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If your mutual friends also think that he's just embarrassed and hurt, I'm pretty sure that it's the case.
No one is disputing that he is most likely embarrassed and hurt. The fact of how he handled this so poorly ~ he deserves to reap the consequences of his actions.
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Instead of texting him, why don't you just talk to him directly?! Better than nothing anyway.
If you want to talk to him about this, Op then I agree you should do it one-on-one.
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Wakeup, I don't think that is normal friendly behavior because I have male friends, and none of them would ever "get obsessed with my bed" or lay on it with me, never mind "with our feet touching".
Just the ones that weren’t attracted to you do you mean, or any of them? Doesn't matter what your male friends would and wouldn't do... just because they wouldn't, it doesn't mean that this guy wouldn't.
It also doesn't mean that just because he did what he did means that he wants her for more than what she wouldn't give him. That is all I'm saying. Encouraging Op to just talk to him without educating her on what she did that she could have done differently isn't my way of answering threads. I can see other explanations then "he obviously likes you." That's all.
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The events she described that happened that night are not what two male-female regular friends would do, IMO, unless they've known each other for a VERY long time and are completely comfortable with their friendship. Even without the whole "laying in bed together" thing, they didn't go to the party as friends - they went as a couple. Otherwise they could've just met there directly, right?
No, not necessarily. If they went as a couple, then why does this thread exist? If she knew she was his girlfriend then why is he avoiding her? It's ambiguous behavior at best that could be the he likes her for more than a friend which, as I've said before, still doesn't mean that he wants to be her boyfriend. He could simply want to have sex and then keep it no strings FWB? No one really knows and to say "obviously he likes you" means nothing because the fact that he was her platonic friend also means that he "likes/ed" her.
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Basically everything the OP has described tells me that he has been courting her for months, she just didn't see it.
Basically everything the OP has described tells me that he, at one point, wanted to have sex with her but she turned him down and then he fled the scene. It does not say that he courted her in any way other then as platonic friends.
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As for what he did that night, I personally think it's a fun and sweet idea, and I wouldn't mind if a good friend of mine whom I have been flirting with for a couple of months "surprised" me that way (assuming we were both single of course). It would be a pleasant surprise actually :-). Clearly she thought the same thing - she just couldn't realize why.
Clearly? Hardly or this thread wouldn't exist. What is clear as that you and I don't agree, and that's okay. I like to give an opening poster other perspectives. I could be totally off base (as could you) but it's anything but "clear."
As for what he did being "fun and a sweet idea." Well, I would think that too if we were actually established or he had been kissing me and working his way up to that particular event. At that point however, he hadn't even kissed her so at that point; it would be presumptuous and assuming of him in my opinion.
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Oh, OP, if he doesn't text you back, do what you should have done in the first place: talk to him in person.
Yes.. you should have talked to him the minute he tried that stunt and discussed your feelings and motivations with one another . . . and please, Op don't be getting into bed with a platonic friend who up to that point you haven't felt has been courting you or giving you the impression that he wanted to be your boyfriend in the romantic sense. Doing so just causes this kind of confusion and ambiguity more times than not.
Thanks for giving me the opportunity to give another slant to this thread, Sea. :)