Online dating He wants me to do something I am not comfortable with
Hello,
I met a guy online and I felt we connected intellectually and he was attractive. We were very open with each other about what we want and I felt comfortable with him on the first date. However, we share a few incompatibilities. He wants pre-marital sex but I don't. I'm not a virgin but I have a made a choice to be celibate. He thought it was absurd and attempted to negotiate with me about how many times to have sex. But what I do with my body is non-negotiable.
I told him we are incompatible on a few things and he told me no one is perfect and that I will not find a guy with my standards. He told me that if I don't end up finding someone, that I contact him in a few months.
I still disagree with him as I think I will be able to find someone up to my standards and I don't mind waiting until I find that person.
However, after a few days (we haven't contacted each other for almost 3 weeks), I am beginning to miss him. I felt a pretty solid connection with him, talked about things on the first date that most people wouldn't talk about (our future, marriage, etc). I just felt connected because we were so open with each other. When we disagreed, we went on a pretty passionate discussion and I kind of enjoyed it.
I have literally typed an "I miss you" message and then erased it before sending it for a few times because on one hand, I felt like I want to try to make this thing work (maybe he will change his mind) and on the other hand, I feel like this won't work out and I am just wasting my time.
What should I do? contact him or not contact him?
Is he right or is he a douchebag?
If a guy likes a girl, would he wait?