This board is reaching all new levels of inactivity

Seriously! What the heck is going on? It used to be that if I missed even a day here I'd be literally buried under new posts trying to catch back up. This time around, I had a pretty busy week last week and didn't get her much. Then I happened to have schedule a day off for yesterday. I already tend not to be on over the weekend.

So, the last time I was here was either probably either Wednesday of Thursday of last week. May have even been Tuesday. I forget. I come back today (Tuesday) to find a few responses in the two off topic boards I visit and one... LITERALLY ONE new response in the main forum. This after DAYS not being able to visit.

What the heck is going on? Seriously. For a LONG time I have resisted the urge to join any other forums. I liked this forum, and it always provided me a little bit of a mental break here and there when I needed it. That and I don't really have time to bounce around a bunch of different forums. So I tend to like to focus on just one, maybe two at a time.

But, I have to admit, I am strongly considering joining another forum. I've been VERY reluctant to do so because doing that MIGHT mean not having time for this one anymore. I have been here so long I really don't want to do that, but I'm starting to ponder if I may have no choice.

Anyway... blah blah blah. Whatever. Just felt the need to rant.

The threads still being out of order doesn't help and I assume the 18 character password is still in place and so NO NEW Members are joining( did the owner not realize that would Mainly deter real people who could have been potential members over deterring the 3-4 spammers we get? Spammers were not the issue, the fact no mods to delete the spam and spammers was the problem. Also, what happen to my account may have happened to others who have yet to log back in and also what happened to your account, neither should have happened and then you have all the regulars would reported, and made threads and tried to get owners attention to remove spammers who felt exhausted trying to help a forum that didn't appear to care about them at all. Just my thoughts on what you said and why I think. I don't know if the right word is symbiotic or not, but if there are no new members with problems to answer then there will be no old members logging in to answer them. Feeds off each other, one needs the other in sites like this.

Wonder if changing the websites name helped in less activity too? Why would the name be changed anyhow?

Looks like several logged in but never posted, not sure why you'd do that unless only using PMs.

Why'd we get a radio station but all real suggestions members asked to be fixed outside of avatars were ignored?

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Looking around the board and at various accounts are people logging in and being blocked from posting like you previously were? Seems odd the forum just goes dead all people except a handful cease posting but still log in?

Yeah, I am honestly baffled at some of the changes they have made in the recent past. They keep getting rid of helpful features. They keep making changes that make no sense and only make things worse. Like the default order of the threads suddenly changing to an order that doesn't make ANY sense at all. When have you EVER been to a message board where the default sort order is for the date when a thread first started, rather than the most recent post?

And the 18 character password?! Again... when have you EVER had ANY account that required such a complex password? My freaking bank account and credit card company don't require passwords even NEARLY that long. And why the name change? I seriously don't get that. Especially to such a weird name that could have an entirely different connotation than intended?

Don't get me wrong, after feeling like our complaints were being ignore for so long, it is nice to see them trying something to better the situation. But the measures they have tried make no sense. Especially when the solution COULD be so much simpler. We've even all suggested a solution ourselves, to appoint some moderators.

It is a shame, because I have always loved this forum. I don't WANT to have to leave. I've put up with a lot. But when nobody is participating anymore because they've all gotten fed up and left then there slowly becomes nothing to do here. If there's nothing to do here, then there's no point to keep coming.

My partner saw the site name in history on our shared computer at our home because I am erase history lazy haha and honestly thought I joined some hookup site LOLOLOLOL NO IDEA why...the website name was changed, so spammers cannot find it? Guess what new people looking for relationship advice forums won't find it now either.... Did someone did blocked who was creating LOTs of fake relationship problem accounts on here and that is why? I don't post in here regularly anymore because of lack of at least one moderator.

Yeah, that's actually a good point. New people just looking for love advice will probably Google things like "love forum," "love advice," etc. This forum probably still will come up in those search results.... but based on the new name they probably won't even give it a second glance. Especially with the other well know forum, the Love Shack also showing up in the results. This new name sounds more like a dating site at best, with other not so positive connotations also being possible.

I have to say, with this forum become so abandoned lately, I have given thought to joining the Love Shack. The thing is, to be perfectly honest.... I took one look and wasn't really a big fan of the format. Specifically there are just too many separate boards. I mean, I know here we have quite a few, but there are really just the few main ones. Including the main section for just general love advice.

At Love Shack there were so many different boards divided by different topics that I just found it confusing. Here, I mainly use the main forum to help people with advice and a couple of the more populated off-topic forums. I don't really have time to bounce around 800 different boards. LOL!

When that website closed a lot of its members flooded here and left when it came back up, not sure one of them outside of smackie9 stayed to help this smaller website out. Don't join enotalone my friend joined there a few years ago and she said she was shunned, women were hurtful and rude, vitcim blamed her, and it is over moderated where they ban readily unless old bitches who troll young women ( her words) and over the years lots came here who were treated badly or banned for no reason there. Why don't you yourself talk privately to the cyberadmin lol to add a family member as a mod here since he doesn't trust any of us for the job. All we need is 1.

Honestly, it seems too little too late. Hopefully I'm wrong and things pick up again. We have had periods of it being less active and then it picks up again.... but it has never been THIS bad. Plus, many of us have been saying for a while now that all we need is one or two moderators and things would be so much better. I'm pretty sure multiple people have even suggested as much direct to the admin.

But the 18 character passwords and the threads showing up in the wrong default order are what I think are killing this site slowly. Especially given the nature of this particular forum being one where A LOT of the content comes from new people stopping by temporarily just looking for advice. On other forums it might not be such a problem, but this is one that specifically relies on new people stopping by for a good amount of its content. It's a love advice forum. We need people stopping by looking for love advice.

Where'd Hoo go also?

Every time I log in I secretly hope the issues are fixed, and no, they are not!

Well, I bet I can tell you why a few regulars have not been back and it probably has to do with what I just had to deal with.

My password was past the 360 plus days and forum told me to update it, so I was just to add a number to my old one and NO< NOT GOOD ENOUGH.
Has to be 18 characters long, so begrudgingly make an18 character long p/w after thinking about what I want and then submit it and NO < NOT GOOD ENOUGH. Has to have at least 2 capitals and at least 2 numbers.

I spent 20 minutes dealing with this, what a waste of time and I can see how regulars and new people would just go **** it and not bother.

Hi all ~ Thank you, lovebroken. For PMing and caring/thinking/worrying about me. ((((hugs)))) I left because of all the spammers who had 10s of thousands posts & no one was removing them for a month. What are the site issues now?

I am back on this forum again after months. I thought this website was called http://www.loveforum.net/? I tried going there before but it was offline and i thought it was gone off the webs forever.

I'll thank people in Jester's absence. I hope you didn't abandon us OT'ers who still post? Some regulars don't post in other love sections anyhow because they felt most of the threads were created by a member trolling us, and the fact that that character change ahppened and all the new members stopped, makes me wonder.

TheEvilJester must've got fed up with the lack of new members and threads and took a break off here? I still post, I don't care, probably because I do not belong to any other forums. It has to be the password keeping new members away, what else can it be?

I had a lot going on and didn't have the time to come on. The last time I was on, everything was being taken over with some type of Asian language. When I decided to check back in, I couldn't remember the name of the site and was plugging all kinds if things into Google to find it.

I was able to find it under it's original name but, then had a hard time signing in. But, here I am and I am truly hoping EJ doesn't leave us. I have always loved his opinions and sensitivity. Also, as members, we have to chime in with our advice and opinions to the questions presented to us.

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I am seeing now what EJ was talking about. I am reading questions that were posted back in August with no answers.
I have come on here because I enjoy trying to help people. People won't ask for help and advice if none of us bothers to answer.

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I just read this HUGE post because I felt bad it had gotten no reviews and when I got to the end, ready to share my wisdom, it said the thread was closed! This poor girl came here looking for advice and got nothing!

Thanks to those of you who ARE still around. I haven't QUITE given up on this site. I have just been very busy the past few weeks. I'll admit, though. I'm basically hanging on by a thread right now. I'll put up with a lot and power through. I dealt with all the spam crap and stuff like that and stuck it out. I'll keep coming back because there will be people who want advice and I want to try to help them.

...But what I CAN'T tolerate is there suddenly being nothing to respond to anymore. If no new members are joining to ask for advice, then there are no new threads to respond to at all. It used to be where there'd be several new threads in the main forum each day and several responses to threads that had been ongoing.

Lately, I'll come back after missing A FEW DAYS in a row and there is maybe one response in the main board and no new threads at all. If there's next to nothing to do here then why bother to come back? I'm hoping if we stick it out for a while things will turn around, but I am starting to lose hope in this site.

WB, TheEvilJester. Decided to use this account too since a lot of members are not on -new and old posting. I'll rotate accounts until admin gets rid of it :)
Everyone knows it's me anyhow, LOL.

Still a ghost town with only a few long time ghosts appearing and no new spirits... Boo! Got a free day today and thought I say hi to the regulars and see how things are going around here...happy weekend to all.

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Still a ghost town with only a few long time ghosts appearing and no new spirits... Boo!

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Umm... excuse me. I'm a demon, thank you. :D LOL!

Kidding. (Or AM I? Mwuuhahahahahahah!!!!)

I made a 20 character password because the whole thing is annoying & really not convenient ~ why do regulars need this 20 character password? we are not bots or spammers.

i haven't had to change my password to the 18 characters on yet, hopefully, the forum or my browser can recall it for me, because i know i won't.

I pop in here once in awhile, I see it's pretty dead. I miss the chat box where everyone can chat in real time.

As for the complainer about LS. You are not using the site properly. Those sub forums are injected automatically, and it still takes you back to the dating forum. You don't have to go to the main forum menu every time. If you spend more time there you will see it's just more efficient than other sites. It's faster paced and a very active community. I get it change is hard and this site used to be so grand, but you are living in the past.....time to move on lol.

The sub-forums are created automatically? That is confusing and doesn't make sense. Maybe it makes sense once you are used to it. I dunno. So, is it easy enough that you can highlight which are the most frequently used ones? Like here we have the main love advice forum, the "Off Topic" board, and then some of the ones like the ones about movies and stuff that get frequent use.

Then there are the sub-forums (like as a woman, ask a man, etc.) that do get some use, but not as much. When I was looking at LoveShack there were SO many sub-forums it was confusing.

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The sub-forums are created automatically? That is confusing and doesn't make sense. Maybe it makes sense once you are used to it. I dunno. So, is it easy enough that you can highlight which are the most frequently used ones? Like here we have the main love advice forum, the "Off Topic" board, and then some of the ones like the ones about movies and stuff that get frequent use.

Then there are the sub-forums (like as a woman, ask a man, etc.) that do get some use, but not as much. When I was looking at LoveShack there were SO many sub-forums it was confusing.

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TheEvilJester this reply will show up in your email, hopefully you changed and opted for that on here. But, can you not log on at all? Do what my IT friend told me to do pick an online proxy from your country, maybe even area, or get as close as possible and try that to log in to here with, I did that. Otherwise, I was not able to log in with ip used here on any tablet, desktop or phone. It says the certificate is invalid but owner renewed certificate in Nov that is why the forum was still up, so how did that watch marketplace take over certificate? I sent admin message day I got warning was over a week ago and nothing has been fixed and no reply. I looked at every other online relationship website and ONLY this one is always messed up. To post in big threads it logs you out, so you have to hit quote and it gives you sign in data again and then takes you back to big thread and you can post.

He hasn't logged in since Nov 29th, lovebroken.

I've been gone for a while, but I won't be sticking around, in case that Kiwi headcase resurfaces and spams up the forums again. It's kind of a waste of time when you contact an ISP's 'abuse department' and nobody takes your complaints seriously...or they say they will only investigate the issue if you call their local police. Yet they obviously know you (the complainer) is an international caller, so it's hard getting them to take action.

Yeah, I was away for a while. I don't want to say why...but I know most people who have followed my prior posts will know why that is. But I did notice this troll was moving my Wikia pages while I was gone and trying to mess them up. He has taken up residence at the Acting Wiki, under the name of "Theweescottishlass". He frequently makes new accounts, edits or vandalizes pages I contribute to, then manually closes these accounts, or gets them banned, only to return with new ones. Sigh.

Honestly: Some people just don't have a life. He also subscribes to my YouTube profiles with hidden accounts and blocking someone doesn't stop them receiving notifications, but I know he has been active on people's videos where they have been mocking me for previously defending a Resident Evil fan called Nemesis, and he is posting under the name of James Slayer, referring to me as 'Toothbrush Boy' and a gimp. His profile seems to be otherwise empty. What a God damn weirdo nonetheless...

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TheEvilJester this reply will show up in your email, hopefully you changed and opted for that on here. But, can you not log on at all? Do what my IT friend told me to do pick an online proxy from your country, maybe even area, or get as close as possible and try that to log in to here with, I did that. Otherwise, I was not able to log in with ip used here on any tablet, desktop or phone. It says the certificate is invalid but owner renewed certificate in Nov that is why the forum was still up, so how did that watch marketplace take over certificate? I sent admin message day I got warning was over a week ago and nothing has been fixed and no reply. I looked at every other online relationship website and ONLY this one is always messed up. To post in big threads it logs you out, so you have to hit quote and it gives you sign in data again and then takes you back to big thread and you can post.

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I wasn't even able to access this site for a while. It is back now. Not sure what the Hell was going on, but it is typical of this site. During the time it was gone, I considered joining the LoveShack. I tried to sign up... but never got the verification e-mail you are supposed to get (and yes I checked my spam/junk folder). This after even a couple attempts. It finally arrived MUCH later.... but didn't work. A few e-mails to the admins (as SPECIFICALLY directed on the first time user instructions if having issues) and NOBODY responded. I finally eventually got it working myself.... but after that experience I am not sure if I have any intention of ever using that site anyway. Kind of soured me to the experience immediately.

Did you use an AOL email address? If so, I had a similar issue. Try using a different one, but avoid Google. It tracks you.

People are still using AOL these days? LOL! No. I use Yahoo Mail.

I noticed I was able to delete a lot of my AOL accounts, but there's a few I couldn't get into, as I lost the mobile numbers to get the verification codes. Oh dear!