Get It Outside? A Question for Women
My wife and I had been married a very long time, and she no longer was sweet and affectionate but indifferent or grumpy, nor did she desire sex with me although she would go through motions of intercourse. Nothing else would she do, just undress, get into bed, and then it was up to me to have sex with her. She liked it, it seemed, but not overmuch, there were no moans of delight nor any expressions of pleasure, no compliments, flatteries, or any such talk as tells a person the other loves the pleasure given. She hated to discuss sexual things, about feelings and sensations, about her experiences or my own. And late in our marriage, sometimes my wife, when I touched her, even cringed slightly, I could tell. Which told me she didn't desire sex but only was going through the motions. It's not that I pestered her either. It was once a week with no frills-- although to be sure I sometimes, every six months or a year or so, asked for something novel to break out of the routine. I would tell her I needed some little novelty, that a man needs a little change in order to function sexually. She either got huffy or indignant and sulked. These requests were not made in anger, just concern for our sex life. Well, time passed, things got no better. My wife seemed to love controlling my sex life with this routine.
One day we had one of our big tri-yearly arguments, and one thing I said was I told her that I needed more excitement in our sex. She refused. I asked, "What then do you want me to do?" And she said, "Get it outside."
I ask the women: If you were post-menopausal, didn't feel desire for your husband, didn't want sex with him, would you still feel he shouldn't have sex with some other woman?
