I discovered by accident that my husband has been watching smoking fetish videos on Youtube. He was really embarrassed when I asked him about it, but he did confess he has a smoking fetish. I had never heard about this fetish before and thought it was so weird, but I guess fetish are all weird in a way. It was hard to get it out of him, he was so ashamed. I felt bad for him, he look so sheepish! He compared his fetish for women smoking to a disease he can't get rid of. I don't think it is that big of a deal, I looked it up online and looks like it is not a rare fetish for men's. I told him I was glad he shared this with me, although I wish he would of shared this earlier instead of hiding it from me.
I'd like to be able to help him with this love/hate relation he has with this fetish. I read on other online forums how couples are using this fetish as a sexual fantasy to spice up their sex life. Our sex life could use some spice right now, it is not bad, but I sometimes feel guilty we don't make more efforts to make it "great". I think this might be an opportunity to get closer again and show that I care. My biggest problem is that I don't smoke and have no interest in it! He is the same, he wouldn't want me to smoke either. We are both very active and healthy conscious people.
Advice please!