10 Year relationship - STILL have major trust issues - almost at breaking point...
I’ve been married to my wife about 8 years and been together for 10. We have 2 beautiful children and from the outside looking in a great life.
The problem with our relationship and its gotten much worse is her level of insecurity leads to a major lack of trust in me. I’ve been 100% faithful our entire relationship. She however did stray and had a relationship behind my back a few years ago which led to our separation, almost divorce and eventual reconciliation.
Some examples of her behavior:
If I am late getting home due to an accident or traffic, I have to actually find it on the news for her or she won’t believe me.
She constantly snoops on facebook asking 1,000 questions about this person or that person, so much that I eventually got off of facebook.
When I travel for work, which is very stressful for me I don’t like traveling, I spend most nights trying to convince her I’m not up to no good on the phone. So much that it boils over into a fight and makes the trip that much worse.
If I go out with friends she wants me to call and check in or send photos of where I am.
Now I am not the perfect husband, but I AM FAITHFUL! What kills me is that she was unfaithful at one time and I am the one who gets the blame apparently.
It’s driving me nuts I’m really ready to move on.
We have gone to counseling before, she would get so worked up in and after the session it was way too much to handle.
Anyone else deal with anything like this?