Is it possible to get in a friend zone that involves kissing?
So, as per my other posts, I have been working on a relationship with this girl for the past month or so.
Over the past few weeks, we have gone out together ie to bars and clubs etc. At the end of each night we end up making out passionately, be it in an alley way, in my car, or out the front of her house, which usually escalates to a lot of touching and moaning etc, but she always hesitant for us to actually spend the night together, ie have sex.
Last night, after speaking to her on the phone and she said she was gonna have a quiet night in, I texted her inviting her over to mine to watch a movie. Instantly I regretted this, as I should have called rather than texting, as texting is submissive and suggests a lack of confidence, and also there was obviously sexual intentions behind it, which I would have rathered kept to our personal interactions rather than text conversations. Needless to say, about half an hour later she replied, saying that she was already in her pajamas and ready for bed (seemed like she needed half an hour to think of an excuse to blow me off).
Anyway I fell like as a result of sending this text will now have created an awkward tension between us. Admittedly, I have made it clear before this that I have sexual intentions, (and I would have thought her returned passionate making out and touching/feeling etc would suggest the same thing) but those other times it has been in person. I feel like doing this via text only lessens my value in her eyes, and that i may have screwed things up a bit by doing this (but I'd be keen to get some other perspective on this)
Despite all this, it feels like she has me wrapped around her little finger. I mean, she doesnt seem like the manipulative type, but I think I've been playing 'the nice guy' too much, and as a result she doesn't see me as anything more than a good kisser (if I may say so myself)
I'm going to b seeing her at a friends gig later today, and I'm thinking I might just pull her aside and say 'look, this has been great, and this is really hard for me, but I think we should just be friends' or something along those lines. Obviously I don't want it to be like that, but it just doesn't seem like we are going to progress past kissing, and that she's just stringing me along (she has expressed several times that she really likes me, but I think the problem is that she doesn't know what she wants) .
I will also note a few other things. I want to make it clear that I'm not just interested in having sex with her...it's not like that at all. I actually want her to be my girlfriend, and i fell like having is the next step toward that.
Oh and in case anyones thinking that maybe she's religious and doesnt believe in sex befor marriage etc. She's atheist, and I know for a fact that she has had sex with one of my friends before I met her.