Met a really wonderful guy but i dont know if im over my ex
So i was with my ex for 5 yrs...long time..and then we broke up and a very short time later he started going out with my best friend and lied to me abt it for 3-4 months until i finally basically told him that he's not even worth thinking about. The problem is that as much as i hate my ex i still have feelings for him. Forgetting those 5 yrs is close to impossible... but im trying and i've made progress no doubt. We've been broken up for around 6 mths and i still think abt him pretty often. Now i want to move on, but i know if i rush into sum its just going to be a rebound..so i actually kept myself away from becoming to close with guys...except i have this guy who is a rlly good friend.. and he knows everything that i've been through..and he bascially told me he liked me.
He's a good guy but im scared to be with him for many reasons
1) How do i know forsure that he is trustworthy, my ex was with me for 5 yrs and the minute we broke up he went dating my best friend. Not only screwing her but they're in an actual relationship..he called her his wifey..While he proposed to me this january!!! but thats a whole other story..My ex is a douchebag i realise that now. But how do i know this guy isnt...whats the garantee
2) Ok i know ima have to take the chance if i ever wanna be in any relationship, but this guy is prettty much my best friend and if things between us dnt work out then we wont ever be the same friends ever again. Is it really worth risking
3) I admit i have feelings for him, and i told him that. but i also told him that i dnt know if they are real or just there because im vulnerable...so i told him i need time to figure that out...I also told him that i still love my ex and probably always will but right now i still think of him all the time so i need time to get over him first.
Afer all that this is what he had to say
" you're the type of girl any guy would die for. If time is what you need, then take all of it. I'll always be here waiting here for you."
Exactly that!
Now that just made my heart melt! And i just said thanks, ur friendship right now means everything to me...just give me time to think and ill get back to u on this..
This happened a week ago, surprisingly things havent been awkward at all between us...
Any suggestions? What shud i do? Are my feelings for this guy real?