Hello,
I just registered today. I have some issues to work on before I get married in 2 months. I hope someone can help.
I have been with my fiance (sarah) for almost 3 years. She basically moved in after about 1 month of dating. probably a mistake on my part, but I was just getting out of a long term relationship and loved sarah's company. we were inseparable. for the first 6 months there were just about 0 issues. she was soooo easy going. then all of the sudden I wasnt ready quickly enough to go to the beach. I had to help a friend out with something for 30 minutes. she flipped and drove off and started calling me every 3 min to yell. i couldnt believe this. I am a very laid back person and dont like confrontation.
This was just the beginning. even though we have the same interests and have a lot of fun together we were getting into more and more arguments. then before I knew it she wanted to get engaged and basically (before a year) left me because i wasnt ready. i dont like to rush things. most of the arguments have to do with jealousy. jealousy of my ex, which is totally over, jealousy of my relationship with my parents and my friends. she doesnt even like me to say hello to females that I run into who I have known for 10-25 years. She always has a comment that I must have gone out with them. not true. so i stopped saying hello unless they came up to me. she does get over things quickly, but I dont give her any sh*t when she talks to males. she always runs into people she knows. she spends 3-4 hrs in the gym 5 days a week and knows a lot of people.
she is extremely jealous of my relationship with my parents. to a point where she tells me when we can go out to dinner with them and when i can talk and when i spoke too much. does this to a lesser amount with my friends. she also doesnt like when my office help calls me on the weekend if there is an issue at work. even for 2 min i get yelled at. she can talk to her family many many times and i dont care. its ridiculous.
right now she isnt talking to my parents. they had an argument about something small and now nobody is talking. I still talk to her mother even though i have had many issues with her controling everybody and her incredible OCD.
I have seen her do the same thing with her parents. they give more attention to her brother, but give her 2300 birthday gifts to make up for it. I have seen her yell at her parents in public about them giving too much attention to her brother. i can go on and on.
what should i do?
thanks.