So stop spewing forth your "knowledge" here and kindly wait for some males to post. One of the reasons men don't post in threads like this is because they are flooded by some PS-related vindictiveness, at worst, or simple ignorance at best. Men feel like their effort will go to waste if they bother to answer cause everything will be covered by a thick layer of shit resulting from said ignorance and self-hatred.
That said, yes I am a male, and yes the OP has rejected the guy which is why he will not reinitiate, and yes she should talk to him.
The "poor lady", I am afraid, does not need an answer. It seems she wants to hear what she thinks she already knows. Get some validation so she can feel "right"... Unless I am terribly mistaken, which happens ;-)
So, OP, talk to him, no "hinting", no bullshit, straight to the point. You will have your answer.
However, if that should be too much of a burden on your sense of "dignity", leave the poor guy in peace and never bother him again.