Actually, if anyone is a domineering prick, it's you. I come back to see how this thread is progressing, and I find that you tell people who are trying to help you and give THEIR INSIGHT that they just "don't understand." BULLSHIT! YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND! You're getting solid advice from people all around you, yet you continue to act like a child and claim that your situation is "special." You claim that their are "faults in our rationale" because you're too close to the god damn tree to see the forest. And now you're pissy assed because you came here wanting a specific answer- that you can just play detective, confront her, have her be honest, forgive her, and that it'll all work out. If that's what you want, by all means- go ahead. But don't treat people like they're of lesser intelligence than you are just because you're too thick headed to comprehend their words.
And I'd prefer this thread be closed because if you're not going to be open to suggestions and input, you're wasting this forum's time. And you're taking up unnecessary space.