well when we met the only problem she had was her depression, which I was able to deal with, and as time has passed there has been more and more health problems and there seems to be no end. Also, we got pregnat before we got married and I thought and felt I was doing the right thing even though I was scared to death, and never let her know it. I was trying to be the "tough guy", and now maybe I am just wore out. That is why I am so confused. I am ready to do the counseling, even for my self so I do under stand things better.