Please be thinking the same as I am.........
Me and my friend starting dating off and on for about the last three months. Everything has been going real good up until last week. A few weeks before last week she invited me to her house to meet her friends and to meet her three kids. Here I am totally out of my comfort zone, but guess what we all had a great time!!! Me and her sit outside until the next morning talking about what we both wanted if we were to pursue a serious relationship. We both agreed everything so far was great. I would simply tell her how pretty and beautiful she was, and she to my surprise said it had been a very very long time since anyone has told her that and made her feel the way I made her feel.
Well the last week or so she has been dealing with a lot. Her two oldest sons have been arguing with each other terribly, than she had a close family member, her cousin died, stressed out at work she is a teacher and it is the end of the school year, plus her physical aches and pains from a accident five years ago. She invites me to her house to watch a movie, so it is me, her, and her youngest son. I could tell she was not feeling well so I left early. I get a text when I get home and she tells me she is sorry for not being fun to hang around with recently. My exact words were as do not worry about me as long as I am with you that is all I need, and I know you are going through a tough time right now. Than my heart explodes.....She tells me she needs some time to think, and that she is not sure if she is ready for a serious relationship, and she is not sure what she wants, she just needs some time to think and that we should just be friends right now.
I just say okay, but I do tell her I am hurt over it but if she needs time to think and just be friends for now than so be it. I will wait.
So what is she thinking? Everyday I check my phone constantly to see if she has texted, because everyday we would tell each other good morning and throughout the day text and now that is all gone. Her last relationship I think ended in December after three years. She walked in on her boyfriend having sex with another woman in there bed. I have fallen hard and fast for this woman and if she needs time to think, I am willing to wait. But in that waiting time your mind starts thinking of all kinds of stuff..she really doesnt want to be with me, she never really felt anything, I am ugly lol, etc.
I have not talked to her in a week now and it is miserable. Should I contact her, give her more time alone, what should I do. I am afraid if I contact her she will not reply or I will seem to clingy. Also, I have thought about reaching out to her best friend and ask her advice on what I should do. Should I do that?
