Personal dilemma..shes confused and now im confused.
Hi there, firstly Im totally new to this forum and might seem a lil bad that i just joined today and already am posting a long winded post. Im not the type of person who likes to totally confide with my best friends so i guess this is where this forum comes to play. I hope you guys/girls can help me out with this personal dilemma of mine.
im in my early 20s and got to know this girl early this year whom i gradually began to like. Its safe to say that ive never liked any other girl this much. She has a boyfriend though but apparently her friends tell me that her bf has cheated on her and that they're on the rocks so i knew what i was getting into from the start eventhough i didnt know that I would eventually actually really fall for this girl.
When i finally told this girl that i liked her she said she liked me too (she has been asking my friends about me, she told me), and now with this problem im facing, ive no idea if im misreading any signals but if a girl texts you everyday and gdnight every single night for a few months and gives you a bday present after knowing each other for not that long of a time, that has to mean something doesnt it? That day i told her i liked her, she said she had a bf and eventhough they have problems he still is her bf but they are on the rocks. Trouble with this girl is that she likes to sidesteps any conflict and she'll just go "nevermind, we'll talk bout it some other time". I didnt realize how much i actually liked this girl when 1 night she told me she went out with the bf and her mom for dinner and she sensed that something was wrong and asked me if i was ok. I didnt really respond and she kept on asking and asking and asking and saying I could tell her anything that i lost it and just said, I was jealous. And we had a discussion and finally i said that I would let her go and we'll just stop whatever that is we're doing..but she said she still is with her bf and she shes not the type to leave 1 guy for another guy but if its possible she wants to get to know me better but still sidesteps the whole bf issue...she tells me she doesnt know if she wants to ask me to wait for her cause she doesnt want to hurt me even more if it doesnt pan out.
That was like a few weeks ago and i dont really text her that much now and she has asked me if i was avoiding her which i said no. She asks me when we'll be going out again like yesterday and i said I dont know and well we're pretty much at that stage right now. Its been bugging me alot and shes constantly on my mind. Ive been given the cliche advice that if shes worth it, worth the wait, that i should just maintain whatever that we have and just try wooing her. On the other hand, this has been going on for well..not that long, but for quite some time and truthfully im hurting each day. 1 minute im ok and the next Im having what seems like a semi anxiety attack. My mom of all people said, once she got wind of me being all easily irritated and stuff cause in general im a happy laid back kinda guy..if she could do this to her bf, whats stopping her frm doing it to me in the future? At times i feel like i should end this before i get really really hurt again and something tells me this time itll be worse.. and at times I just want to maintain whatever we have cause she's a good thing in my life. My best friend upon knowing this situation of mine told me that I should just change my number so that she wont bother me anymore but damn that sounds drastic and Im already confused if i should or even could let her go or not. And apparently she confided in this girl who knows me and she said that she can't/doesnt want to let me go.
Shes confused and now Im confused...what would you guys do in my position or if anyone has been in this situation before? Appreciate any advice, thanks for your time people!
