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good joob dude
I feel the same exact way, I actually sent my mom an email today telling her how I felt and if she didn't treat me with respect and love then I want nothing to do with her. The thing with my mom is she seems to think that she does nothing wrong and it is me and my sister's who treat her like shit. There were times when I was really mean but only after she called me names or talked behind my back about me.Quote:
Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
wonderful stuffs!! lot of wisdom.
Thanks for sharing :)
I know this is an old thread now, but I think about it from time to time.Quote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I grew up in similar circumstances, with physical, emotional, and sexual abuse and alcoholism. I hated my mother for a very long time, and my father died (of alcohol) while we were completely estranged due to unforgivable behaviors. I never felt bad about not having a relationship with my father, and never cried when he died. I actually enjoyed his funeral, because I was able to get together with all my siblings, like a family reunion.
I struggled more with my rage at my mother, though. I actually would have cut her out of my life entirely, were it not for the fact that I was unwilling to cut myself out of family holidays with my siblings. My mother has mellowed with age, and I have come to a place of acceptance. She really WAS very limited in her ability to act as a normal parent, and she still is. I have learned to expect absolutely NOTHING from her, and it has helped.
The thing I am thinking though, is that there must be some small part of you that remains unresolved. The reason I think this is that I never would have thought to post a thread about my parents, so far removed am I from the pain. It's almost as though that portion of my life happened to someone else.
Maybe you should consider seeking some professional assistance to gain some peace?
Maybe.
I've had two years of therapy. Never really touched that in particular. I got some surprise from a few therapists, and one that told me that it did indeed sound like my mother was a sociopath.
Yes, dad was in the picture - they've been married for 45 years. Dad wasn't home much, he worked a lot, mainly to satisfy my "mother" and her demands, and also I'm sure to avoid going home.
Unfortunately, my father doesn't come from long-lived stock, and my "mother" does. She's in her 60's and could pass for 40'