My boyfriend has had MANY sexual partners, and I dont think I can get over it!
Hi All
I've been seeing a guy but we haven't had a sexual relationship, just good freinds at the moment but we were thinking of getting married as we are both religously committed now. The other day he told me that before he became religous he had slept with over 70 girls, most of which were one night stands and only a couple were within relationships and this really upset me. I find it hard to believe that someone I can actually like can behave in such a disgusting and pathetic manner. He said he was going through a rough patch about 5 years ago and was living with a freind who had encouraged him, apparently it was part of a competition - but that just makes me think what an idiot, to follow someone elses stupidity!! I doubt that he was using protection as said most of the time he was under the influence of drink and other intoxicants. I am a bit of a hypochondriac when it comes to germs and sti's etc and keep thinking will i catch something later?!!, even though he said he has been tested recently, can I really trust him? One of his ex's bf was a homosexual and he has had threesomes. When he first told me he thought it was funny and it seemed like he was bragging until I told him I was disgusted by it and then he kept saying how sorry he was and he would only have eyes for his wife etc. Also sometimes he is not a nice person, not the best bf I have ever had, but i do fancy him quite a bit and occasionally he is nice to me. The other issue is i told him to get rid off the other girls numbers from his phone and later found out they were still in contact as he is 'good' freinds with them. Some of his ex's still have his number and he said he wont change it. I havent yet slept with anyone as I believe in being in love first but I really don't think he deserves someone like me. He keeps saying he has changed but every so often he tells me a girl gave him her number or something like that. He has never pressurised me and says he wants to wait etc and isnt interested in sex just a cuddle etc - probably because he's damaged it or something! He says that other guys who are 'pure' have prob gone to prostitutes and will always wonder what it was like but he has got it out of his system. This kindve thinking really annoys me but im not sure if he is right...?
If it was a fair world he would only get someone who slept with equally the same amount of guys. It's not too late for me to get rid off him but im finding it hard to find someone who I have feelings for and click, with my background and religous beliefs to get married and at my age and then vice versa. My freinds say to RUN away (and not walk!!!) ASAP. What would you do?