done this. Girls want a man that is highly desired and sex or the chances to have are a good way to prove a man's desirability.

Ahahahahahaah. Ah, Young Cosmo, key word, 'Young'......

Dear young Cosmo,

"prude, virginal women who enter the nunnery or work library"?? tee hee. Young Sir, pa leeez.

I can only hope you find a quality woman who works where ever she works; someone who will tear down your funny misconceptions and blow your mind, school your heart and break down the small pools you are presently swimming in.

Open your beautiful eyes.

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Originally Posted by woody [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I can only hope you find a quality woman who works where ever she works; someone who will tear down your funny misconceptions and blow your mind, school your heart and break down the small pools you are presently swimming in.

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A man can dream. In some cases, dreaming is all he has; Hume has already debunked the concept of miracles.

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Originally Posted by woody [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ahahahahahaah. Ah, Young Cosmo, key word, 'Young'......

Dear young Cosmo,

"prude, virginal women who enter the nunnery or work library"?? tee hee. Young Sir, pa leeez.

I can only hope you find a quality woman who works where ever she works; someone who will tear down your funny misconceptions and blow your mind, school your heart and break down the small pools you are presently swimming in.

Open your beautiful eyes.

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I've tried to teach Cosmo that there are so many girls who don't fit his preconceived ideas of women. But he doesn't believe me. I too hope that he changes his attitude - because it's the attitude which is his biggest obstacle.

I'm not a misogynist: I don't think negatively women. I only think negatively about ME. But you try looking like this and having success..

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Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I'm not a misogynist: I don't think negatively women. I only think negatively about ME. But you try looking like this and having success..

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"Yeah but those are the prude, virginal women who enter the nunnery or work at the library. And a guy doesn't need to HAVE the sex: Just show and maintain a good, healthy amount of opportunities. Most of the quality men are those who have done this. Girls want a man that is highly desired and sex or the chances to have are a good way to prove a man's desirability"

Actually this ^^^ is a very inaccurate and negative view. Yes, I've known a couple of girls who would fit this criteria, but the rest of us would roll our eyes at her each time she got left high and dry. You see, the type of man who you think women want is actually a very high risk proposition. Most sensible women find that down-to-earth regular guy is really quite hard to beat.

And WTF is with your comment about librarians?

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

"Yeah but those are the prude, virginal women who enter the nunnery or work at the library. And a guy doesn't need to HAVE the sex: Just show and maintain a good, healthy amount of opportunities. Most of the quality men are those who have done this. Girls want a man that is highly desired and sex or the chances to have are a good way to prove a man's desirability"

Actually this ^^^ is a very inaccurate and negative view. Yes, I've known a couple of girls who would fit this criteria, but the rest of us would roll our eyes at her each time she got left high and dry. You see, the type of man who you think women want is actually a very high risk proposition. Most sensible women find that down-to-earth regular guy is really quite hard to beat.

And WTF is with your comment about librarians?

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Yeah the rolling of the eyes is a physical manifestation of frustation at not being able to tame and keep those men because subconsciously you're attracted to them even though you know damn well you oughtn't.

And I dunno, I was being facetious with the librarian comments although you never see a beautiful librarian...n'est-ce pas?

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Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah the rolling of the eyes is a physical manifestation of frustation at not being able to tame and keep those men because subconsciously you're attracted to them even though you know damn well you oughtn't.

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And you're being facetious with this comment too?

Lol no, just propounding an alienating truth.

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Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Lol no, just propounding an alienating truth.

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And you've just proved what I was saying to Woody about you.

And that is...what, exactly?

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Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

And that is...what, exactly?

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I'm referring to this: "I've tried to teach Cosmo that there are so many girls who don't fit his preconceived ideas of women. But he doesn't believe me. I too hope that he changes his attitude - because it's the attitude which is his biggest obstacle".

To elaborate further, I'm referring to your preconceived ideas of women.

In the first example, you believe they only want men who can have many one night stands.

Second example is that you think a women would roll her eyes at a friend who does have the above attitude because we can't/won't make the same choice as her. Apparently you have no concept that we're rolling our eyes because we know in two weeks we'll be listening to her complain yet again that all men are bastards. I wanted to say to her "No Hon, not all men are bastards - you just seem to only want the men who so obviously are bastards". Though truth be told I stopped being her friend because I got tired of listening to her complain about the consequences of her stupid decisions.

I truly feel sad that you view women in such a binary way. That you seem to believe there's no variety in thoughts and views between women. But hey, if this works for you, then continue as you are.

As I said to Woody, you don't believe me anyway. So I won't bother you with further explanations - I know I'd be wasting my time.

Cosmo, when you meet the right lady for you, everything will become clear. I am really hoping you find a good lady soon.

All I can do is hope. It's about "if." I'd do everything I could to be perfect for a girl but....well, some are born losers.

Consider that a screening device for the real goods because 'their' out there somewhere. Maybe in a library.

Unfortunately reality is always something awful. Some of us are born to be alone, exactly from birth. Bad genetics is a psychological problem: It's a psychological fact that bad gene expression directly affects the way other people treat us. Of course, since most aren't born like us uggos then you normies wouldn't know, eh?

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Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

All I can do is hope. It's about "if." I'd do everything I could to be perfect for a girl but....well, some are born losers.

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You would know!

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Sadly, once again, the original poster has disappeared and Cosmo (aka "Onetime" :) has turned this thread into his own person self deprecating circle jerk.

I always assume men who have "lots" of one night stands are unable to please a woman sexually, so they won't do it with him more than once.

As for me - I think the ideal for me is to be in a committed relationship, but lacking that, I am not willing to give up sex and dry up. I had an ongoing arrangement with the same man for about 2 years with whom I was not in love, though he was a friend (and an excellent lover). I don't really want a one night stand - I do not find them satisfying, and the men generally have sucked in bed when I have tried it in the past. I think you can have satisfying sex only with someone who actually cares enough about you to care about whether or not their partner is satisfied.