we all have something where we have our "system". be it how the laundry should be done, the dishwasher loaded, how to maintain a car, organize a dresser, fold clothes, wash/wax the car, how laundry should be done, germs/cleanliness, and yes - the kitchen. your bf happens to be double-banging 2 things into one thing - germs/cleanliness + kitchen. this in and of itself in isolation is not a problem. we ALL have our "quirks" as i'll call them.
where this is a problem is if:
1. the ocd/analness extends beyond the kitchen (or is jus the tip of the iceberg on things you will find out he's also ocd/anal on later)
2. whe nit comes to somethign that is YOUR domain he is not as willing to follow and respect YOUR system that he deamdns from you in HIS domain.
The last thing here is this: when it comes to somebody's domain.. let them have it. easy trade off. Okay. you have YOUR way in the kitchen and cleaning in the kitchen? great. you do all the cooking and dishes. fair is fair. Great benefit to you! how many gals would die for THAT arrangement with their partner? :)
So i guess "problem [URL=http://www.loveforum.net/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=3]#3[/URL] " is if it is THEIR domain and yet they still DEMAND that you work in their domain.. and only in their way. That's a no-no. If ou're going to be anal and want things a cetain way - no biggie - then yo uget to do it all yourself... don't ask for help :)