This is more a sign of your desperation than her attractiveness. Remember, this entire time I'm asking you whats making this girl so attractive, what makes her special, all you're telling me is that you want her because she's attracted to you. So what? There are many women in this world who will be attracted to you, simply dumping all your feelings and emotions unto them will not help you get closer to them one bit. The very fact is that you saw someone who was attracted to you, and you thought to yourself: 'oh my god, someone likes me, I may never have this chance again, please please please.' All she did was spout some empty rhetoric. Understand that you're not attracted to her, you just really want a mate and the chemicals and survival/mating instinct in your body decided to lock unto her.Quote:
Originally Posted by BrOkEn_SoUl
You don't have really deep feelings. This is what I'm telling you. You don't know her. You haven't met her, you're not of similar age, you don't know whether she has any brains, what she is like socially, how you guys would interact... nothing. You simply don't know this girl. All you know is that some girl who was 17 years old said some stuff about marriage over AOL Instant Messenger. Thats all.Quote:
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This is where I need to explain the art of the scam, scam-artists do this, and people in the dating realm do too:Quote:
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Whenever you want to fool a person, remember that that person always subconsciously knows he/she is being fooled, the key to being succesful is making them want to believe it. If they really want to believe that that $30 tagless TJ Maxx jacket you have in your hand is genuine Versace, they will believe it, as long as you show the tiniest amount of credibility to allow them to latch on to.
In your situation, you just really wanted to believe that everything she said was real because you have Fear-Of-Loss, you're afraid that the second you say no its all over and you will never have this chance again. Bullshit. There's going to be lots of other women out there.
Confused is good, this means you're wondering what happened and now you're going to think about how to change things. Every guy has to get his heart broken once, it helps keep things in perspective. What this girl was thinking or wanted to do is not important, she's a random 17-year old in another state that you will never be in contact with ever again, block her e-mail and aim address and get it over with. What you need to focus on now is why you latch all your feelings on to a girl this quickly. The simple reason for that is desperation. Start looking around you, there's plenty of reasons to be happy, and there are plenty of traits you have that attract others to you, work on these traits, and get rid of that desperation.Quote:
Originally Posted by BrOkEn_SoUl