In a lose lose situation & need help ASAP!!!
*Disclaimer, I'm not the greatest person and explaining things in details without writing a 200 page essay, so please bare with me. I will try and give you as much information as possible, but if you need more please ask.
My girlfriend does not get along with my best friend or my best friends gf. In fact the heart of the problem is between the 2 girls they are on complete ends of the spectrum when it comes to personality. Now I don't really care if these two girls get along or not, but the problem is that my girlfriend thinks my best friends hates her just as much as his gf and vis versa. This has been going on since the very beginning of our 2 year relationship and is really about to explode as our feelings for each other grow and we have been discussing marriage and the rest of our lives together.
Its gotten to the point now where my gf has given up trying to be friends with either of them. She never wants to see them and has used some pretty harsh words to describe her feelings for them. The other girl could care less she speaks her mind and it doesn't really bother her. The problem I'm now put in a situation where I have to choose, either my gf or my best friend. I think it is extremely unfair for me to be put in this situation, but at the same time I do have to take a lot of the blame for this getting out of hand, because I probably should have addressed the situation early on in the relationship between each party. But instead I thought it would blow over in time and not be that big of a deal. Did I think these 2 girls would be bff? No way, but I thought that they would at least be adults and realize that its not about just them. I guess I was wrong.
So last night, me and my gf went out for a dinner date (which we don't get a lot of, because a financially we can go out that often and b she is an amazing single mother to an adorable 5 yr kid, who I love as well. So date nights are pretty special for us). Anyways, we then meet up with some of her friends to celebrate one of there BD. I have been swamped at work and was dead tired so I called it a night early, while she stayed out. I went to bed and around 2 am I get woken up to her yelling at me about how I haven't done anything to fix this problem. I was half asleep and honestly don't really know what was all said. The argument only lasted about 1 min, but it ended with her storming out of the room and me sleeping by myself. I think I was given an ultimatum, but I don't really know for sure.
This problem has blown way out of my control and I have no clue what to do. My gf has tried numerous times to be friends with these 2, but she has given up all hope and I don't know if I can convenience her to give them another change. On the other side my bf and his gf don't really know how bad its gotten. I'm the worst person when it comes to confrontation and I don't know how to approach the situation.
Any help would be SOOOOO appreciated.
Thank you.
p.s. part of the reason why she stormed out last night was because last week this girl deleted my gf from Facebook. When she asked me why she did this, I told her I had no clue. Later on in the week I found out why, and when my gf asked me again I said I hadn't talked to her about it. It might of came out last night that I knew why she deleted her from FB, and I pretty sure my gf was pissed because I lied. But in all fairness the reason why I with held that information was to avoid this very same problem from coming up, and to be all honest I think its jr high bs and pretty stupid. There both 25 yrs old, I mean come on, is it really that big of a deal if someone who you don't like in the first place deletes you from FB. O, and the reason for the deletion was because "They never talk, so it didn't seem like a big deal" I think that's a load crap as well. I would really like to tell both of these girls to grow up, but that would obviously not end well at all, and would not be a very good approach on my part.
