Ok, so.. I am a straight male and have had a long term friendship with a girl who happens to be gay. Her and I clicked from the beginning as friends, and we have many of the same traits as the other. We are both awkward, somewhat antisocial, and have a lot of the same views. We get along so well because we share many of the same traits and know we can hang out without any type of judgement or anything similar. We've always gotten along perfectly and have text/Snapchat/Facebook constantly for the past two years. She was always in a relationship with a girl throughout our whole friendship which provided me with no feelings or emotions towards her other than being one of my best friends and she has never been with a guy. One night we both had.. many.. drinks and we ended up sleeping together. I later asked her how she felt about it and said how great it was and I overheard her talking to friends saying the same. This is where the problem comes in.
I have never told her, but after I realized I do like her and have feelings for her. I have too much respect for her and her values on being gay to say anything different but ever since then she has been acting weird. Our conversations are now short with no substance.. and I can tell she is now trying to avoid me or distance herself from me. Something I have not experienced our whole friendship. I have tried talking to her about it and she just seems confused. She's going through a lot with the breakup, moving, and her own emotions.. and the last thing I want to do is give her more to think about and/or end our friendship by being weird about it. If there is anyone here that can help me understand what she's thinking or if I have done something wrong, please let me know. I like this girl a lot, but also understand that there is a good chance that she simply isn't into me because I'm a man or other factors and I don't want to ruin the closeness as friends that we have. I know there's a good chance that it was just a thing that happened in the heat of the moment and I would absolutely continue just being her best friend if she doesn't feel the same way I do. Do I back off and go back to being her friend? Do I wait it out and see what happens? Do I pursue her? I suppose I'm more interested in what is going through her head and what she is thinking..