On a discussion in another forum it came to my attention that women who are overtly sexual in nature, and whose every action around men seems suggestive (at least to them) do not necessarily have strong libidos. They are not necessarily horny by nature and may not have a high sex drive by any means.
I think couples often discover a mismatch in libido well into the relationship. Certainly long after the first sexual encounter. That is an issue I would like for couples to be able to circumvent more at from the start (with my g/f I managed to get lucky and we are matched closely enough).
Short of just asking women randomly, (which I do) what reliable indicators are there of a high female libido? Given that physical movements and suggestivenessj/sexual nature don't necessarily correlate with high libidos, what are we males looking for here.
And furthermore, what are some tactful ways of approaching the issue. If a woman thinks you are not so interested in her since she has a low to moderate libido, that might seem a bit callous. But I do think it is important enough to a compatible relationship to find out early on. There is no point to having coffee with the wrong person.