Do u think this relationship has even a slight chance?
I was in love with someone 6 years ago. We were engaged. But I fell ill (depression – was hospitalized) and he was pressurized (rather emotionally blackmailed) by his mother to leave me and marry someone else (arranged marriage). Six months within our breakup, he got married.
Meanwhile, of course I was heart broken but I eventually got over the sadness. I fell ill 3 times after that but gradually got well and have now been declared fit by my doctor.
I used to always think of him but consoled myself by thinking that he was enjoying his life while I cried for him.. so I’d better forget him.. and this logic worked sort of for me then.
2 years ago, I had written to him that I love him and he tried calling me from his new number. Not once but thrice. (bear in mind this was 3.5 years after his marriage.) Unfortunately, I missed his calls and realized only months later that it was his number. (By then, his number was out of service.) When I wrote to him asking abt it, he told me many things, one of which was “I wish u were a normal girl and never fallen ill (...) my life is like a long sacrifice”
We didn't communicate after that. It was just a friendly chat and after it ended, we didn't take it up again.
This Feb, he sent me a friend request and got me thinking abt him again . When I wrote to him that I’m still in love with him, he gave me painful silence. I forced him to tell me to move on and eventually he conceded and (unconvincingly) forcibly said that he doesn’t love me. He also refused to answer me when I asked him why he called me 2 years ago.
I then got obsessed abt him and engaged in a lot of one way communication (love messages) with him, which he religiously read (I was getting read receipts) but refused to reply or block me. In a way he was emotionally cheating on his wife so I stopped the messages after a week. (I forced him to block me by threatening him that I would write to his brother if he wouldn't block)
Now I am always thinking of him and from his hidden fb comments (which I discovered after quite a bit of searching), I realized that he regrets having left me because of societal pressure. (These were comments written in Jan this year, before we got connected in Feb)
I just don’t know how to get over him. I haven’t met a kinder soul and am deeply in love with him. Pls let me know what u think of my chances with this relationship and what my state of mind should be.
It’s been six years, why don’t I move on like everyone else?
PS: I did get into 1 short relationship after him, but that guy was big flirt because of which I broke up with him. I ended up remembering this other guy all the more.
