Going great, then she says she needs time to get over her ex and cant see me anymore
Ok, really need ur opinion here as it's kinda specific and can't find it from general searches. And, I have to have some advice one way or another.
So, I met a girl who was 4-5 weeks out of a 9 month relationship with her ex, whom she did love at the time. They broke up because he was controlling and said she was too much for him.
Anyway, we meet and have an amazing time, shared the same interests, didn't stop talking, were comfortable around each other, got intimate early and simply all was going well.
Though she did say she could see it developing into something more, she did say, and I agreed from the off, that we should go easy and not rush things. However, as the weeks went on and we kept having good times, we started to call each other nicknames and spoke about the future, even though we always maintained we'd go slow. We met each others parents and friends and text 20 times a day. This was for 5 weeks.
Anyway, one day she says to me that she saw her ex the day before (first time since they split), and she said that she realized that by seeing him and some of the things he said to her, that she couldn't see me any more and she didn't want anything from anyone. It's not that she wants to get back with her ex, she really dislikes him for what he did to her.
So, I (and her), get upset and tell her exactly how I feel (I would have regretted it otherwise) and she just says I'm too nice to get hurt like this and she's sorry. She also said part of her wishes she wasn't saying this and wishes she'd have met a year later. Also, she says i've treat her better than any guy has done in the past. It's been a few days and we hadn’t text (her last text to me didn't include a kiss and was very off).
****UPDATE****
Then, after the cold message on wed, 3 days later she texts me saying "Hey, hope your well, just wishing you good luck for the game 2moro x". I leave it a few hours, respond saying i'm doing well, just relaxing in pub etc . Say i'll let her know how we get on and lave the message closed.
The next day after the game, were both online on facebook and after 5 mins or so she asks me "How did u get on?" I respond, make a joke, she replies, i say something, she does. I then, say how i've gotta go cos my teas cooking etc and wish her a good day at work (she works nights) and then end with "spk sn x". To which she doesnt reply and I return online an hour later and were both online for 2 or so hours and she says nothing. I only expected a "thanks, have a good evening, bye x" sort of thing.
So what do you think this means. I mean twice now she initiated conversation (text then facebook), but particuarly when on facebook she was off and didnt respond at all to when i put bye..... ???
Very confusing! What do you think she wants? and what should i do? Was thinking of leaving it 3 or 4 days and asking her how her new jobs going?
Help!
Much thanks!
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