My Girlfriend Wants Sex Outside Relationship
Hi guys! Newbie here! It is nice to be able to discuss serious stuff here and it is even nicer of you to give me advice!
So, let's get started. I am a 27 year-old man in a serious relationship with a 23 year-old girl for the past 18 months. My girlfriend and I first met and went out about 7 years ago and never saw each other ever since until mid 2012, when we started dating seriously. We both work in the same field, she is graduated in Advertising and I am a Graphic Designer. About 10 months ago we decided to start our own advertising agency as business partners. The company is doing really well considering its life-time and this week we are moving to our new office, big step!
The problem is, things have started to become more and more complicated in the past few months. The fights have increased both in work and in our personal life. We started to mix things up and in the end the fights were so frequent that we couldn't stand each other anymore. We talked for a long time and decided to make a fresh start in 2014 with a better understanding of the work/date simultaneously life. Respecting more each other in both ways. During this whole process, sex has become just dull and repetitive.
Thing were working out ok (considering the mess it was before) and I thought we did it right. But a couple of days ago she started throwing the idea of having sex outside the relationship and how that could really help us getting back in track with our sexual desires for each other. At first I was ok with the idea, but as she insisted I became more and more anxious about it.
She says she loves me deeply and she wants to spend her life with me and has no doubts about it. However, she feels no attraction for me anymore according to herself and that there is no way out of this but to have a little break and sleep with other men if that's the case. She wants to feel fresh and free again and to restore her lost sexual desire by doing that. This wouldn't be a break-up. In the other hand, I would also be able to have sex with other women, but I am not sure I want this.
I don't know guys, I guess that would be fine if you are really open-minded but I just can't stand the thought of my girl being banged by some random dude after a club. I would never look at her the same way. I mean, ex-boyfriends are ok, but this??? It is just too painful to deal with. Besides, I think that would haunt us forever. What should I do? Should I open my self to this new opportunity that might actually work out or should I stick to my feelings and say I am not up to this even if it means the end of our relationship?
HELP! I am feeling horrible about it, rejected and replaced. Can't even sleep. Thanks in advance!