who is wrong in here?do you think it was an order? please help

Him:do you want to cancel tomorrow?
her:no I want to see you why cancel?
him:u might be tired.i'm coming there early and you're gonna be out late tonight.
her:no i'm just waiting on my aunt I wanted her to make this dish that I love so i'm just waiting for it to be ready then i'll leave after
him:who knows how long that would be
her:bAby just come pick me up in the morning
him:if I come I would be there at 8 i don't take orders
her:ok him:you need to learn to ask not give orders her:just come pick me up in the morning is not an order
him:not gonna do it unless you ask the right way
her:you want me to beg you for that?i can't lower myself like that.my car isn't working right now I don't have money at the moment,i already feel like sh**t cause I don't have a job you want to make it worse for me?if you don't want to do it its your choice
him:u getting mad at me because you're in a bad mood.not my fault ur car isnt working.i didnt appreciate the way u talked to me I let you know cause I feel it was necessary then what do u do,bark out another order.ask like u got some sense or keep ur tail in the house
her:you're right.thank you
him:whatever enjoy your week end.good night WHO DO YOU THINK IS WRONG?

Okay, my opinion, i think he is in the wrong. It is kind of stupid to fight over something so small. She weren't giving orders and to think that is plain harsh, she just wanted to see him. nothing wrong with that

let me tell you the worse. because this was posted here it led to a break up

Oh dear, I'm sorry to hear that

You asked for advice about him on a forum that he reads? Why would you do such a thing? I'm guessing you were trying to start a fight of some kind...

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Originally Posted by teeshaandamidah [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

let me tell you the worse. because this was posted here it led to a break up

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No it didn't. He didn't want to see you, and was manipulating you by making it think it was your fault he didn't want to come over. He was already thinking of breaking up with you...

EDIT: damn. Wakeup beat me.

As I said in your other thread. It appears He didn't want to come and see "her" so he manipulated an argument to make it look like "her" fault that he was'nt going to come. This is not about who's fault it is. This is about manipulation and 'him' not caring much in general about "her." Use the phone's voice function and drop the texting and both she and he will have a better chance of not misunderstanding each other and "She'll" be less likely to fall for his crap.

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EDIT: damn. Wakeup beat me.

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I deleted and re-posted (typos-sorry my old eyes can't see the post-submit type) so you beat me.. :).. (I think it was a tie :o)

He sounds overly sensitive and snappy. However the way he's talking make its sound that this is only one incident of many, which have clearly taken their toll. Maybe she does expect a lot? Maybe she's not appreciative of the things he does? Maybe this was the straw that broke thbe camels back?

OP i'm sorry to hear you're broken up, who ended it? And what reasons were given?

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

No it didn't. He didn't want to see you, and was manipulating you by making it think it was your fault he didn't want to come over. He was already thinking of breaking up with you...

EDIT: damn. Wakeup beat me.

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Exactly right.

He was finding an excuse to not come see you, and you conveniently phrased something that sounded vaguely like a directive rather than a request.

It's not your fault. He's a passive-aggressive douchebag that you're well shut of.