Ladies, when a man is a:
gentleman
thoughtful
shows caring through acts: cooking for you, buying you little gifts, going out of our way to make sure you are comfortable: ie if we go to the beach I bring an umbrella and beach chair etc. etc.
I am not saying being a push over, just a nice person. What is the pitfalls in that? Do women who don't appreciate that from their man may have issues and instead prefer the challenge, the chase?
As a man, I spent time on working on becoming less selfish, more considerate, etc. etc. and in the last relationship (it is complicated still) I get the feeling being a nice guy got me second place to another man in her not so distant past....meaining, I am nicer to her, but didn't necessary win her over more.....