Hey all.
A little less than a week ago my girlfriend broke up with me. When i got home that day (I'm in high school) I noticed that she was talking to her ex again. Now, her ex is an asshole, and has used her as a stepping stone before, but she claims that the mere IDEA for talking to him didn't come until after the breakup.
I believed this, thinking "Well.. maybe she just feels more comfortable talking to him about it all"
FYI... she told me the breakup was because of stress from the school musical (a very solid claim, until i noticed she was completely fine with the breakup. I mean 5 solid months without a single fight or anything wrong at all and she's okay with it? it was fishy)
Anyway, i found out that she had been talking to him since about 5 days before the breakup, therefore her claim about talking to him was a blatant lie. This can only lead me to believe that the breakup was because he is back in her life.
I think I've already ruined any chances of getting back with her, because i stupidly contacted her about it and didn't actually research what i should have done (ex: give her space and let her know i can live without her). Anyway, she has been saying things in her away messages things that are obviously directed towards him. Things like "i want to believe you love me, but i don't" and "i won't let you use me as your stepping stone, take it all or leave me alone".
So she obviously wants to be with him, but wants him to actually love her.
My question is: Even though i was sweet, romantic, exciting, attractive, and generous, she went back to this asshole that treats her like crap. What's going on? Is this because women (or at least high school girls) are simply attracted to a relationship that could go away at any second?
I mean.. if i had held the relationship on a string would she have been begging for me back? I just want to know what's going on here.
