Guys doesn't want to get married/kids
Wanted some advice...Sorry if it's too long...
My bf was single for 4 years before we were together. When we were friends, he told me he would like to be single FOREVER. After we started hanging out for 6 months, we fell for each other. Now we have already been together for almost 1.5 years now. (Some background information: My bf is Brit & late 30s, I am Chinese & late 20s both living in Hong Kong.)
When we started officially dating, things were horrible. I was quite needy and wanted to be with him all the time; He was very independent and liked his own space always. We would fight every 2 weeks literally! After we dated for about half a year (ie one year ago), one night stupid me started to ask him questions regarding marriage and kids. Of course that didn't go well...He told me he does NOT believe in marriage and has no plan for kids. He does not even want to share his flat with any gf!! *He did mention he could date me forever!* That night we were so close to be broken up!!
After that night, I told myself that he's not the one, I become independent, I stop asking him to spend time with me, show little interest in him, I even bought my own flat and not expecting anything from him. Basically I was preparing a breakup. Surprisingly, when I become less needy, he started to call more, care more, ask me to stay at his flat more, want me to spend time with him more - overall treats me MUCH better and takes me less for granted :D
We have been together for 1.5 years now. Within the last 0.5 year, we seldom fight. We spend quite a lot of time together. He treats me real well - took me on vacations, got me a 37" LCD for Xmas, always buys me dinners etc. He cares a lot for me and really loves and serious about me I can tell. We feel very *natural* to be with each other. NO we never mention a word about "marriage" or "kids" ever again!!
I am very happy to be with him at the moment. I slowly convince myself that “marriage” isn’t important as most couples get divorce these days anyways, and I still not sure whether I want to have kids yet. My question is should I worry much about
“marriage” and “kids”? I so envy my girlfriends who are married, planning a big wedding, picking up their lovely wedding gown, having a HUGE diamond on their finger etc. What if I break up with my bf in my mid-30s and regret having no kids? Would my bf change his mind about marriage and kids later on as he did change his mind about not having a gf forever! Should I leave him and try to find someone I love, would live with me and marry me later (I still love him a lot and hate to start a relationship over again)?
Any constructive advice would be awesome!