Am I overreacting or do I have legitimate reason for concern...
Basically to make a long story short there is this friend i've had for the past 5 years. She's older than me but she was a senior in College when I was a freshman. We became pretty good friends and kept in contact every once in awhile after she graduated. I recently graduated this year and in doing some post college traveling I found myself about half an hour from where she lives so I suggested we meet up. She said she would like that and so we did. Things seemed different when she saw me and there was a flirtatious vibe where it had previously never been like that (due to me being 17 and her being 21 when we met). So we actually went out and then we had a talk the next day where she said she felt something and I told her I felt something too.
So after a week or so, we actually decided to give dating a try. Since we already knew each other pretty well (or so I thought) it was a very easy transition. So within less than an hour of making it official she asked me if i'm the "jealous type" and it gave me an immediate red flag. It seemed like the only reason she would ask that question to me just like that right off the bat was because she might be a person who puts herself in situations that would make a guy jealous. Then I just decided to forget about it because her explanation was that she was in a relationship with a guy who didn't like her to have any guy friends.
After she got a little more comfortable with me from a relationship standpoint, she started to unload on all of her stories. She told me that she's had about 15 total bf's, 2 serious, 13 not serious, and messed around with around 30 guys. So my first thought was just damn, holy shit that's a lot of people. Especially considering she said the vast majority were during that 4 year stretch of her being in college. So that got me thinking like whoa, is this girl right for me? Then she says to me something like "the past is the past. that's not me anymore at all. i'm all there for you, i'm serious about you and i'm not looking to date around or mess around with anyone else." so I thought about it and I said to myself ok, I guess as long as it's in the past I can let it go.
So then today we were talking.. And keep in mind that this college which I met her at was a smallprivate college where everyone pretty much knew everyone. So she says, "do you know X________" and i'm like yeah he was one of my best friends at school there. And then she kind of awkwardly says, oh... nevermind. and i insisted that she say what she was gonna say. low and behold she tells me she hooked up with him. That actually really got me feeling upset even though I didn't say it for fear of being accused of being the "jealous type." So I let it go. Next thing you know she starts talking about these other dudes, most of which I know and was friends with, and that she hooked up with. So increasingly it was getting me mad, and she could tell. So she was like, what's the matter? I guess I won't tell you any stories about the past if you're gonna react this way.
And I was like, ok i'm gonna be honest here. I already thought something was up when you asked me if i'm the jealous type almost immediately after we started dating. Now with all you're telling me i'm really thinking there's a specific reason for you asking that. And she's like no, it's just that most of my friends happen to be guy friends. And some of my guy friends im just really close with and when I see them they might happen to give me a certain type of hug that someone could mistake for more than what it is. So i'm like what kind of hug could be given that could be mistaken for something else? Then she just started going on and on to talk her way out of a corner. She said just that she has friends that are naturally handsy but that it doesn't mean that she would hook up with any of them. And she said she's always had a lot more guy friends than girl friends but that they are just friends, nothing more.
So my question is as it says in the title. Do I have a legit reason for concern or am I just being jealous for no reason?
