Not sure how she feels/why she's now distant
I met a girl in my community college class. We started to talk to each other almost every day we were at college. She started conversations with me too, kept the conversationa alive as well.
After we talked all throughout the last day of class that week, I decided to ask her out as she was leaving. After pausing, she replied with "yeah, sure" in a surprised but happy way. She then gave me her phone number and was smiling and happy when I was saving it to my phone.
I called her late the next day (wanted to wait 3 days but wanted enough time to have a date before our next class) to organise a date. She seemed nervous on the phone. Unfortunately she wasn't free until after one more week of classes. This meant I would see her again before our date.
Although I knew asking her out would make things awkward regardless of her answer, I still wanted to talk to her like normal. I tried to during our recess break but she seemed distant and didn't keep conversation alive. For the rest of the day and the next she seemed odd. Even felt like she was avoiding me at times. Although friends kept saying she's probably nervous, I felt like something was up.
On the last day of classes for that week, there was a moment during lunch where we were alone. I kept talking to her from lunch to the end of the day. She was less distant but still wasn't as engaged in conversation. I noticed she had been working on class work all week during lunch and same again this day. I asked why and she said she was too busy and had to work during lunch etc. As we were leaving, I asked if we we still on for our date. She cancelled saying she was too busy and that if I wanted to do something, it would have to be at lunch at college.
From then on she was even more distant and never engaged in conversation, always one word answers to questions. I said to her one day that I wanted to do something at lunch as she suggested and she told me that she is just too busy. The distance continued after.
One day I sent a text asking when I could call her to talk about something (that something being the distance). She replied after a few days telling me to text not call. I texted her about the distance I was feeling after 3 days (the rule lol) and she replied after about 30mins to that text. She said I wasnt giving her any space and she was finding that "irritating". Honestly I was giving her more space than before I asked her out.
I then decided to give her plenty of space and not try to talk to her for a bit. Unfortunately we we had two group tasks together (teacher chose groups) and so we had to talk. I unintentionally used the tasks as an excuse to talk to her a bit but it never seemed to irritate her. As soon as the group tasks were over, she was her distant self again.
I gave her 8 weeks of space and its been a week since the last group task was completed. I want to ask her out again tomorrow as it's our last day of classes before a 3 week break. Almost did today as she was leaving but panicked and didn't. Need to find out how she feels tomorrow.
Needing some advice/encouragement. I'm battling depression (both related to this and other reasons) and have a basketball championship game to play tomorrow night and fear that Ill be a mental mess if she turns me down or I don't work up the courage to ask her out. Its really hard to time myself to leave the room when she does as well at the end of the day. She sometimes leaves early on Wednesdays too.
